Feeling frumpy and old

day creams with SPF.
Yes, choosing a day cream with SPF is a good idea.

Getting 'summer ready' can take a bit longer (hairy legs can be hidden in the winter )

If you haven’t read it do read her book’ I feel bad about my neck’ it is sooo true!

I love a lot of the ideas especially the Red Carpet. That is excellent. I guess most of us put others first and perhaps from time to time we should put ourselves first. I know that when I ever do dress up I feel better for it. Such an effort though isn't it.! Thanks, everyone. This is a great site and you've all cheered me up considerably and given me a lot of food for thought. Yes I do have a daughter who, thankfully, does give me advice. This winter, however, she told me I was too old to wear a bobble hat and it took me ages to find one without a bobble. Also - straighteners - they are a godsend with my hair which sticks out anywhere it fancies as it has a mind of its own. Will come back later in the year with an update. Hoping for a vast improvement.

For those of you with frozen shoulders I got rid of mine in 6 weeks with acupuncture as opposed to the doc telling me 18 months with physio. It cost me a few hundred pounds but it was worth it.

Here’s that poem

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As someone else said, some days I look, IMO, not too bad. Other times, depending on health etc. I look pretty rough. Recently went on hols with a very glam early 70's friend. I'm sure people thought I was her mother, quite depressing. However, as early death is probably the only alternative to ageing, I will be grateful for life and love and good times. My 4 year-old DGD thinks I'm pretty.

I can relate to a lot of these comments.I'm now 67,looking back at photos of myself in my 50s, I looked young for my age then.My husband,who was older than me,had a lot of health problems,it started when I was 58,he finished up in a care home,he passed away last year.I feel that it all took its toll on me as well,I look old for my age now,and I don't make the same effort now.I don't look happy any more,that doesn't help.

Nice to know I'm not alone. I agree, it is the time of year, caught sight of myself in the bathroom mirror and wondered, "Who is that old woman?" Remember doing so last year at about the same time in February.

Perhaps it's time to re-evaluate the colours of the clothes in our wardrobes?

Aww you just need a bit of pampering.
Have a look online at hairstyles & colours. My hair has now turned a very bright white, which is on trend, and I jazz it up into fashionable styles. If yours isn't quite at this stage it could be or another great colour by an hairdresser
Get your eyebrows waxed, and consider tinting the. For your skin exfoliating is a Must, and you can get some rough textured little pads for this to use on your face and neck with a facial wash.
I haven't worn heels for years, but I have some funky low heeled boots and glam trainer style flats, also I wear ballet shoes with a dress.
Leggings or straight legged jeans or trousers with a long top look great. Try M & S, Bonmarche, Roman Originals and Dorothy Perkins do some that come a little higher to hide the midriff bulge
Have fun, and let us have an update soon x

Ha ha Miss A. It's nice to look ones best but I wouldn't lose sleep over it. All older women have to suffer the indignity of being invisible even if they dress from head to toe in psychedelic colours. We all age differently and as G Greer once wrote nobody ages like anybody else - some of us will age from the inside out, remaining relatively unwrinkled, and bright eyed long after our organs have clogged up and bones crumbled, others will look stringy and old as Methuselah but will be able to run the London marathon in 4 hours, some will be as strong as horses but totally reliant on help because their brains are melting. I think life's too short to worry too much about it.

No heels for me, they are instruments of torture! I have one pair of slim fitting ‘best’ trousers and loads of others that either don’t fit or are not flattering so I usually revert to skinny jeans and flat boots.
The best thing I ever did was let my coloured hair turn grey. It took almost a year for all the colour to grow out and now my hair looks better than it has for years.
I was 70 last August it was a shock, but now I’m embracing it.
Just be happy with yourself, I’m sure you are gorgeous.

Imm6
Treat yourself to a day at the hairdresser.a hair do really can pick you up.get a style that's easy to keep.

Ha ha! Ksing I know what you mean with the mirror. I've got one too.

