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Framilode Tue 09-Oct-18 10:17:04

I am fed up with wearing jeans and like the look of leggings with a shortish dress or tunic on top. I think the look is more flattering and modern than jeans and a jumper.

The thing is my husband hates them and every time I mention it he brings up the comedian Max Wall. I want him to think that I look nice but the way he would like me to dress would be a slinky dress and high heels. That is just not my style.

What would you do? Dress the way you want or for the husband. Sometimes I feel it's just another way of controlling me that I can't even happily choose my own look.

PECS Thu 11-Oct-18 21:45:23

M0nica has your DH always had this phobia? DD taught a child recently who also could not have clothes with buttons and found them very distressing. DD had to put the button jar (used for counting and craft activities) away for the year.
So many things, that most can take for granted, that can really inhibit others lives.

M0nica Thu 11-Oct-18 22:02:55

*PECS As far as I know. His is not quite as bad as the one you describe, although, all my spare buttons are kept where he cannot see them.

It took him a long time to admit to the problem and I was puzzled why he wanted the buttons cut off pyjamas trousers and the waist join sewn up, he just said they were uncomfortable to lie on. Now I know, I can make adjustments as necessary.

My younger sister had a phobia of spiders. When we were little I treated it as a joke, but when I was in my teens, I saw her hysterical with fear when she saw a big spider and realised, how scared she was, after that I treated her problem seriously and if I was around protected her from spiders and being teased about her fear.

PECS Thu 11-Oct-18 22:12:06

We are more aware of some phobias such as fear of spiders. This time of year is especially troubling for a friend of mine who cannot garden easily because of spiders. But to have a phobia about something that is so common could be really crippling. I am pleased your DH copes reasonably well.

Mapleleaf Fri 12-Oct-18 19:33:59

Yes, it's true, isn't it, that there are many phobias that most of us are totally unaware of. I had never heard of a button phobia until MOnica said her husband suffers from it, so I looked it up and learned that a lot of people have the phobia of buttons. I had a colleague who has a phobia about spiders and not just of live ones, but also of pictures of them and pictures of webs. This time of year is especially difficult, not just because real ones come indoors, but because of hallowe'en too.
I'm glad your husband is managing to cope, MOnica, but it must be so hard for him at times.