moving ...

Have you visited the new flat with your brother? He'll probably advise if this is the right thing for you. Get excited about a new chapter to your life. My mum procrastinated about moving nearer to us (50 miles, of country roads and limited public transport) for many years while she was active and able, stayed in her familiar area in a flat she hated and eventually had ill health and dementia, her last 5.years were miserable and difficult for us all
Hope the reason you've not been back on here is because you've been making arrangements to sign for your new home and hope this question is just a "now it's here is this right" wobble. Good luck

This is the start of a new adventure in your life, if you want to take it.
Your grandchildren will grow up and have busy lives. Your daughter will adjust.
You have your brother nearby if you move and other people too. If you can't stand where you are , move.
Then bloom where you're planted.

unless i am wrong - you can move and if you do not like it then you can move back? if you do not try you will never know.
depending on where you are in west sussex there are usually good public transport links. I am familiar with Worthing, rustington and east preston - all good areas for the buses. you may decide to stay or move to east sussex. grab the opportunity with both hands - most things are reversible if things do not work out

Sounds a good move to me. Maybe you could to help pay for driving lessons for your daughter, if that’s her worry. Always a good life skill, anyway.

Hope you decided to move just seen your post Enjoy a new start while you can Great for your health discover new places have fun decorating your new place and be near your brother it’s a no brainier decision GO sign the paper work ASAP

Definitely go, you have mentioned that your brother and relatives are good company. Too many mums put their lives on hold to suit their children, and grown up ones at that. Don’t let others dictate to you.
Do let us know how you get on.

I’m moving soon, you live once, I can’t wait, a new chapter x

My friend spent ages agonizing over whether to move nearer her daughter. Finally moved and 6 months later SIL got a new job and they moved on. Your daughter could move anytime and you might have missed your chance

Definitely go, don't put your daughter & grandchildren before your own happiness. I moved 250 miles away from my DM when DD was 9, I met the "love of my life", DM & Step-F came to visit, we went to see them for holidays.

I moved 5 years ago to be closer to DD as I was a Widow, I now live in Devon, between the Sea & Dartmoor. I live abut 10 miles from DD, close but not too close. No regrets.

Take this opportunity, your DD can visit as can DGC. GC grow up, they will love seaside holidays & you will be close to your Brother, living in a place you like. Get packing & good luck

You sound like you really want to go so tell your daughter what Tooyoungytobeagrandma's neighbour told her - 'When you're my age you'll understand'. Sell the benefits - 'you'll be able to come and see us all with the grandchildren, and be near the sea, whenever you want'. If the flat is temporary, there's a chance you'll move somewhere bigger, or even move back near her, who knows what the future holds? Your DD may move and then you would wonder why you didn't go. Follow your heart (and your head).

Gooooo, it sounds as though you want to, I wouldn’t feel happy living in a place I didn’t like

Sorry, pressed Post too soon! I’d get packing and go. There seem to be many advantages and few disadvantages, from what you’ve told us.

Get packing those boxes.

moggie, what are you waiting for? Just go!!

moggie57 you have got the chance to go beside the sea and have already been offered a flat, just go and enjoy it.

I have been having the same thoughts for about two years and have still done nothing about it so I need to get my own life in order as I would love to settle near a coastal area. I too have stayed in my area for many years just to please my daughter who has my grand-children. Life is too short.

moggie If you hate where you live and don't feel there's much benefit to staying there, I think you should seize the opportunity to move. West Sussex is a lovely county - I lived there for several years - and the weather is pretty good there too.

Good luck and I hope it all turns out well for you.

You only live once so just please yourself and don’t be bullied or black mailed by anyone.

I agree with everyone else, sounds from your post that you want to go so don't miss the opportunity. I'm sure you can agree a way of visiting with your daughter, bed settee.B&B etc. The problem can't be insurmountable with goodwill on both sides. Good luck.

Go go go. How exciting for you.

Do what's best for you, not your daughter. Get a bed settee and your grandchildren could come down for the holidays and spend some lovely times with you by the sea.

Definitely do what’s best for you. Doesn’t sound like you see a lot of your grandchildren and you and your brother get on.
Go for it!!

Go! Go! Go!
I'm green with envy!! A flat in West Sussex? I wouldn't hesitate!! There are trains for your daughter to use if she wants to visit. Yes, she'll miss you, but she'll learn to be independent. And she'll out find the advantages of having a mum near the coast: free seaside holidays, if a bit of a squash! And who knows, you might have more quality time with your grandchildren!
Enjoy your new life!

Just move as you have the chance

Go and be happy. You only get one life, you deserve to be happy and to live where you want. Good luck xx

Yes, IVe always thought of my kids first.... what a wasted time that’s been. Seize this opportunity to move. I’m stuck near my kids and grandkids ... which is good.... but now I’m older I wish I was nearer my sister. We could move , but my husband is belligerent and won’t even consider it..I’m telling you if he goes first my house will be up for sale next day. Go! Do what is best for you for once.