Adult grandkids

The oldest is 17 and I will probably always give birthday gifts to all of my grandchildren. It's fun to think of things they might like. As they get older, it's probably money.

My granddaughter has just turned seventeen and I gave her money for the first time, it's always been presents which I took great pleasure in over the years. I think she appreciates money now so she can buy things for herself.

As long as I can afford it I shall continue. My eldest is approaching 22 and the youngest not yet a teenager, I would far sooner treat them now than leave the money in my will and miss the joy in what they spend it on or their pride in saving for bigger things.

Three of mine are now working though one is on a gap year part time job. They have only wanted money for a few years now. I have stopped giving birthday presents to the oldest who is 24. I don’t really have a relationship with him. His brother will be 20 next birthday. They don’t need money and we are not close enough for me to know what gift would be appreciated.

I have GC in their mid 30s. I long since stopped giving them presents they get cards but once they reach 18 I stopped. Now I’m buying presents for my GGC!

Yes of course, they don’t stop being my grandkids just because they get older and earn more than me 🤣
My children still get birthday presents you don’t put an age restriction on close relative I don’t understand why you would think like that ?
Mine go from 18 to26 and will get gifts ( mostly money now) until the day I die
I ve not got that much money but i could never not celebrate their birthdays ever
I thought everyone did it like that

I will always give my grandchildren presents, birthdays and christmas, graduations, weddings, any opportunity.

I won't stop giving my GCs presents just because they are adults. I still give gifts to my ACs in their fifties.

I will always give my grandchildren and great grandchildren gifts as long as I’m able.
My mum still gave gifts to her GGS even though she was 92 and he’s 21.

Yes our eldest GD is nearly 26 and we always give her a small gift and some money, her siblings are 15 and 14 and they always ask for money when we ask them what they want for their birthdays. We also give the two younger GC pocket money each month.

Yes, always. Mine range from 4 to nearly 27! All 9 of them. Money for the older ones.

Even if you have never been thanked for money / gifts unless you happen to see them on the actual day and even if they never get in touch or have any meaningful sort of relationship with you?

Why would anyone stop giving money for AC or AGC ? The older I get, the more I give. One of my d.I.ls will soon be 40 and I have just transferred quite a decent sum to her account. I have set up a S/O for pocket money for each of my GC. I don’t have many demands on my money, so I’d rather they have it now than after I’ve gone.

Btw I have 6 GC

My oldest is 24, my youngest is five.
Birthdays the two oldest get money, but Christmas I always supplement that with some little gifts.
I love them all, and like to treat them all year round.

My eldest granddaughter has a birthday this weekend, I'm sending her an Air BnB voucher via email, as she loves travelling. I think she's 25

Our only grandchild is 9, however my parents continued to give our children birthday and Christmas gifts til they died!

I give money and say to spend it on something frivolous.

I never had a birthday card or present from my only surviving grandparent, and only one Christmas present which was totally age-inappropriate (a toddler-type book when I was 9!) To be fair, she was what was considered quite elderly way back when I was born (she was 75 and already had 8 granchildren) so it didn't really impact me greatly as I knew no different. But I am determined to mark my GC's birthdays as long as I am able so that they know I am thinking of each of them on their special day. What I do will change over the years, obviously. My oldest GC is now 12 and youngest is 16 months. It will be interesting for me to learn what other GPs do for older GC.

Askalice - that’s sad….. growing up, I always had a new outfit for my birthday and a tea-party. But frankly, I can only remember one grandparent and we called her ‘blind Nana’ , for obvious reasons. I don’t think she was very involved with our bdays etc. She couldn’t.

crazyH, my Mum and Dad always made an effort for my birthday and those of my siblings, even though money was very tight at times! I had family birthday teas, cards and small presents from parents and my brothers (obviously courtesy of Mum and Dad!) and Mum was very good at baking so a home-made birthday cake was a highlight! I don't remember ever having a party with friends but then none of my friends at school had them either so I didn't feel hard done by! Just the way it was, and we always felt loved and secure so that was more important, I think.

I really didn't have a particularly close relationship with my GM, but as I said I hadn't ever known any different so it didn't make me feel sad at the time or even now, to be honest. What you don't have, you don't miss!

AskAlice - I’m so pleased that you had a great childhood. Love is the most important ingredient for a happy childhood. In the little enclave I grew up in, a new bday dress and a tea party was the norm. No big birthday presents like the kids have now.

Yes, Birthday and Easter, Christmas money.

Money when appropriate as adults (as their mums received).

My eldest grandchild is 35 and I still send her money for birthdays and Christmas. Also little gifts for Easter and anniversaries. I like to give them all a treat if I can as I don't see them often. We all keep in touch daily with WhatsApp etc.