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As an agnostic

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Cindersdad Tue 25-Dec-18 07:20:26

Like many I'm not sure if there is a God or not and find it impossible to have a faith as such. However I do take not of the words from the Pope and other faith leaders. The Pope's recent words on scaling back materialism make a lot of sense, thw world's resources should be used more wisely and shared more fairly.

Cultures need to be respected which is why I cannot comprehend extremism in any faith. Currently Islam extremism is doing unbelievable harm though in the past other religions have shown contempt for humanity by asserting their own exclusive monopolies to the truth.

This morning it was heartening to see the New Bishop of London in St. Paul's Cathedral and even more heartening to learn that her compassion and faith stemmed from a previous career in nursing. This got me thinking that preachers are generally better if they have worked outside the church before becoming part of it.

If there is a God then God will judge us as individuals not by our belief in God but by the way we treat our fellow man, living creatures and the planet. Politicians would do well to remember that

Jalima1108 Wed 02-Jan-19 17:46:45

^or not up to date with the blood service services.
Receiving texts re where your donation goes is not a very new idea but one starred about 3 years ago. ^
Out of date Gabriella
It is more than three years since DD worked for the service.
DH was told that, being over 70, his blood was no longer required.
I am not suitable.

Anniebach Wed 02-Jan-19 17:58:47

Yes Alexa and we have freedom of choice .

That was a sampler in the family Manse, stitched by my great grandmother , it was beautiful.

GabriellaG54 Wed 02-Jan-19 17:59:48

Jalima1108

Rules changed 9 years ago.
2009 was the year when the donation ceiling went from 65 to 70 due to the NHS determining that people, in general, were becoming healthier and living longer.

Jalima1108 Wed 02-Jan-19 22:53:20

Rules changed 9 years ago.
That explains it GG!

Vickixx Thu 03-Jan-19 01:03:00

Up far too late but making the most of days away from work & now DH is watching a movie. This thread caught my attention as it changed to talking about gathering elsewhere to worship and is the expense of some of the most wonderful church buildings and cathedrals worth it. My answer is they are absolutely worth it. Many of those magnificent buildings are part of our heritage and they are there for a purpose. I was a regular church attendee in my 30s & 40s. Our minister died and we moved House. I have never found another church I felt like attending so I stopped going. I did venture to a local well healed church in my area only to find it was being used like a glorified social club. I was made to feel welcome but the whole atmosphere lacked reverence and I knew by the tone of the sermon it was all about the tea and cakes after the service and all the socials about to happen. I’m far from a prude,nor am I holier than thou, far from it, but I feel churches should be held in reverence when we enter the building and the chatter and hilarity should cease until we leave. Perhaps one day!

Elegran Thu 03-Jan-19 09:43:46

Do you think that Christ would agree with you, Vicky? The Christ who fraternised with publicans and sinners and turned water into wine when the booze ran out at a wedding he was at? All those lonely people who go nowhere except to church on Sunday, should they sit in silence and not join their friends in a cuppa and a chat afterwards? Should no-one enjoy their visit to God's house? "Rejoice and be exceeding glad, for great is your reward in heaven!"

(I am not sure I will get any reward in heaven, as I can't claim a lot of true belief, but I don't think that God (if he exists) expects us always to be solemn in his presence.

Luckygirl Thu 03-Jan-19 09:46:05

I have no problem with the tea and cakes; I just struggle with the investments and the vestments!

Anniebach Thu 03-Jan-19 10:34:50

A parish church here as got it right, in my opinion, services which are very ‘book of common prayer ‘ and family services where there is laughter and guitar playing followed by coffee and biscuits.

Vickixx Thu 03-Jan-19 10:35:21

Elegran, I agree with you. I am in total acceptance of the social aspect and friendships formed within church groups and meetings. My point concerns the actual minutes before the Bishop, pastor, minister, priest, whatever title bestowed, walks into the service,often to the same hubbub as if it was a night at the theatre. To me walking into church is a time for quiet reflection and to listen to the music,whilst taking in the spirituality of the occasion. The chatting and catching up can wait for an hour or so until the sermon has ended.

Lazigirl Thu 03-Jan-19 10:35:51

The social aspect of the church is very important to many people as it gives them a sense of belonging. There is good evidence that churchgoers live longer, perhaps because of this. When asked. why I didn't attend our local church I replied that I didn't believe in God. That's not a problem was the reply, probably half the congregation don't either!

Vickixx Thu 03-Jan-19 10:37:27

Annibach, sounds lovely. I hope you get a lot out of both Services, I’m sure you must do.

Vickixx Thu 03-Jan-19 10:41:14

Lazigirl, that’s funny. The social aspect is so important but spending a few minutes in contemplation when you enter a church is not so bad. Our old minister insisted on silence for 15 mins before he walked in to do his sermon. People eventually said they felt happier as it gave them time to reflect and think about why they were there.

