Ugly prom dress

You bought it. She loves it. Who cares what anyone else thinks? For my 'prom' ie leaving party, I wore a dress my Aunty gave me second hand. It looked great and I got lots of compliments.

That's a brilliant attitude to have! I hadn't thought of it that way.

I think you’ve asked the wrong people what they think about the dress, because she’s a different generation to all of you, and they wear and like different things when they are young. Could you ask a few of her friends to give their opinion, perhaps on both the dresses, to help her choose?

I love it that she wants to be different .
She doesn’t care what others think.Good for her!

How refreshing that she won’t be following the crowd with the usual styles of dress. Let her make her choice and be proud of her.

Thanks gingster. When she tried it on in the shop a few of the younger girls said it was lovely- not sure if they were being polite. It is most certainly not a dress anyone else would wear. We got it in a charity shop and it's either a dress made for a theatre production or a bridesmaid. I think I need to celebrate her individuality!

No don’t ask anyone let her be, it’s her choice and if she has a quirky dress sense she may already be used to the negative comments or maybe others are better than we think It’s her night her choice and your job to say ‘ you look lovely’
I hate these proms all the kids with parents with a bit of money turn up in big chauffeur driven cars, or helicopters, army trucks motorbikes or whatever ! Those without just slink out of mum or Dads old banger

It's her prom

It is the dress she picked ans she loves

Respect her decision

Lovely to her, ugly to you. Sounds normal!
Leave her be.
When my DGD#1 left school for 6th form college the first thing she did was go shopping with her pals to charity shops for non uniform clothes, earrings etc. She came home looking very happy.
She's now at university studying art.

My daughter's quirky taste in clothes and shoes as a teenager caused many comments from older friends and family.
She went from university to work in fashion.
Embrace her individuality.

DD made herself a prom dress out of paper. Everybody thought it was absolutely wonderful.

I wouldn't have worn it, but then I can remember my mother's deep disapproval of one or two of my party dresses.

On the otherhand I always remember the family story of my grandmother as a young girl, when some one, possibly her mother, said she couldn't go out in something because t was not fashionable. ' I do not follow fashion, I set it.' - and she did. Despite very limited resources, all our photos of her show her always looking slim and elegant.

So Bowdie, don't worry or criticise, rejoice in your DGD's indifference to what other people say and determination to dress the way she wants that way lies success in life.

M0nica any photos of the paper dress?

No, say nothing, she chose it, it fits her, she likes it!

Hope she has the best time

I am sure the other pupils who have been at school with her know she is a bit quirky so do not expect her to turn up in a 'normal' dress.

M0nica - My daughter also made a paper dress. It wasn't for a "prom" though.
She went on to work in fashion design.

I think what is being missed is that the GD has ASD. If this is really a Disney style dress, the nails will be out at the prom. It’s one thing to wear what you like and dare to be different but something else if you can’t shrug off the snarky comments. I spent my teens wearing vintage clothes from the 40s and 50s and had the confidence to respond to comments. I had a large friendship group at school and never felt like I had to try and fit in. The OPs GD on the other hand may already be singled out as different and may not be able to handle the comments. Do you think OP that she’s being ‘directed’ into that choice by other girls showing her what they (are not) going to wear and she is trying to fit in?

Google prom dress and see what comes up

Grammaretto

M0nica any photos of the paper dress?

Unfortunately, no.

Whatever she feels confident in is what's right for her.

DGD's was fairly understated, a lovely fitted dress with a fishtail.
Her younger sister said "Well, I won't be wearing that when it's my turn!" 😁

Schools often have a rail of second-hand prom dresses because they know that not everyone can afford the silly prices charged. The girls who may only wear them once hand them in for others to enjoy.

Say nothing at all. Let her wear the dress she chose and loves. Let her be who she is and celebrate her prom night.
You could have the most fantastic dress but if you don't feel right in it, you don't want to wear it. Tell her she looks great.

Any such chance of a photo?

She loves it and has the confidence to wear it, I expect she finds some of your clothes ugly, teens and old people rarely have the same taste in clothes.

This is not about a dress

The dress reflects her personality, who she is

Please accept her as she is, no if, buts or what people think

If she likes the dress, I assure you, there are others that will like it too even if they don't say do

Nothing hurts more than your family rejecting you and trying to change "for your own good"

It’s a bit of a poser, on the one hand she innocently think she looks lovely in the dress, on the other pupils may laugh at her which could be tragic.
I would give my honest opinion on the two dresses and say which one you think she looks best in.You can’t insist on it, but if there are any problems at the prom, for the future she will trust your judgement.I really hope that it goes well for her.

I googled “what’s in for prom dresses”. Take a look.

The in at the moment is a fitted top, maybe frills on the shoulder strap and a big, layered puffy skirt, as much frill and decoration as you like.

Does that sound like her choice? If it’s got puffy sleeves she may want to take them off.