Making extra work

Hello, gilly. Nice to see you back.

I'm in the 'never irons sheets' camp. I also never iron pillow cases or duvet covers.

Hate ironing.

PECS, I do not believe that the Husband of the opening poster in this thread was being inconsiderate in going to sleep in a spare bedroom in the house. He moved because the OP was snoring, and in that, he considered that he required quality rest and allowed his wife to continue her rest. That I believe is a considerate act, and the changing of the bed could be "sorted out" next morning.

However, what we have witnessed on this forum is another "my man is inconsiderate and useless" thread created, when if anyone looks at the situation, he in my view acted quite reasonably.

Had he not moved and had a very poor nights rest, no doubt the OP would have been complaining how irritable and bad-tempered he was next day.

Its not a court case, grandad.
It was a light hearted thread.

Have you counted how many responses sympathise with the poster and how many say the clean sheets could go hang? No, neither have I, but the relative numbers could show the balance of opinions.

How would you felt had you made and put up a set of beautiful shelves, perfectly finished, and Mr G1943 had immediately put down a hot iron on one, spoiling the gleaming varnish? Or made a concrete path, and smoothed the concrete, to find that she had walked on it while it was stil soft, leaving a row of size 5 footprints? Or washed and polished the car, then found it covered in spots from the spray paint she was using to renovate a cane chair?

If you could endure these things silently, you would be a saint. Most men would tell their friends - and have a laugh about "Women!!"

That should, of course, have read "Mrs G1943" not "Mr G1943"

I am just out of Hospital and SO was doing some stuff around my apartment while I was in.
He phoned me last Friday , the day I was due home, at 7.15am to say he was here.
What did i want him to do? Mainly make sure everything was tidy and the kitchen was clean(I know he has been eating lunch there!!)
He comes to pick me up at lunchtime and tells me he has not had time to do the kitchen but had cleaned under the sofa, the bed and started to clear out the cupboard in the garden room.
So all the stuff from said cupboard is all over the dining table and the floor underneath, and the kitchen looks like a bomb went off in it.
This is an open plan apartment and you walk past the kitchen area to get to the living space.
He rinsed dishes and left them on the worktop above the dishwasher,,,duh.
Sorry for the long post needed to get it off my chest.

Yes MissAdventure, a light-hearted thread created at the expense of some husband who only tried to be considerate in my view.

But with some women (not all) on this forum, many would expect little else.

The simplest solution would be not to put clean sheets on the guest bed until your visitors actually arrive.

I would also request DH not to use the guest bathroom if we had two, which we don't.

Golly, I must be old-fashioned. I would never expect anyone to sleep in sheets that had been used by anyone else, except their spouse.

The very thought of visitors not having clean sheets makes me feel slightly sick.

Grandad1943 - I am sure you will be outraged, let's face it, outrage is your favourite place to be but, honestly are you for real?

Yes, very much for real, Iam64, and very much for equality and respect in both sexes.

In that case Grandad1943 women have got miles to make up!
All those years of MiL jokes, tits & bums jokes bandied about by men, men handing over the housekeeping and demanding meals, moaning down the pub about the missus or 'her indoors' ...if we are talking equal the see-saw is nowhere near balanced yet! Get a grip!

I would strip the bed, wash the sheets etc and put them in the airing cupboard until guests are due to arrive and then make up the bed. Then if he wanted to sleep in another bed he'd have to sleep on it with no bed linen or make it himself which he probably wouldn't do.

I have a cover/ throw thing that goes over the duvet so the bed in the spare room is often un made. The only people who regularly use it are the DGC so they can cope with sheets not newly laundered. If I know other friends are coming overnight I would put clean sheets for them but the DGC can use the sheets next time they come. Obviously if friends are with us for longer I would strip the bed and leave it unmade until required! My friends are quite clean!

I don't make up the guests' beds or prepare the guest bathroom until last possible minute because my DH is EXACTLY the same. I always think it's a bit like a dog......marking out his territory !

I would be glad if DH moved into the spare room so I can snore away in peace, without him waking me up to tell me to be quiet.
I have thought of moving out myself, to be considerate, but that would soil the clean sheets for the next visitor, as yet unplanned.

