Looking awful!

That should have been see and walk.

When I turned 40yrs old I went to the doctor, who was a fit young 20 something, and asked for advice on how to lose weight. He said, without any hint of sarcasm 'I don't think women should fret at how they look at your age! I was gob smacked. I hasten to add that I have kept myself fit and smart always, and I have my hair cut properly.

I suggest that you eat a decent diet and go for walks more often in the fresh air, even if it is cold because you can wrap up and the cold air will bring a blush to your skin, and a spring in your step. Not mine at the moment because I am waiting for a knee operation and cannot walk far.

Be happy with your lot, my BIL who was a year younger than I am died last week after a long illness. Funeral next week. At least you are alive and can enjoy life.

Don't forget mirrors can show a different you whichever one you look in because the glass can warp. Have you ever been to one of those fun mirror places at a fair? That is what I mean. Some cameras if they are set on wide view will make you look smaller and fatter so don't rely on the camera telling the truth either.

In our last house we put a full length mirror in our hall. I loved it, the reflection took at least half a stone off!

Sadly we left it, DH didn't want to make good the mess removing it would have caused.

Hi everyone, I agree about different mirrors showing a different you, I look grim in my bathroom mirror but better in the one in the front room. I remember being told when I was young that the best make up was a smile. Always remember that when I don't like what I'm seeing and it does help a bit.

Fumanchu DH had the same problem then started taking a zinc supplement and the dark circles went.Hope you feel a bit better soon

Wow, so sorry I haven't been back in here, didn't really expect to get any answers TY all so much.
I wouldn't say I was depressed in any way - just trying to cope with major changes and to sort out a plan of action. I am happy with my life and feel very lucky, but I need to change my lifelong view of myself somehow. That sounds mad lol!
Suki70 yes I buy lookfabulousforever too, it's good stuff.
MawBroon, that's a good idea, a nice hairdo and some gorgeous smelly lotions & potions does sound good right now..
I do have a system of taking specs off when looking in mirrors and at the cooker..
AdelJay; what a lovely post thank you pet xx
seacliff : Re fake tan, even the expensive stuff - I am very very pale and my hair is silver (except when I put a rose bleach through it and then its beigey blonde) So the fake tan shows at the edges... if that makes sense? And being so pale I have to be very subtle and careful - things like eyebrows faze me as mine used to be black and still mainly are, but with silver hairs mixing in now. If I try to colour the black then I look like Elvis' granny.
Colour Me Beautiful will need to wait until I am able to get on a bus to Edinburgh (an hour each way). But I will try it hopefully this summer.
THANK YOU LADIES xxx am sorry to whine, but it was a very bad day when I posted this.