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I've bought the dress for my sons wedding

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jeanie99 Mon 08-Jul-13 08:51:53

Well this weekend with the help of my daughter and future DIL I finally after weeks of looking on my own bought a posh dress for my sons wedding.

I tried on so many you would not believe and the one I liked the girls didn't.

I wanted a floaty dress with short sleeves styled down to my calf and I have bought a blue coloured (I never wear blue) retro snug fitting calf length number which I am now wondering is too modern.

The girls in their 30s said it looked great on me and I should show off my figure but I'm now getting cold feet. Thing is it would be difficult to take back as I bought it in Swindon which is 4 hours drive away.

Hubby hasn't seen it and I know he will not like it but daughter says who cares he'll not be wearing it.

I dress casual all the time and live in jeans, never dress up the most I'd do is black trousers and a nice top for New Years Eve or Christmas.

What do you think.

absent Mon 08-Jul-13 08:54:20

Be guided by your personal shoppers and dare to wear something different. Have a wonderful time at this wonderful occasion. smile

Nonu Mon 08-Jul-13 09:05:13

Sometimes Jeanie it is good to step out of your comfort zone .
After all a wedding of one of the offspring is special , and I do not for one nano second believe that your DD"S would guide you the wrong direction .

Enjoy , when is the wedding?

jeanie99 Mon 08-Jul-13 09:16:50

Thank you so much for your prompt replies I do hope I am doing the right thing.
The wedding is at the end of August.
I've also bought shoes with a heel to match and lower shoes for the dancing just need a bag I'm told by the girls.
The last bag I bought was for my daughter about 15 years ago, both said it should be cream to go with the pearls daughter is lending me.

Well must go washing to hang out.

Have a lovely day, the weather sounds good again may get into the garden after breakfast.

glammanana Mon 08-Jul-13 09:26:57

jeanie99 how I wish I had taken my DD and future DIL with me when I went shopping for my outfit for DS2s wedding in September,when I got it home and showed them what I had bought they both agreed it was a stunning outfit but the colour was wrong,it was red,long length & with a cropped jacket,my DIL to be said it would not match the dresses and flowers etc on the wedding photo's so a drastic change of plan,now I'm wearing a fitted Frank Usher suit in a silver/grey colour so I am not so "bright" on the photo's so yes take their advice and go with what you first selected and I'm sure you will look amazing,have a lovely day and remember to practice in your heels well before the day because if you are like me you will only wear flatties on a daily basis.

Grannyknot Mon 08-Jul-13 10:20:32

Hi Jeanie, I'd also trust your personal shopper's advice. Your outfit sounds great.

I'm also 'mother-of-the-groom' in September this year. I've bought a floaty number off the Just Last Season website, with a matching shawl in the main colour of the dress with satin trim bands and then I found a crochet jacket/bolero to match for the evening ... I never wear something like that, but it looks good! My dress is deep champagne colour with soft pink spots - the colours are just perfect on me. I haven't even started thinking about shoes or horror of horrors a bag! Oh go on, have a look, here's my dress:

www.justlastseason.co.uk/en/jacques-vert-chiffon-spot-print-tiered-dress-168144

ninathenana Mon 08-Jul-13 11:19:41

That's lovely GK

I didn't want to match the bridal party for DD wedding. SIL was in uniform so BMs wore forrest green. I had a floaty lilac dress with navy shoes and bag.
I'm sure you will look great in your blue dress jeanie

grannyactivist Mon 08-Jul-13 12:05:06

Jeanie I took my mother in law shopping for her outfit for my son's wedding. We bought a fitted midnight blue dress with bolero jacket; a style and colour she never would have chosen for herself. It was ridiculously exxpensive, but she looked wonderful. Trust your daughter and future daughter in law on this - they only want you to look your best.
Have a wonderful day when it comes. smile
Grannyknot - beautiful dress, I do think Frank Usher does lovely wedding clothes.

grannyactivist Mon 08-Jul-13 12:06:36

Duh!!! Meant Jacques Vert - had two conversations going on at once (though I do like FUfor weddings too).

annodomini Mon 08-Jul-13 12:09:21

I do like that, GK. I'm sure you are going to look stunning in the photographs.

Mamie Mon 08-Jul-13 12:14:08

Lovely dress Grannyknot and I can confirm that it will really suit you!

Grannyknot Mon 08-Jul-13 12:26:24

Thanks, everyone and Mamie! I feel great in it, swishing down the stairs in my little 2 up 2 down. It only cost £49 (but that's not why I bought it, I bought it because I liked it!) The accessories cost more than the dress. smile.

Am psyching myself up for a fascinator too ...:P

Ceesnan Mon 08-Jul-13 13:01:52

Grannyknot where did you buy the bolero. I love this dress, but would definitely need something to cover my arms.

