Why am I embarrassed?

You could buy some earplugs.
Its probably the easiest way to solve the noise problem without any upset.

Yes, have thought about this but a friend said her DIL does this and did not hear a someone attempting to break in, lucky her OH was alert.

I was thinking about a white noise machine, wondered if a google thingy!! would do for this, does anyone know. I saw one in Curry's yesterday for £35. Thought I could just say "Google just play white music" and it would drown it out.

What about recording the shenanigans and playing it back , maybe on a quiet afternoon ? I am joking of course , but the white noise thing might help

You need an iphone with sleep phones which consist of a hair band with flat speakers in that you can lie comfortably on your pillow and hear the music.

The problem you are describing is common in hotel rooms where sexual activity seems to be an integral part of the experience.

If I were you I would cheer very loudly when the activity comes to its climax, so to speak.

Luckygirl ?

Why wouldn't you be embarrassed? It is embarrassing to hear other people having sex.

Some years back a rather po-faced doctor was a neighbour for a short time. One night she was having the loudest sex it's possible to have - she shrieked and he grunted for about an hour

A week later she turned up as a locum on the ward I was working on - I was tempted to ask her for the chap's phone number.

If you have the courage perhaps shout loudly or bang on the wall so they know you hear. They probably have no idea and would hate the thought of you 'eavesdropping'.

Or you could make similar loud noises each time so they have an idea of what you are hearing!

Do you know the neighbours on the other side? maybe they would speak to them. The couple may be unaware that they can be heard.

Have your radio beside the bed, and turn it to LOUD when the noise begins. If yu can hear them, they can hear you (or your radio)

From what was said about back to back bedrooms, any way of retaliating with noise might be heard by other neighbours too. I think ear plugs or headphones are the best bet ( i use an earphone in the ear that is not on the pillow, to listen to the radio at night to help me sleep). They surely realise that they can be heard unless they think you are asleep when they start and continue to sleep through it. I think people are less self conscious/ considerate these days. I wonder what they would do if they had children around?

The neighbours on the other side have the stairs and landing together plus the bathroom. The female is deaf, she is quite young forties but has two hearing aids.

I have banged my wardrobe doors a couple of times, but I felt bad about this, I don't know why.It didn't make any difference.

She has a teenage grandson who stays most nights except when lover is there. In fact he seems to live there.

You could buy sound proofing wall paper next time you decorate?

Play some music so they know that if they can hear that then you can hear them. I do like the idea of cheering or clapping at the finale though ??

Have a loud conversation with a friend when everyone is out in their gardens so she (neighbour) can over hear saying “gosh these walls are paper thin especially the bedroom ones and I can hear every little thing!?”

I would knock the door and say is everyone all right. I thought I heard someone in pain? ?

You could play some music in your bedroom, or turn a radio up quite loud, when there is "activity" on the other side of the party wall.

Your neighbour may genuinely not have realised that they can be heard.

Presumably the "activity" doesn't last all night ? I'd suggest that you get some sleep earphones for your iPhone or iPad and play some nice music or meditation sounds for a certain amount of time - an hour perhaps - to cover the duration of the next-door activities. Good luck.

You could perhaps play a drum solo CD.

We once had a flat and the couple underneath were usually quiet except on Father's Day.

Perhaps as soon as it begins, play this at full volume

I have noticed this in hotels. I suppose that is a temporary thing that you can laugh off.

I think I'd be inclined to ignore it. Perhaps put your radio on as the "disturbance" starts and they will hear it and realise you can hear them.

Alexa does have several white noise apps you can enable

I would stand close to the wall and blow a whistle very loudly.

My sister had a thin wall problem (modern semi)

At 4am every day the neighbour's alarm would go off even when they were on holiday.

Her solution was to fix a grid-work of 2by2 ply on the dividing wall with soft insulation material in between which she then plaster boarded over.

The wall was professionally plastered.

Problem solved!