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What no longer bothers you (now you are older!)? You could win a fabulous L'Oreal goodie bag worth £200! NOW CLOSED

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CariGransnet (GNHQ) Mon 26-Jan-15 11:31:12

Talk to L'Oreal about the things that no longer bother you (now you are older!) and you could win a fabulous goodie bag full of L'Oreal must-haves worth £200!

We've been asked by L'Oreal to find out from gransnetters what no longer stresses you out.

So, what did you used to worry about, but don't any longer? Maybe you used to get stressed over what people thought of you, Or perhaps entertaining used to cause you to fret unnecessarily, but now, you love it?

Whatever it is - L'Oreal would love to hear about it!

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haddersmum Thu 29-Jan-15 18:41:47

I think it is great to see so many new names commenting here. Fir me it is less about the prize and more that the subject struck a chord. I now know, at last, what is worth worrying about and what is not, so I save my angst for things that really matter to me.

oznan Thu 29-Jan-15 18:51:34

Oooh,I have a very long list! Not worrying if my face is naked or what I look like as long as I'm comfortable and warm are just the tip of the iceberg.
The thing that has surprised me most though,especially as an Aspergers person,is that I no longer care who I talk to! A lady at a bus stop recently said I was "brave" for chatting to a young man who was high on drink or drugs,about his dog.He was just another human being after all.I find myself talking more than I have ever done and listening to some fascinating,sad,horrific and happy stories.I am learning so much about all sorts of things and actually enjoying it!

ajanela Thu 29-Jan-15 19:17:04

I no longer worry about telling people something you think they may not like to hear. I find if I say it with kindness and fairly it seems to workout well and we all feel better.

Trisheg Thu 29-Jan-15 19:19:49

I got married recently for the second time & am in the process of changing my name on driving licence, passport etc. my photo looks awful, but I don't care!!

theresacoo Thu 29-Jan-15 19:28:30

I don't worry about having to attend every wedding, party that I'm invited to.

If I really want to go I do, if not I don't and don't feel guilty or obliged

JonFlorrie Thu 29-Jan-15 19:43:13

I'm not bothered about "dressing up" to go out in the evening these days. As long as my clothes and I are clean, my hair is brushed and I don't smell 'orrible then I'm happy enough to go out in my jeans.
Whereas in my youth I may have been a bit shy to talk to anyone I didn't know I can now say hello to anyone and strike up conversations at bus stops, in the shop etc. I will ask directions, ask anything in fact if it helps me on my way. I can switch off from hearing swearing whilst I'm out, although I still don't like it, and it doesn't rankle like it used to.
I also tend to see the other side of things and am slow to condemn people's behaviour and would rather reason why they have behaved as they did.
I've always been happy with my grey hair and see no reason to colour it; always moisturise my face daily; don't always bother with make-up; have mostly given up ironing if it is not outside-wear; give cheques rather than find the perfect present; stay in bed reading or emailing late in the morning (and who cares what anyone thinks about that!!). Having the confidence to do all of that has come with age, so I'm happy to be where I am in life. smile

Lucretia Thu 29-Jan-15 20:07:56

I used to take everything people said to me without answering back, but since I reached a certain age, I am no longer afraid to speak my mind and say it how it is. If people are rude I tell them and if I don't agree with something I speak out whereas before I would have kept quiet. Quite liberating!

Ruby6918 Thu 29-Jan-15 20:11:50

i dont because sometimes i dont want to share
my me time, i am single for the first time in many many years and it has taught me to be contented single, its hard and im not going to tell lies and say its a bowl of cherries, but its nice to be able to do what you want and embrace thngs you really like and enjoy.
I dont worry that i can have a lazy day and enjoy it.
I dont worry that i get on a lot of peoples nerves and so have learned to have a smaller mouth and bigger ears this is still work in progress, ive realised im a bit of a nagger!
I dont care about wearing hats, i never ever wore hats and now i love having a warm head and ears more than what i look like!
I dont care that i have no sexy underwear i threw it all out, i wear comfortable undies all the time, (CLEAN) obviously ha ha
and i dont care that its snowing tonight because ive been to the shop earlier

kittykomp Thu 29-Jan-15 20:26:36

Spiders smile

grannygrumps2 Thu 29-Jan-15 20:49:07

I always used to wash my hair everyday and blow dried it to look perfect now I go 3 days without washing it and frankly my dear I don't give a damn!

onneker Thu 29-Jan-15 20:52:50

I've loved reading about the things that don't bother people any more and have been smiling in recognition. I always felt very self-conscious and shy with people but now I find I can chat to anyone. I get into conversations on the bus and I love that momentary connection with all sorts of fascinating people.

liquorice Thu 29-Jan-15 21:20:15

I don't stress (as much) about things out of my control.

