Paternity leave to be financed

On one word 'No' DH most certainly did not have any time off work when our 3 children were born . I was lucky I had a lovely Mum!

Mr. S. took a weeks holiday after both our sons were born.

Yes, mine did, too. He was always an engaged father, right from the start.

Having my husband at home with a new-born would have been a complete nightmare, he was besotted with his babies to the point of deliberately (I'm sure) waking them up so that he could 'play' with them. Even when they were too tiny to really respond.
Helping with chores wouldn't have entered his head.

I had two c sections. I was quite ill after the first and when the second came along I also had a toddler to look after. I don’t know how I would have coped if my husband hadn’t been there. I fully support paid paternity leave.

I had my “babies” with this husband in 1997, 2000 & 2002, he took a week off paid with each of them, was very hands on from day one and frankly was appreciated, 3 under 5 and a young teenager in the house plus two dogs and I worked, yes I needed and appreciated him especially as baby number 3 required me to stay in hospital for several days (me not him, though he stayed with me) My parents both worked and I have no siblings

No . DH had no time off .I didn't get family allowance either (only child )until she was about 14.

Yes, my husband has always been engaged with our children.

So yes I absolutely support paid Paternity Leave and paid bereavement leave.

Btw, rights already exist for parental leave and, unless I’m mistaken, the new reforms allow parental leave, unpaid, from day one in employment.

How fortunate those of you that had a husband who helped! My DH never changed a single nappy or bathed them although in other ways he was and still is a great dad. He is one of nine children so perhaps to him having a new baby was easy! Thank goodness for my lovely mum.

Here is the actual legislation link and paid paternity leave isn’t new, it’s been around since 2003, unpaid leave prior to this was also a “right” to unpaid leave of up to two weeks.

Not really sure why OP considers this “beyond ridiculous” in her her husband’s case, but many of us have very hands on husbands.

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Link

www.gov.uk/government/news/stronger-parental-leave-rights-to-give-millions-of-working-families-the-security-they-deserve

Bazza

How fortunate those of you that had a husband who helped! My DH never changed a single nappy or bathed them although in other ways he was and still is a great dad. He is one of nine children so perhaps to him having a new baby was easy! Thank goodness for my lovely mum.

Without wishing to sound rude, I’m not, I’m just curious. Did you ever ask your husband to help, bathe, feed or change nappies? What happened if you wanted to go out and see a friend or a film in your own without husband?

Paternity leave has been about for quite a while now it’s only the rules that are changing.
I certainly don’t see it as beyond ridiculous not everyone has a mother there ready and willing to help (most are probably still working themselves) My husband was a bit different he didn’t need to ask for leave as he was a Company Director and could easily fit in more time at home. My mum was also easily able to move in for a week to sort out all the household stuff.
Especially if you have had a C section you are going to need help
Things change when I was born my mum was in the Maternity home for 2 weeks! Nowadays you can be out of hospital within hours.

Also in 67, possibly a generational thing? All my cousins and friends had “hands on” husband/partners with both children and housework.

So sorry that should read, I’m 67, not in 67!

My two were born second half of the 70 s. We only had 2 weeks annual work leave in those days and my dh saved all of his annual leave both times and took it when I came home from hospital.
With most people today having up to 6 weeks leave I don’t understand why 3 or 4 can’t be saved for the weeks after a baby is born. I believe there already is a paid two weeks paternal leave.
Yes we couldnt have a holiday those years but didn’t really have the money to go away anyway.

Cossy Not really sure why OP considers this “beyond ridiculous” in her her husband’s case, but many of us have very hands on husbands.

Rules are changing, I support the leave provisions.

silverlining48

My two were born second half of the 70 s. We only had 2 weeks annual work leave in those days and my dh saved all of his annual leave both times and took it when I came home from hospital.
With most people today having up to 6 weeks leave I don’t understand why 3 or 4 can’t be saved for the weeks after a baby is born. I believe there already is a paid two weeks paternal leave.
Yes we couldnt have a holiday those years but didn’t really have the money to go away anyway.

Aw, what a lovely husband/Dad

Norah

Cossy Not really sure why OP considers this “beyond ridiculous” in her her husband’s case, but many of us have very hands on husbands.

Rules are changing, I support the leave provisions.

Yes, I’m aware of this, but the rules are only changing in terms of being able able to claim paid paternity leave from day one, paid paternity leave has been in place for several years.

Bazza as paid paternity leave has been around already for years and prior to that unpaid paternity leave existed, I’m sure this won’t have too much of an impact on small businesss. People said the same when paid maternity leave was introduced.

Cossy

Norah

Cossy Not really sure why OP considers this “beyond ridiculous” in her her husband’s case, but many of us have very hands on husbands.

Rules are changing, I support the leave provisions.

Yes, I’m aware of this, but the rules are only changing in terms of being able able to claim paid paternity leave from day one, paid paternity leave has been in place for several years.

It's well past time for paid paternity leave from day one.

I had my children in 1979 & 1984. I was in hospital 10 days with my first and 5 days with my second and that was the norm then. My mum then came to stay for a week each time. My DH has always been a good dad but not very hands on in the early days and he took no time off work it wasn’t allowed then unless you took holiday. However he has been a very hands on Grandad since retiring. Things are very different now. Personally I don’t support paternity leave unless there are special circumstances. Guess I’m just old school.