Iam64 Mon 08-Jul-13 13:31:50

Jeanie - one of my lovely daughters was married recently. Hers was the first formal wedding I've been to in 40years, and neither I, nor my sisters or best friends had big weddings. Having bought a dress and jacket to "fit in", increasingly I felt I'd be going as myself, in disguise as the Lady Mayoress of Weatherfield. Back went the dress, swopped for charcoal grey silk trousers and a silver vest top. The jacket looked great with them, and I wore heels and a bright purple hat with feathers. It sounds as though your personal dressers have been great - go for it, the outfit sounds fab. I really enjoyed being my daughters wedding, and I was so glad I'd gone the extra mile for the young couple who put on a fabulous do

FlicketyB Mon 08-Jul-13 15:51:10

Am I the only person who did not buy a new outfit for their child's wedding?

When DS got married I had a desultory look for something new decided that I didn't like anything I had seen so wore a suit I had bought several years earlier. I also had some roses pinned into a French pleat hairdo rather than wear a hat. I checked all this with DS, DDiL to be and her mother and every one was completely happy. Bride's mother was delighted that she could relax about what she wore as well.

I did buy new shoes and a new top to go with the suit.

Grannyknot Mon 08-Jul-13 16:10:46

Ceesnan here you go wink www.daxon.co.uk/crealine-ladies-metallic-crocheted-knit-cardigan.htm?ProductId=011101314&t=6

Bez Mon 08-Jul-13 16:29:53

Is am so impressed with what you have found online - I have never been brave enough to try that route! I think the main reason being I love to feel the fabric first - don't like the feel I never buy. Have you ever had any problems sending back anything that was a disaster? I have plenty of those in fitting rooms!!

Mamie Mon 08-Jul-13 17:04:26

I bought the outfits for my children's weddings in posh second-hand shops. For my son's wedding in Spain I had a very elegant dark grey, silk two piece with patterned shawl and specially designed jewellery made by a cousin. I thought it looked really elegant and unusual but when we got to the wedding it just looked very er Spanish.

numberplease Mon 08-Jul-13 17:14:34

I bought a dress online just over 2 years ago for my son`s wedding. When it arrived, I tried it on and was really pleased with it, but I only had it on for a few minutes, then it went away till the wedding day. On the day, I`d only had the dress on for about 10 minutes when I noticedshockblush, that the neckline had dropped, and half my bra was on display! It was a new bra, and very pretty, but wasn`t exactly the effect that I`d been looking for! Tried a few things to solve the problem, nothing worked, so ended up wearing a new cream cardigan over the lovely new dress, so disappointing.

Grannyknot Mon 08-Jul-13 17:51:25

Mamie LOL.

Bez i don't really fuss too much, always buying something 'off the peg' - I had read about both websites on GN and stock is not the type of thing I would usually wear but thought what the heck, let me give everyone a surprise and do the 'occasion' thing, clicked away, saw the dress, liked it, bought it. So - the first one arrived, too big! I carefully repacked it and had to take it to my nearest 'Click and Collect' - a convenience store on my high street, free pickup. Then couple of days later the correct size arrived. So no, I haven't had any problems. I've 'modelled' the dress for husband, who said "You look wonderful, my darling." So far, so good! smile

Iam64 Mon 08-Jul-13 20:35:21

I had to buy new - since retirement my wardrobe has consisted of dog walking jeans, gardening jeans, best jeans and the occasional pair of decent trousers and tops for going out. Dressing up was great fun, and the wedding jacket, trousers and vest top have now helped expand my formerly very limited wardrobe. Weddings eh?

Ceesnan Mon 08-Jul-13 21:12:06

Grannyknot thank you! smile

Deedaa Mon 08-Jul-13 22:04:06

My daughter was a bridesmaid at her friend's posh society wedding in Kenya. They had bought purple dresses in Debenhams so that each bridesmaid wore a slightly different style, but the colours were all the same. This was all done well in advance to reduce stress! Then my daughter picked up a stomach bug and lost LOTS of weight. She tried the dress on again and PANIC it swam round her in folds. It was layers of thin fabric and a complete nightmare to alter. I managed to cobble it together by hand and the photo's looked great. So much for planning ahead!

ticktock Tue 16-Jul-13 14:35:00

Good thing I spotted this, I was just about to start a thread about what to wear to a wedding!

I am going to be mother of the bride in August. There are lots of sales on at the moment, so I'm keen to cash in while the offers are on.

I've found a few online, what do you think?

dress one now reduced to £29.50 from £59!!

dress two... although knowing me, I'll get soup stains down the front...

dress three... something a bit floatier?

dress four... something with a bit of shimmer?

Oh what to do!!

Mamie Tue 16-Jul-13 14:44:42

I like number three. For one you would need to be exactly the right shape, two is boring and I don't like four. Did I choose the most expensive?