Knowing who your friends are.

Precious little Pascal.
We were friends since primary school.

silverlining48

Precious little Pascal.
We were friends since primary school.

Terribly sorry to hear this.

silverlining48

Precious little Pascal.
We were friends since primary school.

I sincerely hope you did have some supportive friends around. What a traumatic time you've had...

Yes it was a terrible shock, especially as both were diagnosed the same week.
Thankfully I have other friends, some quite recent, who were all very kind.
Thanks Pascal and Jasper.

It’s only when you need them you find out who are fair weather friends. The people that say, ring if you need anything, but don't mean it, you are no longer useful in a lot of cases. My one group of friends whom I've had fifteen years, disappeared when I couldn't do the activities I used to due to being older and with a health issue, whats app went silent. Somehow I knew it would happen as I saw how they spread themselves about with a new person and went low contact for a while. I am lucky having three good friends still, I don't see them often enough as all have husbands and demanding grandchildren which I don't.

See my post about friend of 30 years who is moving a way without a word.

I have a friendship with a friend , which began at least thirty years ago .
I know every member of her immediate and extended families .
They are always extremely nice to me and invite me to all family occasions .
It means a great deal to me .
But over the last couple of years my old friend has occasionally been offhand , dismissive and cool with me .
It's been painful and confusing .
I avoid confrontation , but I have asked her if I've done anything to offend her .
Last week , we went out all day and enjoyed ourselves .
This week , I've seen her and shown her how to sew something .
But I realised that she has told me a blatant lie and it doesn't sit well with me .
I realise that she has had a new friend over the last couple of years and prefers to confide in her .
She's more her kind of person -I guess .
I think that we tend to compartmentalise friends .
One friend is great company for going to the cinema or gardening or clothes shopping ..

It just doesn't occur to me to be dishonest .

Biglouis I was brought up in Liverpool and never heard that one

Gwyllt

Biglouis I was brought up in Liverpool and never heard that one

because it's just plain horrible.