30 year old man in a big age gap relationship

MALayhee700

Callistemon21

MALayhee700

Oldnproud

I'm curious, OP - what made you think of asking this question on Gransnet?

I was looking for another forum, I don't like Reddit or Quora

I don't blame you.

I know someone who was in a relationship with a woman 20 years older than him - it seemed to work ok until he was 40 and she was picking up her State Pension.
He looked ahead a few years and panicked.

I see I have some skeptics here, but I'm not here to prove anything, just to find a better outlet to communicate with others. Reddit is the worst site on the internet, I can't get anything useful from it and the trolls never cease.

It does suck for older women with younger men, older men aren't burdened with biology and pairing with younger women often isn't a problem for us.

I'm not saying I will follow the same path, I can only really live in the moment. I just know personally I can accept the consequences for dating someone older, because when someone reaches their 60s, it's going to be a relationship most younger people don't want to deal with.

Fair enough, OP. I apologise for doubting you.

However, a word of warning.
The fact that you are talking about children in the future suggests that if you committed to your girlfriend, you would be looking at a long-term relationship.

At the age you are now, fifteen years age difference :sounds a lot, but does not necessarily feel a lot when you are together. Unfortunately, that often reverses as you both get older, with it no longer sounding such a big age difference, but when one of you is their sixties and the other heading for eighty, the difference can feel enormous.
I'm sure this isn't true for all such couples, but it is very, very common.

Oldnproud

MALayhee700

Callistemon21

MALayhee700

Oldnproud

I'm curious, OP - what made you think of asking this question on Gransnet?

I was looking for another forum, I don't like Reddit or Quora

I don't blame you.

I know someone who was in a relationship with a woman 20 years older than him - it seemed to work ok until he was 40 and she was picking up her State Pension.
He looked ahead a few years and panicked.

I see I have some skeptics here, but I'm not here to prove anything, just to find a better outlet to communicate with others. Reddit is the worst site on the internet, I can't get anything useful from it and the trolls never cease.

It does suck for older women with younger men, older men aren't burdened with biology and pairing with younger women often isn't a problem for us.

I'm not saying I will follow the same path, I can only really live in the moment. I just know personally I can accept the consequences for dating someone older, because when someone reaches their 60s, it's going to be a relationship most younger people don't want to deal with.

Fair enough, OP. I apologise for doubting you.

However, a word of warning.
The fact that you are talking about children in the future suggests that if you committed to your girlfriend, you would be looking at a long-term relationship.

At the age you are now, fifteen years age difference :sounds a lot, but does not necessarily feel a lot when you are together. Unfortunately, that often reverses as you both get older, with it no longer sounding such a big age difference, but when one of you is their sixties and the other heading for eighty, the difference can feel enormous.
I'm sure this isn't true for all such couples, but it is very, very common.

I understand there will come a point where I need to make a life defining decision, because I know if I commit, she's going to be 60 when I'm 45. I know at 45 I will have enough energy to commit to a kid, but I can't be promised she will have the energy at 60. I might be enjoying the moment to a fault, but I'm sort of overlooking her age because we match on most categories.

We have the same interests in art, literature and traveling locations. We don't share all the same hobbies, but we have fun either way.

She hasn't gone too much into the kid details this early, she was just expressing she hasn't reached menopause and that she is looking for kids because she regrets not having them when she was younger.

Look you ve only known her 4 months stop stressing enjoy each other and see what happens

If my son met somebody who made him happy - then her age would be irrelevant - I'd be so pleased. Any problems caused by the age gap can be overcome, so enjoy your new relationship.

BlueBelle

Look you ve only known her 4 months stop stressing enjoy each other and see what happens

But don't string her along for years

Callistemon21

BlueBelle

Look you ve only known her 4 months stop stressing enjoy each other and see what happens

But don't string her along for years

You are right, I am going to let the relationship cook for 8 months to 12 months and make a decision at that point. I'm not dragging it out for 2 or 3 years and treating this like a long term hookup.

Charming!!

Hope she's on GN and reading this.
Run for the hills, if you are!

Oh dear.

Sounds like the OP plans on enjoying the sex for the next few months, then will be ready to move on to pastures new.

Oh fgs

#windup

Millie22

Oh fgs

#windup

I sincerely hope that it is for the woman’s sake

She may have dumped you long before. She has choices too.

I appreciate the comments, but it seems most people think I'm lying so I'm not going to engage anymore. It seems people are fixated on the sex part, even though it's a normal thing when you're dating.