Should I start messaging instead of phoning?

Crossstitchfan

Omaju

My daughter facetimes us on a Sunday evening, we see her and hear her, our SIL and our chillibeans.
If you need to hear your ACs voices, tell them. Explain that you know it's generational thing but you need it and would appreciate them taking the time for a 15 minute conversation once a week... if my daughter and SIL can facetime us and his parents once a week for up to an hour for each facetime call, then I'm sure most adult children can spare 15 minutes. I know they are very busy, our daughter is a Doctor of Philosophy and lectures at Oxford university and our SIL is quite high up in an auditing firm and often works evenings and weekends but they still find time for us and his parents.

And the relevance of your daughter being a ‘doctor of philosophy and lecturing at Oxford university’, and your SIL being ‘quite high up in an auditing firm’ is?? You could have just said your daughter is a lecturer and your SIL works evenings and weekends.
Oh hang on, it’s called boasting!

😂 Not much more I can add to that.

Watching on iPlayer is nothing like as good as watching on a tv screen. Also, you’re missing the point, which is, why are paying all this money to watch sport that many of us don’t even want.
And don’t get me started on the constant repeats, and the repeats of the repeats.
If they took Sport and all the repeats away, what would we be left with?
I sometimes think we are seen to be idiots!

I lost my son when he was 25 in 2009. I would give everything I own to hear his voice just one more time. Remember that when you say "oh its easier", oh its less time consuming" and oh, it a generation thing. Everyone, children and parents/grandparents should be able to spare 5 mins a week to speak to each other - to hear a loved one's voice beats any text or message. I don't care how busy you say you are!

Most of my conversations with my children.and family are messaging on WhatsApp. Rarely we actually talk to eachother.
One lives on Scotland and the other one Leeds.
I'm sure if anything important turned up they'd call. Otherwise I let them get on with it.
Although it was nice when my grand daughter actually face times.me to let me know she'll be a mum in November. That was nice. Better than a text!

I think WhatsApp and the like are very destructive to relationships. Great for short practical messages, sending photos etc but for anything with any personal contact, make a cuppa tea, sit down, think about the person before you call and then call and chat, make an appointment if they are very busy. And probably don't have the video on! We are not designedto talk like that!
OP, tell your daughter! And tell her to look up research if she goes on about how it's 'the modern way'. Ask her what she does with the time she saves by messaging rather than talking to you.

I live alone like many others, this week because I have not been well, haven't seen anyone, a text doesn't do it, listening to someone's voice makes such a difference. Keeping quiet why not send the odd text message as long as you still speak to your daughter each week. I wish Whats App had never been invented.