Kem99 Thu 29-Jan-15 21:59:43

I no longer bother about keeping my house tidy at all times in case I got a visitor. I always thought I would be judged by how tidy it was and yet if I visited a friend and their house was untidy I didn't think any less of them!

MaryXYX Thu 29-Jan-15 23:03:29

Like GrannyActivist I've given up knuckling under and conforming. Since I've been authentic about who I am I'm now free to wear makeup and to have my eyebrows waxed. It's a fairly recent change so I still have a lot to learn.

GrannyGear Thu 29-Jan-15 23:14:46

Like Nancat13 I'm no longer hesitant about talking to strangers. Could be increasing age bringing more confidence, but more likely it's my recumbent trike - a conversation piece if nothing else!

Madge51 Fri 30-Jan-15 00:21:38

In a word -retirement. In the summer I'm in the garden from morning till night so housework takes a back seat. In the winter the house gets a bit more attention but it's made me realise my daughters have the right idea; if it doesn't 'need' to be ironed it doesn't get ironed. I've saved weeks of time that I now spend with my little granddaughter, go to my book clubs & mindfulness class etc etc. But the biggest change for me is not holding back from questioning authority jobs-worth people including/especially doctors & that's because without my health & mobility none of the rest would be possible. Oh & I gave up worrying; it's too much like a rocking horse - keeps you going & gets you nowhere.

GrannyBabz Fri 30-Jan-15 04:16:35

I'm no longer bothered by the thought of ageing. We are so lucky with all the age-specific beauty products our mothers and grandmothers never had - hair dye, stuff to stop the frizz of older hair, face serums, light-diffusing foundation, and so on, it's a personal choice now to look old, or not! I now know what suits me, but still love tinkering with a new make up item, or hair styling product. Keep up the good work L'Oreal, we oldies love having the power (and products) to keep our older faces, bodies and hair looking healthy and glowing!

dragon123 Fri 30-Jan-15 05:22:04

Going out without make up doesn't bother me. (but then it never has). I'm more confident with myself as I've got older and wear what I'm comfortable in as opposed to fashion, hubbie and I still ride motorcycles and my 30 year old leather jacket still fits me! (hubbies doesn't).

kittylester Fri 30-Jan-15 06:55:11

confused by all these new members!! But that point will be missed by most of them as they won't come back to this thread again!

Jaxie Fri 30-Jan-15 08:05:42

I'm not bothered about being flat-chested any more. When I think about the years spent stuffing bras with cotton wool & overheating in padded bras in my youth I wince. Now when I see older women with huge pendulous breasts and wrinkled cleavages on show I think, "Put it away Mrs".

Ineshuxb Fri 30-Jan-15 09:03:01

I suppose I am more wiser but I am full of active and positive spirit so I want to rock this worldsmile Being a mummy to my baby boy is the most amazing thing but think one thing bothers is my sleep, I do miss my sleep abitsmile

paperbackbutterfly Fri 30-Jan-15 09:03:38

I no longer worry about what other people think about me. When I was younger I found it hurtful when people passed comments about my appearance or actions, as I have got older I have found that it no longer matters. I know who I am and I think that my opinion of myself is all that matters to me. I do like to dress nice and wear makeup when I am going out but I do it to please myself not to please other people. Actually it's a big relief to no longer be affected by the need to 'fit in'.

nancy22 Fri 30-Jan-15 09:26:26

There was a time when I wouldn't go out of the house without makeup, dresses and high heels. Now I wear things that are comfy and no makeup unless meeting the girls for lunch once in a while.
As long as you yourself are happy enough is the main thing

glammanana Fri 30-Jan-15 10:06:57

Everything is stress free in my life now, no rushing to get to a works meeting every Monday morning to be greeted by a Sales Manager asking me if I had a good journey,of course I enjoyed the nearly two hour trip to see your happy smiling face (not).Such bliss to be able to turn over at 6.30am.
Not to have to worry about my DCs knowing they are managing their lives well and OH & I have done a good job with them & being being confident with my age & appearance not to listen to other peoples comments about me & mine.

cangran Fri 30-Jan-15 10:37:05

At 68 I really enjoy the company of women friends, the fact that we all have developed our own style that we feel comfortable with, that we bolster each other's confidence with genuine compliments, share lots of laughs and like doing things together. We may sometimes act like giggly teenagers but we really don't care that others may think we're nutty old women (or that they'd be shocked if they knew some of the things we talk about!)