Adult grandkids

BlueBelle you and me both! I can’t imagine not giving them all something, if funds become depleted it may only be a token but it will still be given with love!

Once our teenage grandchildren begin full time work they will switch from the child birthday budget to the lower adult budget and be treated the same as their parents. All adults in our family have just a (small) token Christmas gift at the request of our daughter in law. The same will happen for the grandchildren once they are fully in the world of work. There will of course be cards and we’ll make sure there is regular contact. We’ll still contribute according to our means for ad hoc life events, whether that be a big car bill or a need for suitable clothes for a workplace. We’re trying to be fair to everyone. Sadly our parents didn’t live long enough to have adult grandchildren so no tradition to follow.

Our GC are still young, so of course we buy presents, but we have stopped giving gifts or money to our AC. We never know what they want and what is the point in giving money? They are both well off and don't need monetary gifts from us. We always send cards and have a chat on the phone.

I've always given a gift( money or a present) to my son and daughter and their partners and the grandchildren whatever their age.
Christmas and birthdays. Eggs for the children for Easter
All the children have a set amount and the mums buy the presents, they know what the children like I don't. Works well for me the children receive something they want.
The adults always tell me what they bought with the money.

I give money but I want to know should I give a substantial amount or save money for my care in the future

chimes22

I give money but I want to know should I give a substantial amount or save money for my care in the future

Only give what you feel you can afford ....don't leave yourself short ...very often adult children have more money than the grand parent ....2 of my DC do ...my mum still gives them gifts but I would not want her to go short ...but the DC are very generous with my mum

I think I will do as I did for my siblings and nephews and nieces: give them presents until they have children, and then buy for those instead. I have one childfree brother who still gets a token gift at almost 70, much to his amusement.

I have the reverse policy to many. My 7 GC range from 15 to 25. From 15 to 20 I give them money. Over 20 money seems wrong somehow and I give them presents - often household-y things since they're emerging from the student cast-off unmatching plates and fraying bathmats and wanting things for their flat shares.
And usu something bigger for their birthdays and a nice mug and a book for Christmas since 7 come expensive at Christmas.