Hi Been a while since I've posted but feel the need to share. I've known my friend for 20 years. She's very independent, good fun and although we've lost touch a few times have always reconnected. This time we stayed in touch and have been on hol together and had lots of chats, coffees, lunches etc. We've been constantly in touch now for about 6 years.
However, this year I've noticed her distancing herself. I had no idea why so after a few messages asking to meet up, but being batted off, I stopped asking. I still kept in touch but was confused and a bit hurt. Time has rolled on and I've seen her only maybe twice this year.
Today however she contacted me to say it was a lovely morning. I agreed. She then proceeded to list all the things she'd been doing, with who and where. I admit I was hurt so I asked - gently - why I'd been sidelined? What had I done?
I got a long message back saying she was 'freaked out' because I was 'copying her'. I had short hair (have had for years). I had the same hairdresser (have had for 3 years - shes great). I asked her to go to London to see a show (she only did that with another friend so was upset I'd asked). I did a DNA test (I did but only because after she told me about it I was curious to do my own as I have a half sister somewhere and thought I might find something). Oh and it was patronising when I liked the same music as her. She said she 'could go on'! I was gobsmacked. She's not perfect but I let her little glitches go as we are/were close friends. Nobody is perfect. I'm furious tbf. How dare she! I've told her we can't be friends anymore as I'd be double checking myself all the time to see if I'm 'copying' her.
Would welcome any thoughts. It feels very weird right now to think someone thinks that about me. We're not 6 anymore!!
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