I’m not sure it’s the age of the stylist, rather their professionalism and skill that matters. I have similar issues colverson and also feel quite wretched about my hair at times. In our previous area I had a young but understanding and skilled stylist who listened and really helped. When we moved I travelled back to her every six weeks for almost a year. Then I took a deep breath and went into the closest, small, salon. I explained my worries to the receptionist and was given a chance to chat to a stylist. I still go to her, she’s older and we get along well. My hair is my hair, there’s no miracle but she listens and helps me make the best of it. Be brave, if you notice a woman with a good cut ask where she goes, ask to talk to stylists, see who you feel comfortable with. I’m not quite considering a small hair piece but it’s in the back of my mind as a sort of safety net. Hope you are more at ease with yourself soon.