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Age going against me!

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Rainbow24 Fri 16-Aug-24 07:41:36

Started a new job recently I am 60.

It’s in social care kids where I have worked for many years with some good experience and outcomes. The kids love me by the way as I have good boundaries and they know I “care”.

I have worked my way up to Manager and decided a few years ago I much prefer working “on the ground” so to speak.

One thing I have noticed in my new job is that I am 20 years older than the oldest staff member in the team and there is a good 35 years between me and most of the staff.

I have good experience and knowledge which is not taken into account. I am almost seen as irrelevant, which has crept in over the last couple of years. I was even asked yesterday by a new younger employee “do I have much energy”, to which I replied well I did a seven mile walk yesterday and played football with the kids, what did you do!

Qualifications are seen as being more important than worked experience. It’s frustrating for me when the deputy talks down to me and makes poor decisions which I have challenged on several occasions, to be reported for being confrontational this was in my first week! As I could clearly see the disrespectful way I was being spoken down to!

I know you will say report to HR but I know nothing will be done.

I will probably leave. To experience ageism is not pleasant. I remember embracing the more senior work force when I was younger, not dismissing them as being out of touch 😞

Nannapat1 Sun 18-Aug-24 17:56:57

If I've understood correctly, you have taken a much lesser role in an organisation where you were once manager. Having done so, do you not accept that you will now be under and take instruction from the current manager?
Having said that, I've found that my opinion is very much less valued by those much younger than me- I'm 72. My DD, aged 34, asks me for advice, ignores it and then choices to be guided by a friend (her age) who has said exactly what I said! The way if the world I'm afraid.

Nannapat1 Sun 18-Aug-24 17:57:50

*chooses...spellcheck! 😡

sunglow12 Sun 18-Aug-24 18:53:03

I was very lucky working as a registered children’s nurse on a small unit . There were only about 10 registered nurses and two of in charge . I was at least twice their ages and same age as most of their mums and even one gran . I was always included in nights out including clubs and still in contact . One going to come to our holiday home with her husband to stay even . So lucky but I did seem to amuse them and new staff have heard of me apparently .

Rainbow24 Sun 18-Aug-24 20:38:05

I think my card was marked before I even was able to give an opinion on anything, as they were fully aware of my background. The Managers were very good at giving me the most menial jobs which I did with grace. Being the one to be left behind to clean the homes whilst the others did activities. I did not complain and got on with what needed to be done. When I challenged it was in an open forum with others around team meeting where it was encouraged to voice concerns. The fact I did not receive acknowledgement of my resignation proves to me they wanted me out!

Sara1954 Mon 19-Aug-24 06:32:04

My husband and myself are quite aware that if we didn’t own the company we would be struggling to keep our current positions, our children would have sacked us, the IT side of the business proving very challenging for us.
But we bring a lot of experience, we’re flexible, there’s no question of being too good for anything, we’ve gracefully taken a step back.
We have just employed a 77 year old, who is excellent, and we haven’t the heart to get rid of a man well into his eighties, who does odd jobs.
I think in our sixties/seventies we still have a great deal to offer, but probably need to accept other younger employees are more up to date with things, times change.