AIBU to be so up and down?

How hard it is to be so brave and you certainly are, your family will never forget you, your love is in their hearts, love and strength to you?

EllaKeat thank you for sharing your devastating news with us, how very brave you are. I'm so very sorry and send love and hugs and xxx

So sorry to hear that you have to live with this! I did wonder when you posted previously that all was not well.
Huge ((hugs)) I am so glad you are feeling well now.
No one can say for certain how long any of us has left.

DH has stage 4 cancer but so far he is well and enjoying life and making plans.

When he was first diagnosed I said that I would stop all my activities and devote myself more to him. "Why?" he asked, "I'm not stopping anything so why should you".
He hasn't.

I'm so very sorry. Your children and grandchildren will always have good memories of you.

You are truly one brave woman EllaKeat. Your post has touched me.

Sending you a huge virtual hug. I think you sound pretty amazing.
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I would humbly and respectfully suggest you find the very very best professionals to talk to about this most difficult situation.

More love and hugs here. You will always be a part of your children and GCs' lives - not just as memories, but as the essence of who you are, which will be part of them.

Well done for setting to with the donkeys on such a difficult day for you.

I remember when I worked in hospitals a lady in similar circumstances to yours said to me something along the lines of: "I get fed up with people asking me what I am going to do - obviously I am going to live till I die as we all do." It seemed a sound philosophy.

Oh - and YANBU.

Ella my thoughts are with you. for your rainy days.

*I’m sorry you’ve had this news, EllaKeat. You sound like a wonderful person and you’ll be giving your family some lovely memories. Don’t forget, too, that doctors’ predictions are just that, a prediction, and they can be wildly inaccurate.

EllaKeat
Well done for carrying on caring for the animals and for your fortitude and humour.
I hope you can make some lovely memories for your damily.

There will always be someone on here to talk to when you need a friendly chat

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Sorry!

Ellakeat , the app is called Recordmenow and the lady who created it did so for exactly the situation you find yourself in .

It’s very easy to use . I hope you find it if use x

Peace and love to youx

I am so sorry. I hope our story can give you hope. Our DiL had the same diagnosis three years ago, she still with us. Last year it spread to her brain we were told it would be her last Christmas, she is still with us. A few months ago we were told once again to prepare ourselves, she is still with us. Is it the treatment keeping her going? Is the prayers and positive thoughts from friends, family and gransnetters, is it the hope? And the will to live? I don’t know I just want to say don’t give up and live every day to the full. Along with my DiL I will keep you in my thoughts.

I am so sorry, no words can make it better. I would be feeling the same. Sending hugs. And you will always be part of your family's life. They will remember you with much love and you will always be in their hearts.

I echo the ideas of leaving something: recorded messages and videos, letters, photos and love.

Maybe your children or grandchildren can be part of this - it may help them too to make a Living Memory with you.

When my Mum received her final prognosis, we talked a lot and her biggest regret was not seeing my younger son grow up (the elder was already in the army).

There is never a good time to die; no one ever wants to leave behind their beloved grand-children.

I don't know how old yours are, but almost certainly you will be able to see in them even now, the seeds of the adults they will become.
That seemed to comfort my mother and indeed my boy was as kind and caring then, as he is now at 40.

Stay with us as long as you feel able EllaKeat because remote as we are, it doesn't stop us from genuinely caring about you and sending good thoughts, prayers and much love.

Gin and chocolate sound exactly the right medicine

No of course you are not being unreasonable to feel so up and down. May I suggest you contact the McMillian nursing service. McMillian nurses are very knowledgable and able to provide emotional and physical support for people in your position.
They have a support line on 0808-808-00-00 for you to talk 8am- 8pm 7 days a week and hopefully will put you in touch with a McMillian nurse in your area who can visit you at home.

You’re a courageous and inspirational woman EllaKeat. I’m so sorry to hear your news but so pleased you’re feeling physically strong just now. Of course continue to do everything you can, enjoy what you do. Make memories for your grandchildren, your love will always be with them. There’s a lot to process, why wouldn’t you be up and down? Never think you’re being unreasonable. Sending love and a hug.

Dear EllaKeat
I'm so sorry to hear of your diagnosis.
At times it must be unbearable to think about it.
You are very brave and I admire your spirit.
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I agree you are very brave and making the best of a difficult situation. You will always be a part of your family's life. Concentrate on living each day well. Take care

EllaKeat, you've been through so much that most of us can only imagine how tough it's been. You are still here, though, and feeling well, which is wonderful.

You know that you won't have long to live. That's the only difference between you and me this morning.

I don't know how long I have - but then, any one of us could die at any time. We tend to ignore it, never face up to it and act as if we have all the time in the world.

Each day is very precious, should be appreciated and never wasted. Carry on with your normal (80 percent) days and grab all the happiness you can!

Bless you Ella xx

EllaKeat, I really feel for you, especially as I witnessed both my mother, and a very dear friend of mine go through the same thing. I remember my friend telling me that none of us know how long we have on this earth, and instead of worrying about when our lives will end, we should all make an effort to make the most of each day that we do have. Which is exactly what she did.

Whilst she was well enough, she made memories ... lots and lots of memories, with all her loved ones and friends, so she will always be a part of their lives. So many of us waste so much of our precious time, and before we know it, it's too late.

Cry and scream whenever you feel the need to, and don't try to be brave for the sake of others, take strength from everyone around you. And on your good days, enjoy life to the full. We're all on borrowed time, so make the most of it whilst you can. And whilst you're feeling fabulous, have a fabulous Christmas with your loved ones, and make it one that everyone will always remember! xxx

I just wanted to thank you all for your lovely messages ?

I really am not brave though. Brave is when you choose to do something difficult or dangerous, so it feels wrong to claim that one!

I am actually okay. I thinks its quite normal to have those bolts of shock when you suddenly remember again, so having a wobble is acceptable 5o me and I really dont think I need to speak to anyone about it at the moment.

I am taking it slow and steady at the moment, just plodding along as usual. I am in great danger of running wild at the moment - booking huge lodges for family get togethers etc., so trying 5o just steady the ship until the New Year?

I feel wonderfully healthy. Which is a bummer in a lot of respects. It makes it harder to actually believe the experts.

I'll bloody outlive the lot of them?