Feeling frumpy and old

MissA what a fabulous laugh to start off the day. ?

Argon oil after shampoo gives my hair a nice shine.
Wearing coloured scarves and costume jewellery.
Always wear make up when going out, it doesn’t look as good as it did but heyho that’s life.
Purple, green or light grey flat shoes.
Tunic dress and coloured tights.
It all comes down to camouflage.

Just on the shoe front. Moshulu are really comfy but colourful and fairly fashionable.

And,avert the eyes when approaching shop windows.

Good advice Kitty I saw my Nan the other day when looking in the shop window, she has been dead 60 years ?

I wear Moshulu because they are comfortable but I feel like a farmer in their boots! Definitely colour helps a lot especially by the face. A lot of really old people stick to beige which is so ageing. My friend travels a lot to France and said that older ladies there wear colourful clothes and light jackets and look a lot better than we do over here. Must admit I've never thought of wearing coloured shoes (always stick to black) but that is a nice idea that I will definitely try.

I agree about the older ladies living in other countries, I visit friends abroad and they and their friends always look stylish and vibrant.
It's not a case of trying to look younger as one poster said, it's making the best of what you've got, looking good gives you a spring in your step and when you're happy, it shows on your face.

lmm6, if you are looking for some reasonably, new and colourful shoes, keep your eye the Clarks outlet site.
I usually manage to find a 20% off voucher online, which makes them even cheaper.
I have picked up lots of fashionable and comfortable flat shoes. It just takes a bit of perseverance, so I check it most days.

I look in the mirror to do my hair in the morning. I have good skin (thanks moisturiser) and thick, still dark hair (thanks mum), have to wear comfy shoes and trousers (thanks bp medicines), but in my mind for the rest of the day I am still fantastic. Since at 71 I'm basically invisible to most people on the street, I can continue to live in my fantasy world, so I'm quite happy - and comfortable.

I'd like to go for outrageous having always been quite conservatively dressed with everything matching. I still wear beads which have to match with a blouse or jumper but that's a habit now so just a bit of styling left.
Trouble is because I feel the cold so much whatever I wear is hidden because I'm muffled up but I tend not to care as long as I'm warm.

What I will get when the weather improves are a few spray-on hair colours to give me a lift and prove I'm not in my dotage yet--------though I could be carted off !

I do still have to have good footwear though, K shoes/Clarks/VanDal, leather of course, coloured in the summer, browns/bronzes in winter.

I won't go anywhere without lipstick on but I'm rubbish with make-up in general although I give it a go at times as I'm still willing to learn being a " young at heart " person.

I've started to get jowly but I don't want to go through cosmetic surgery so I'll just have to live with it. I'm not going to get any better at my age.
I think as long as you look smartly dressed with your own style what does it really matter?
Look after your health - a bit of exercise, good diet and a hobby to keep your brain cells working. A new pair of earrings or a lipstick can cheer you up and don't cost a bomb.

Hi, rub Argan oil into hair before bed, I was cynical but it really takes the fluff! I agree with people here when they say continue to make the effort to look the best you can for your age, trying to look younger doesn’t always work well. I always feel better when I make a little effort, it’s about self care and valuing yourself. Don’t get me wrong my makeup takes a few minutes but even that makes a difference.

That should read takes away the fluff!

Please whoever you are do not pull your white eyebrows out, they do not grow back again. Buy eyebrow dye, it takes two minutes to work and hey presto you have a full complement of glossy dark ones again. It Lasts for a month, I buy mine from eBay, it says it is 'Professional', am not but comes as a kit with applicator, tube of dye, cup and fixer. These will last a year, then you just top up as need. You just trim the wild long ones so they are in line and neat again. Well that is one thing easily fixed.

I have tried Dove hair conditioner and shampoo to soften mine it worked because I could not get a comb through I can now. I have real thick hair.

I feel blessed with good genes and nobody believes how old I am ?. I always think that less is more as we age, too much make up looks exactly what it is etc Buying new clothes, I always gravitate to certain styles, but I do remind myself of what I can get away with now and what I can’t. DD likes some of my experiments, but not all ! Decide what styles you like, research ideas on line, Pinterest etc. Look at role models that you admire and then change your look one step at a time. Do you have someone close to run ideas thro with ? The confidence has to come from the inside out, but go for it coz you’re worth it !!

I love looking old (clean & tidy though,) as people are away so willing to help and you can talk to anyone in queues, trains, eateries, etc. without anyone taking it amiss. Lovely company everywhere!

Does nobody wear skirts or dresses anymore? I adopted an arty bohemian look over the past two years. Oh and haven't worn heels in a long time. I slap the cream on twice a day. I dye my white hair metallic silver...trying to grow it so I can sweep it up at back...hahaha It is good to reinvent your style now and then.

Always wear colour. Use moisturiser. Wear jewellery. Think younger. Wear classic clothes.
I am interested in using Arian oil on hair though as been having problems with my short hair.
I buy Quaker jeans. Brilliant.

I agree with the posters who say ‘look the best you can’ rather than strive to look young.
Otherwise relax about it ( unless you are really unhappy with the way you look.)
Experimenting with colours you don’t usually go for would be a start.

I meant argan oil.

I bought some Senspar shampoo and conditioner from Waitrose it’s made a big difference to my fluffy hair, no need to use hair oil after washing now. MissA so funny. Only do legs in the warm weather and love comfy shoes - crocs today

I find not wearing my glasses when I look in the mirror is a great help.

I have not dyed my hair since I was 55 and I I now have a head of lovely white hair cut in a short spiky style. I don't wear heels, usually a pair of flat red boots from some french company. Skinny jeans or trousers and a long jumper and I top it all with a bobble hat to complete the style. I have a facial wax and eyebrow tidy up once a month with my eyebrows being dyed now and again. A spot of lips is all the makeup I wear and plenty of fresh air to keep my skin looking good.

Jalima1108 Wed 06-Feb-19 22:35:03
Luckygirl - my post above was in response to Chewbacca, not yours!
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Please whoever you are do not pull your white eyebrows out, they do not grow back again.
I only pull out the white ones, there are plenty of dark ones left too (thank goodness) Carolpaint - but a timely warning as I had a friend who plucked out her eyebrows many years ago and they never grew back.

A good haircut is a start, I think, and having a helpful hairdresser who can advise you. For years I have wanted a bob but it suits neither my hair nor me although looks fabulous on other women, so I have finally given up the struggle.

Not barmey or old at all then!

I check my face every day in a mirror I keep on the window sill. If I see any hairs on my face or coming out of my nose I pluck them out with tweezers.