God doesn't give us more than we can cope with

what kind of God would give you that amount of suffering ..not my kind of guy thats for sure.I used to think it would be good to have something to believe in but honestly ...the best things I can believe in are my husband and myself .We dont make things difficult for others or ourselves and can always find a way through even the most difficult of times.I hope your God is a bit kinder in future to you but I'd be suss about someone who meted out horrible things to people who dont deserve them in the first place .

I can't enter into a debate about God, but some people are dealt terrible blows in life and I question how can it have been meted out by some divine being to test them? How can a being somewhere be testing the resolve of the mother of that tiny innocent child thrown into a river? Life is beyond cruel for many people and some will never recover from the blows life deals them.

Estrangement is very hard to bear I know. You are grieving, so please be kind to yourself. I sometimes think it's important to turn the love you have for the other person back to yourself. Love yourself enough to find the strength to simply carry on and to find happiness in the small things.

If I'm honest, I envy you your faith. I wish I had some strong belief to keep me putting one foot in front of the other. May you find peace sooner than you think. xx

Smileless2012 I'm so sorry you are feeling at the end of your strength. It's hard isn't it? I'm glad you have your faith, it is precious.

Yes, we do have to struggle all our lives, no matter how long we live.
It doesn't get easier and for very many it is far, far more than they can cope with.
The suicide, drug, drink and mental illness rates prove that.

As a keen student of history, I can see it never was an easy life - look at the medieval peasants; or the people hanged for stealing a loaf when they were starving. Or the horrors of the workhouses.

So in very many ways, the 21st century is the best so far - but none of that minimises the grief and sorrow we all go through personally.
Who cares about the modern world when you are hurting?

The only thing I know and which comforts me when yet another awful thing happens, is that I got through it before and hope to again.
Life changes, nothing stays the same and eventually, if we can hold on long enough, there will be some lessening of the pain and a kind of happiness again.

It is so tempting to ask 'Why me?' as if Fate has singled us out for constant challenges.
It hasn't and the only logical answer to that question is, 'Why not?'

No one is immune, we just have to help one another stay afloat. And that, in very many ways, is what the wonderful posters on Gransnet endeavour to do.

Sorry, but i have to agree withFiachna50 sometimes life is too hard for some people and faith doesn't help them

At some point smileless you and your family will be reunited. I hope for you it will be sooner rather than later but at some point there will be peace and all animosity and arguments will cease. You and your loved ones will be together forever in His love.

Sorry I have always thought that expression is nonsense. Having been through horrendous times in my life with way more than I could cope with, God has nothing to do with it.

Sadly it seems we are all being tested, I often wonder whether it will ever stop, you get over one thing and just when you think it all over, something else comes along. It is all learning for us as far as I can see. That doesn't help much does it, sorry. I hope for your sake things get better. Wishing your life becomes calmer soon.