Dating at 70?

This is terribly sad for her poor husband, it’s as if everything he’s put into his marriage, to their family and life together has been trashed, even just by talking so disloyally about the him to a friend. And this, before she makes a decision either way. If he is a decent guy, he won’t last long on his own I bet, that’s if he can trust again.

The first piece of advice I would give your friend is to 'live with herself' for at least two years before shopping around. Her children will be shocked but its her turn now, she's done her bit for the family & she might be surprised how supportive they may be. But they won't be happy if she choses a 'not as nice' as Dad man!! Please advise your friend to go it alone however scarey it will be. Join groups of interest, ceroc/Jive/ballroom classes, yoga/walking groups to get her out the house. Be careful of scammers meeting mature ladies. Good luck to your friend.

Georgesgran

I laughed at an expression last week (at the chiropodist) when a lady said she had no intention of dating now, as she didn’t want to be a nurse or a purse at her age!

Georgesgran love this phrase ..neither a nurse or a purse

Damdee

Before your friend starts to file for divorce, has she considered the financial impact as well as all the emotional ones?

She may have her own finances for all we know. I never think finances should stop a woman leaving, no matter what. This is the problem with a lot of women, they stay for the lifestyle they may be used to, what's the point of staying if not happy. If someone has enough to rent somewhere else everything else can be manageable.

Megslotts

Damdee

Before your friend starts to file for divorce, has she considered the financial impact as well as all the emotional ones?

She may have her own finances for all we know. I never think finances should stop a woman leaving, no matter what. This is the problem with a lot of women, they stay for the lifestyle they may be used to, what's the point of staying if not happy. If someone has enough to rent somewhere else everything else can be manageable.

It shouldn’t stop her leaving but she has to have enough cash for a few months because if husband digs his heels in living may be very difficult. So getting finances prepared for a split up should be a priority, unless violence forces a separation.

Cash for more than a few months will be needed. If husband is awkward the divorce can be very protracted (as mine was).

I met my late, lovely second husband on a dating site in 2020, I was 69 and recently divorced.
You never know who you might ‘meet’ , I have rejoined the dating site and have been lucky enough to have met someone new. It is early days but we complement each other and he is besotted with me. He is 7 years younger than me, I have suggested that he might be better off with someone younger and fitter but he says he is very happy with me.
You are never too old to find happiness.

pce612

I met my late, lovely second husband on a dating site in 2020, I was 69 and recently divorced.
You never know who you might ‘meet’ , I have rejoined the dating site and have been lucky enough to have met someone new. It is early days but we complement each other and he is besotted with me. He is 7 years younger than me, I have suggested that he might be better off with someone younger and fitter but he says he is very happy with me.
You are never too old to find happiness.

Well that's the key really..if you are happy with someone why would you look elsewhere..

undines

GSM I assure you I am being totally honest - why would I not be? I don't want to go into tasteless anatomical details but I can tell you things are in some ways better than in my 20s. Not everyone is the same and sometimes if you expect to be old, then you will be old. 'Realism' is about connecting with your own body, your own spirit, as it is, not what the general assumption may be. Glad to hear I'm not the only one Katie59! (And I'm Undines, which means Water Spirits, although it sometimes gets written as 'undies', which could be appropriate, given the thread! :-)) )

I recorded a film called The Railway Station Man last week and watched it yesterday. Stars Julie Christie as a widowed mother of a grown up son living in rural Ireland.

She meets an American man of a similar age (Donald Sutherland) after being on her own for many years.

They certainly enjoy a relationship in later years. Try and get it on catch up. You would enjoy it! 😉

Being there done that and got the T-shirt lol I’m nearly 60 and haven’t dated in the last 5yrs met him on line we had a 5yr relationship and we split because a workmate on a dating site spotted him he was still doing online dating. Don’t get me wrong met lots of different guys online some only looking for one night sex and a hell of lot of married men who have a wife that doesn’t understand them lol. How can you bunny hop from one relationship to another without the bed getting cold you got to find yourself first first before you start a new relationship instead of taking your baggage with you

Your friend needs to sort out the division of finances first before getting swept up in the perceived excitement of dating.

Dating late in life is very hard work. Some men lie about their ages in their hunt for a Nurse with a Purse. The so called 'cougar' woman seeking a younger partner is often socially frowned upon by existing family and friends, and often ends in an abrupt ending. Unless she has a very financially comfortable marriage, the division of assets normally means both parties have to accept a fall on living standards at at 70 her husband might be snapped up before she is. Grown up children will also have a view on new partners intentions if she is lucky enough to find one.
It will be an eye opener . Has she tried couples counselling before making her big announcement?

Poor husband he been good enough for 50 years now she wants to try someone new
What a moo