Why do we worry about not wearing heels - remember the late Princess of Wales...........trendy flats

Forget heels but get the same height boost from wedge heels. Red lipstick always adds glam and treat yourself to a regular manicure.

Any top tips for a TURKEY NECK

Noreen I can sympathise with you there! My dh was 20 yrs older than me so I always felt young and I suppose looked young next to him.

Now hes not here any longer I feel old and decrepid, and yes the unhappiness shows in our faces.

I feel better when I have my work unform on lol

Oh and I have just bought a lovely pale pink chenille jumper from t**cos trouble is its quite short so presume I have to walk round showing my "muffin" top (didnt know what one of them was till I googled it! lol

I was going for a lovely mustard chenille one (prob cos it was down from £14 to £7) it did look pretty good with my brown jeggins and brown boots on but it was a real! change of colour for me.m so I left it.

Sometimes I think we just have to move out of our " Comfort/safety* Zone and be brave embrace some colour

A chopper? ?

lemongrove ohh myy gosh! have crossed the boundries LOL.

I understood it to be the bit of flesh etc that hung over the top of your jeans etc we in the olden days(well I would) call it a "spare tyre"

It is not what you wear, it is the way that your wear it.

If you feel frumpy and old, you will look it no matter how you are dressed, have your haircut etc etc. We all know people who are ageless not because of what they wear but who they are and expensively dressed lumps, who are that because their minds are lumpy and down.

So start be loving yourself, book yourself a pampering day somewhere, at a spa or wherever. While you are there leaf through all the magazines looking at hair styles, fashion styles etc, forget that the fashion ads are posed on stick thin models in bizarre positions in ridiculous combinations of clothes. Just look at the clothes and what you are looking at that you like and would suit you and next time you are clothes shopping, whether at a supermarket or Bond Street look for those shapes and colours.

As for heels - they are so yesterday, everyone wears flat shoes these days. I am the same height as you and I am currently wearing black patent leather loafers. My shoe wardrobe includes flat ankle boots, more loafers in other colours and boots with 2in very chunky heels.

The world is your oyster, you can soon look really good for your age, it is all in your mind.

You could try Witt for trousers. I find them excellent.

I agree with so many of the comments here! I wore high heeled court shoes and pencil skirts for work with jumpers. When I retired I gradually swopped to jeans (straight legged or skinny) and boots. My hair is now dry, Aussie 3 min conditioner helps a little, and my eye lashes seem to have "gone", so instead of full make up nowadays it's moisturiser and BB cream, with eye make up very rarely.

I have just bought a zingy yellow jumper and a black and white striped one from M&S which I will wear with black cord jeans, black suede heels and a matching/toning scarf and look, I hope, anything but frumpy.
Seriously I wonder if one problem is hanging onto old clothes for whatever reason
1- thrift - lots of life left in this
2- sentiment - my “favourite” comfort blanket jumper
3- economy -I can’t really justify/afford a new one while I have this
5- practicality- it will “do” for gardening/ decorating/ hoovering
6-confidence- oh I have never worn this colour, don’t want to look like mutton dressed up as lamb
7- timidity - you “can’t go wrong “ with a camel coat/ grey skirt / navy jumper

Recognise these?
Ditch them!

Hoping the injection helps and you recover your joie de vivre MawBroon
I can't ever see you being anything other than perfectly dressed for any and every occasion. You and your late DH look as if you've walked straight out of a Country Living magazine.

This time last year felt just like a bag of rags tied in the middle, so took DDandGD shopping with them in charge . Trousers from next suiting relaxed , couple jumpers from Roman and black patent flats from Clark's felt a lot better. Played around in summer ended up with crop trousers lots of tops funnily from mountain warehouse made from factor 50material plus long sleeve plain tee shirts . Had various shades of blue in hair put in as highlights back to my favourite crop cut late last year Only thing its electric blue bad nan that I am. I run round house in leggings and tops
Discovered sketchers at a outlet center so comfy
I like me again
PS I am dyslexic and if this post has mistakes opps