Rules for GN cafe

Well I for one didn't trawl SK looking to cause arguments - I logged onto GN ( sorry abou that) I clicked onto Last Hour ( sorry about har) I started trawling through threads to see if any interested me ( sorry about that) which shows the first sentence or so of each recent post on each thread ( sorry about that ) and a negative , judgemental, deliberately unkind ( well how was it not) comment about the political threads and the posters on those threads popped up - I couldn't not see it ( sorry about that). Well I still don't think that sort of post is acceptable and if you lovely people in SK think it is, then it says a lot lot lot more about you than it does about me. Just carry on with what you think is lovely, caring, sharing, supportive behaviour. If that's your view, fine, I just don't share it but of course you are all perfect and I am the devil incarnate. I can live with that.

Well said, Rigby. Nobody needs to trawl threads to see what is written about them.

Exactly as Rigby describes, I came across a string of SP posts discussing and disparaging jingl, shortly before she left GN, all in support of a kitchen regular who was playing the victim and obviously stirring up feeling against her. I commented that the discussion was unfair and what was being reported was inaccurate and was told that "she started it". Jingl had posted once and once only on that thread, to object to what was being said, so this didn't hold up. That was my first and last visit to the kitchen.

There are many kitcheners who wrote posts in support of jings. Many of us liked her style and we're sorry she left. Jings did have a little spat with the kitchen but all was made up. Jings PM'd soop and all differences were resolved and soop welcomed jings to pop into the kitchen at any time. I believe you will find a number of kitchen posters (including me) who wrote on the thread about not wanting her to go so please don't try and make out it was down to us she left when in fact it was a problem with GNHQ.

There are occasions when new posters pop into the kitchen and make some posts which are not really in keeping with the rest of the posts and they are gently reminded of that. Of course those posts are still there.

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Please don't twist my words. I did not say that all kitcheners were against jingl, or that it was down to you that she left. And yes, the posts are still there. Once the current technical problems are sorted out, I'll post a link to those "gentle reminders".

"JIngs did have a little spat with the kitchen" how is this possible? As you are all such supportive and nice people I imagine you would have greeted her comments with wisdom and concern, calmly assured her that things would be dealt with and sent her on her way filled with the sweetness and light you profess to offer.
Once again soop has to be brought into it. If as previously suggested this is like an infant's playground the posters on SK would seem to be like those children forever running to an adult and asking them to sort out the mess they have made.
Why is it none of you can say "Yes, we sometimes get it wrong, we're sorry it shouldn't happen we will try to stop doing this" but just go on and on making one excuse after another?

So true, trisher. Remember Baggs' Pond Slime thread?

jingl did have some genuine supporters in SK and they were not slow to speak up for her but sometimes it was as though there was a virtual klaxon on the wall which sounded whenever she made an outspoken comment and then later, snuck back in under the wire after she was banned. The zoomed in with amazing speed!

Of course there were lots of, 'Who, me Guv?' comments but you know who you are and so do we.

I suppose it's like real life. Those people who greet you with huge smiles and over enthusiastic hugs are often the ones who will bitch about you behind your back, while the bit stand-offish, awkward ones, who sometimes seem bad tempered tell you to your face if they don't like something and are there when you need them.

I'm not sure I understand Merlot , are you saying someone/ all of those who frequent the kitchen got Jingl banned ?

I took it that merlot meant that people were good and ready to 'dob' jings in if she dared to pop up again.

Ah I see Kitty I wasn't sure so thought I'd ask the question . So by people she meant the whole of GN . Got it. Thanks ?

I think so but Merlot will put us right.

Hmmm...

Not "The whole of GN" as I think everyone knows, but as ever if people want to carry on playing the "Not me" game they are perfectly welcome to.

If you read my post, N&G you will see I mentioned that jingl had some genuine supporters in SK so obviously I did not everyone.

Yes. kitty, that's what I meant.

did not mean everyone.

So SK not quite so shiny and squeaky clean as has been presented on this thread by its afficienados?

As I've mentioned somewhere else on this thread, SK didn't start out under the 'GN Cafe' heading, which was only introduced by GNHQ recently, and there were many objections to the arbitrary plonking of the thread there without a word of warning.

So although SK was supposed to be a refuge from the more argumentative threads, it never set out to be 'non-judgemental' etc.

<whisper> aficianados
(1F and no E )
Just because I know how easily upset you are at wrong spellings.

Try that again, MawBroon.
Aficionados?

just take your wooden spoon MB to SK - it will no doubt be welcome and useful there.

Well it's under that banner now isn't it, objections or no objections.

dj nice one . and touché ( note the accent)

"Aficionados" indeed DJ

I'm still . Now off for a nice glass of white wine in the garden