Anniebach Thu 03-Jan-19 10:42:04

I moved from that parish two years ago Vicki, I so hope to attend the church in this parish this year when I can get out and about again.

Vickixx Thu 03-Jan-19 10:42:49

Having said that a lot of people started turning up ten minutes later ?

trisher Thu 03-Jan-19 11:05:40

I've always thought that if you needed peace and quiet you should be able to create that for yourself simply by being quiet yourself and ignoring whatever is going on around you. It shouldn't be something imposed on you, because some people will just be thinking about their shopping list, or trying to signal something to the person next to them without anyone noticing.

grannyactivist Thu 03-Jan-19 11:29:53

My church meets in a home and so we don't have a minister or a building to pay for. We don't have a collection for our 'church', but we all pay into a community fund by standing order. When we meet each week we pray, argue about discuss whatever is topical in Christian thinking, talk about the week behind and the week ahead, tell the children a story and sing modern Christian songs. We grapple with bible readings and sometimes we even come to a shared understanding about the meaning of what we've read. On one Sunday a month we meet instead at a local care home and sing hymns with the residents then we share a Sunday tea in our homes, inviting others to join us.
Sometimes we cry when we're together, oftentimes we laugh; we drink tea and eat cake at almost all our meetings. We often join in with events held by the more traditional churches in town and our meetings are open to anybody who wants to come. This means that people from all faiths or none have engaged with us over the years with interesting results.

I appreciate many of the beautiful church buildings in the UK, but I'm heartily glad that in more and more places the churches are getting out of the buildings and into the community.

MissAdventure Thu 03-Jan-19 12:03:11

I think its lovely that the church can come to the people.
The last place I worked in had a church service in the home once a month, and it meant so much to so many of them.

Lazigirl Thu 03-Jan-19 12:39:48

I think many people are "spiritual" without necessarily accepting any religious doctrine. Personally I don't need a belief in a supernatural being, but I love the architecture and beauty of old churches, I respect those who have a religious faith as I think we all need support and meaning in a life that can be very difficult at times. Not being religious does not mean opting out of caring or responsibility for others. I am often awestruck by beauty, enjoy people and their company and regularly meditate, rather than praying, and try to live a good life whilst accepting that this life is all there is (as far as I know!)

Jalima1108 Thu 03-Jan-19 12:40:26

I appreciate many of the beautiful church buildings in the UK, but I'm heartily glad that in more and more places the churches are getting out of the buildings and into the community.

I'm glad to see beautiful church buildings being used for functions other than religious services - some have cafés, some have children's activities, holiday clubs, craft mornings, some have suppers, dining clubs etc.

These activities are not going on at the same time as services of holy communion, evensong etc.
There is a time for both.

Luckygirl Thu 03-Jan-19 12:41:52

ga - sounds like how it should be done. Certainly chimes better with the central message.

Jalima1108 Thu 03-Jan-19 12:47:30

If anyone lives near or visits Hereford - have you tried this café?

www.cafeatallsaints.co.uk/
All Saints Church has been a focus of Hereford life for over 800 years. Its dramatic twisted spire dominates the skyline, and the medieval interior is an inspired meeting of the sacred and the secular: we aim to serve the human need for physical and social as well as spiritual nourishment.

Unfortunately, we only had a coffee there but the food looks excellent.

Lazigirl Thu 03-Jan-19 13:03:06

Thanks Jalima looks really good. Will give a try next time I take a trip to Hereford. I think it's great to use church buildings for the whole community, churchgoers or not.

Jalima1108 Thu 03-Jan-19 13:06:09

I'm hoping to go back and sample the food!

Luckygirl Thu 03-Jan-19 13:07:25

Cafe at All Saints is a frequent haunt of mine - it is getting more expensive though!

grannyactivist Thu 03-Jan-19 13:26:14

Unfortunately many of the older church buildings are listed and are not suited to some modern day activities. The PCC of our beautiful Parish Church recently managed to install toilets, so are now able to hold more community based events, but the lack of a kitchen continues to limit their offer.

Church buildings in our town host a huge variety of clubs and activities, some connected to the outreach of the church, but many not. Local churches also support a Foodbank, a Community Cafe (that offers jobs to volunteers with a range of disabilities) and a Homelessness charity as well as employing a children's and youth worker and a community development worker. Regular breakfast and lunch meetings (some provided free) are held and transport is often provided.

The buildings are expensive to heat and to insure and their management takes up huge amounts of time. Most have been or need to be adapted in order for them to function better and this is also very costly. The three newest churches in our town don't have or want buildings of their own and one of our oldest churches has recently been sold off due to a decline in attendance.