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Why are we subjected to such rubbish

(114 Posts)
Sashabel Thu 02-Dec-21 14:16:33

Why would you allow the cameras into your disorganised, junk filled house and then let the likes of Stacey Solomon in to re-organise it?
Why would you let a team of cleaners in to transform your filthy living conditions into something more bearable and feel it is OK to share the experience on national television?
What goes through the minds of people who want to share the fact that they are in debt because they only buy designer stuff and eat take-aways 5 nights a week so are happy let two minor celebrities into their home to explain how to save money by doing more home cooking and shopping for cheaper alternatives?
Add all the above to the ridiculous number of cookery programmes we have to endure and I am increasingly turning to the "off" button on my remote.
This is just TV producers being lazy and unimaginative

sparkynan Sat 04-Dec-21 07:41:53

Escape to the chateau is the story of Dick and Angel Strawbridge, they do anything and everything to make a living, to enable them to live in the chateau. I enjoy watching their adventures, and wish them well and Good Luck.

As for rubbish TV....One persons rubbish is another persons treasure! Although Naked Attraction, makes me cringe, so I turn to another channel...lol

Shropshirelass Sat 04-Dec-21 10:15:46

No way would I allow it no matter how much they pay, and certainly not in the surgery. The hoarders programme highlights mental health issues. My DM had a cousin who was a nurse and her house was a tip. She always apologised for the state of the house. DM told her that it was no one’s business if she wanted to live like that, her reply was that she didn’t want to but didn’t know how to sort it out! She appeared to have a mental block at home but was an excellent nurse.

Calistemon Sat 04-Dec-21 10:22:12

I'm not a hoarder. I just find it difficult to part with things, either they have sentimental value or they might come in useful one day or I might lose weight .......

It's just you may not realise it unless you looked in my cupboards, wardrobes and the attic.
hmm

tom16 Sat 04-Dec-21 12:03:51

Yeah - well said Sashabell I do agree with you - wouldn't any sane person be utterly ashamed at getting into such a state and want not put it on public show.
What is behind the thinking of the media that must think its ok to normalise this kind of living behaviour????

MissAdventure Sat 04-Dec-21 12:21:31

hmm

Harmonypuss Sat 04-Dec-21 17:27:30

@M0nica

4) Many of those with terrible homes are actually mentally ill. Either depressed or suffering from Hoarding syndrome, a recognised mental health problem that often arrises after personal trauma.

As someone with 'hoarding tendencies' I can assure you that there is no such medical term as 'Hoarding Syndrome'. Hoarding is a recognised condition but its definitely NOT a 'syndrome'. We're also not all 'mentally ill' and for your education, 'depression' is a mental health condition.

ANYONE can have 'hoarding tendencies', with or without mental health issues. I know a number of people whose 'collections' have got out of hand, they're not depressed or in any other way mentally ill, just overwhelmed with the amount of 'stuff' they've collected and aren't sure where to start when they realise they have too much and need to do something about it.

Some of us, me included, are physically disabled and find it difficult to do the actual sorting/removal of the now no longer needed 'stuff'.

SOME will have experienced some form of trauma in their lives which has caused them to retain 'stuff ' for any of a variety of reasons but for many it can be because these things might give them a feeling of safety or security.

A little like (and I say little because there are so very few similarities) being an addict of some (common) sort, one has to admit they have an issue (not necessarily a problem) and then there's the embarrassment of whether or not to ask for help. UNLIKE AA, NA, GA etc, finding help for a hoarding issue is like finding rocking horse poo, there is so little help out there, there's no consistency from one part of a city to the next, never mind different cities, counties, etc, it's no wonder that SOME people are so desperate for help that they'll see these types of TV programmes advertised and will feel that that is their only chance of help.

So, your point 3, where you said "They really do want a solution to a problem that is really overwhelming them so much they cannot cope with it and apply to these programmes as a last resort", is actually the most likely of anything anyone has suggested.

For those who look at the homes on those programmes down your noses, those are the LUCKY ones (yes, lucky), because getting onto these programmes is not only a last resort but for the person with the problem, it's like winning the lottery!

Also, as my final point to everyone, don't assume everyone who hoards is mentally ill, we're not!

Germanshepherdsmum Sat 04-Dec-21 18:11:40

Unfortunately depression can, if untreated, rob you of all motivation to do anything, even blindingly obviously needed cleaning and tidying.

Calistemon Sat 04-Dec-21 18:17:46

Also, as my final point to everyone, don't assume everyone who hoards is mentally ill, we're not!

I keep thinking I may have hidden treasure under the stairs or in the attic, but probably not.

Flying ducks anyone?

Germanshepherdsmum Sat 04-Dec-21 18:39:38

Pigs more like.

M0nica Sun 05-Dec-21 08:28:00

Harmony. I am not suggesting and did not suggest that all those who hoard have mental health problems, but some do and this is recognised www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0005796704000531 so I think that tv programmes should be very careful over who they select for these programmes, because in such cases, the mental health difficulties of these people can be exacerbated by featuring in a programme.

From personal experience I would say there is a real difference between people who hoard and people who do not throw things away, or have collections that sometimes get out of hand or like you, physically, cannot sort things out.

I will admit that I haven't watched these programmes in a decade or more. I watched the early ones, not to look down on anyone but to understand how and why people got into these situations, but after the first series when the programme makers moved to setting people up to make them look inadequate or stupid, I stopped watching and now avoid all such programmes.

I was unaware that 'syndrome' had a precise definition in psychology

Sago Sun 05-Dec-21 09:18:51

I cannot watch any of these dreadful reality shows but I guess regarding the hoarding it must be very comforting to know there are other people out there.
I wonder how many people these shows have motivated to do something about their hoarding.

Jane43 Tue 07-Dec-21 10:38:55

Why would you stand stark naked in a line of other people, have your nether regions exposed and discussed, then your mid section and so on? With the house clearance and cleaning programmes I can see that the benefits outweigh the costs but with Naked Attraction I can’t see any benefits for the participants at all.

M0nica Wed 08-Dec-21 07:47:26

Escept an opportunity for exhibitionists to out-exhibition anyone else.