Grandad, no one can know whether the OP husband is considerate or not from the minimal information she has revealed on this thread. The dynamics of other people's relationships are often a mystery. It's a fact that some people, when they live together (that's men and women) rub each other up the wrong way and it's not for us to make a judgement on what is after all a facet of human nature. I can't speak for her, but like a lot of posts on GN she has merely posted in exasperation, it happens all the time, not necessarily about partners, sometimes it's about neighbours, friends, children, parents even our lovely grandchildren.

Having two sons, I would concede that there can be a negativity towards men at times what springs to mind particularly is how the occasional advertisement has been skewed to make men look stupid, but I have to echo PECS's comment, "Get a Grip" that is nothing compared to the tidal wave of verbal/physical bashing that women have had to put up with and still do. Two wrongs don't make a right but stalking the threads of GN with the sole purpose of seeking out examples of everyday domestic gripes doesn't make the poster, or those who join in with similar moans, out and out misandrist/s

Returning to the original thread, my dear little 4 year old grandson had one of his very occasional accidents and wet the bed on Saturday night when he was staying with us, I did have a protective sheet being an ex Brownie I like to live up to the motto "Be Prepared" Although my observations tell me that such accidents or more likely with boys, having had two of them, if my memory serves me well, than it did with my gd. Well in my world anyway. Am I allowed to say that I wonder

Anyway bringing together the two main themes of the thread, laundering bed linen and misandry, I find the best thing to do with wee wee on the sheets is get them into the washing machine pronto. This can be done by either the male or female of the house, on this occasion it was me, but just let me say that my husband is equally good at dealing with such a task

I can see it's a bit irritating to have to change the sheets again but it's not the end of the world, unless you're incapacitated.

Bathroom - it can't have taken more than five minutes to get it pristine again if your husband only used it once or twice.

It doesn't take long to change beds ,it would take longer to get over a bad nights sleep .
I've a routine for bedding ,it gets changed twice weekly ..always has ..because its what my mother did .When my MIL visits the bed has usually been made up from the day she left around a month before and NO ONE goes near it.She wont sleep in a bed if anyone has even sat on it .The other spare rooms are used as and when needed ,,including afternoon naps because they're in a quieter part of the house and some weeks I find I have 5 double beds to change wednesdays and Saturdays .I iron sheets too and duvet covers and the GC's knickers .I like ironing its a mindless thing that I do while watching TV or listening to music

Perhaps you should wash bedding weekly paddyann to save the environment!

TerriBull Quote [ Grandad, no one can know whether the OP husband is considerate or not from the minimal information she has revealed on this thread. The dynamics of other people's relationships are often a mystery. It's a fact that some people, when they live together (that's men and women) rub each other up the wrong way and it's not for us to make a judgement on what is after all a facet of human nature.]End Quote.

TerriBull, I thought people placed posts such as this threads opening post would be so forum members could comment on situations in the OPs lives. In this case, a considerable amount of information was given such as her snoring as the reason why her husband moved to an alternative bedroom.

TerriBull Quote [ Get a Grip" that is nothing compared to the tidal wave of verbal/physical bashing that women have had to put up with and still do.] End Quote

Back on the old chestnut TerriBull of women having a continual tidal wave of abuse thrown at them.Well, anyone visiting the threads on this forum will very swiftly realise that men in equality face a continual wave of abuse from women in their lives. Look towards the Equalities Act, for that legislation has done a huge amountin reducing abuse in all forms towards women and many other minority groups which some on this forum would seem to be totally unaware of.

TerriBull Quote [ Two wrongs don't make a right ]End Quote

Well, just about the only truly correct statement you have made in your posts on this thread TerriBull. I will also continue to point out gross misandry on this forum whenever I believe it is prevalent and rants such as yours TerriBull will certainly not dissuade me.

It is little wonder that a number of equalities groups are considering action against MN & GN as was admitted by the site management some weeks back. No doubt your senseless rants such as that in the post @ 11:52 today TerriBull may well assist such groups in their efforts.

I can’t see the point of having rooms in the house which are out of bounds for anyone other than the occasional visitor and are kept in immediate readiness for that visitor even though you’ve no idea when he’ll be arriving.

I can understand someone feeling mildly exasperated if they’d prepared rooms for imminently arriving visitors but even then, it’s surely not worth having a big argument about.

For goodness sake use the rooms yourselves if that makes sleeping easier for one or both of you and don’t worry about being in a perpetual and pristine state of readiness for visitors.