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Shoppers shouting at other shoppers?

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Taliya Tue 28-Jul-20 15:10:53

I had to go into town today to buy my grandson a birthday card and post it and while I was there I thought I would go into the supermarket there to get a few things I could not get online ( not a supermarket I usually go to). I put my face mask on and did my shopping. I walked down an aisle to get to the checkout to pay and there was a middle aged lady and an older lady standing in the middle of the aisle chatting, so I walked round them giving them some distance. The next thing I know the middle aged lady starts shouting at the top of her voice....You are not social distancing etc and went on a rant at me. Well a few choice words were exchanged! I told the security guard on the way out and I think he went to have a word with her. They need to put signs up in shops now that it's unacceptable for customers to start shouting at other customers. During lockdown I never saw anyone shout at another customer. Since the face masks were introduced I've witnessed someone in another supermarket confront someone who wasn't wearing a mask. It's getting ridiculous now. I'm shopping for everything online from now because I don't need this kind of upset and hassle when I'm shopping. I'm not being unreasonable am I in expecting not to be shouted at. Loads of people over the last few months may have got closer than 2 meters to me while I'm shopping but I don't start shouting at them . People need to chill more .

4allweknow Wed 29-Jul-20 10:33:09

Some people think as tge have a mask on social distancing is no longer required, it is! The masks are to help when it is difficult to do so. The two women should have moved. You should have shouted at them to move. Human nature - nothing like it.

seadragon Wed 29-Jul-20 10:33:13

When my path is blocked by people chatting in a supermarket aisle, I just stand there quietly whilst a queue quickly forms behind me. It's surprising how quickly the chatters notice and shift sharpish as the numbers increase.....

BusterTank Wed 29-Jul-20 10:44:10

This all happened while just doing a shop . Imagine what the shop staff go through everyday . My daughter has been spat at , pushed , shouted at and sworn at . This happens on a daily basis by people who should know better . The supermarket my daughter works at is in the country and most of the clientele is of an elderly age . But still they are climbing barriers and queue jumping . Has all morals gone out of the window . I think people now need to be held accountable for the actions . They need realise if the store staff didn't go into work when it was lock down they wouldn't of got there groceries . I think we all need to show our appreciation for what they do on a daily basis even though the virus is still out there . Every thing they do is for everyone safety not just to be awkward .

Phloembundle Wed 29-Jul-20 10:52:59

Some people now believe that we don't need to social distance if we're wearing masks judging by my recent experience in a shop.

timetogo2016 Wed 29-Jul-20 10:53:20

I had the very same thing happen to me Taliya.
In my local Morrisons four elderly people were in the middle of the aisle yapping away and i just had to ask them if they thought they were doing social distancing in a different way to the rest of the country ?.
I pointed out i have a disabled d who has to be overly carefull as she has breathing difficulties
They said nothing and i had to walk past them even though Morrisons had a one way system in place so i couldn`t go back down the aisle.
As i have said before you can`t educate the stupid.

Marmight Wed 29-Jul-20 10:57:07

I think after 4 months of lockdown tempers are frayed But there’s absolutely mo need for anyone to shout. A little respect & consideration from everyone goes a long way.
oopsaminty. Your friend could get one of these masks with a little flap wink

Youngatheart51 Wed 29-Jul-20 10:57:31

I haven't been to the shops yet as have been shielding which ends on Saturday ☺️ I'm dreading when I do go out as I can't wear a mask. I have tried, have been "practising" at home but they make me horribly claustrophobic. I can't even put my hand over my nose & mouth at the same time as I feel I can't breathe. The mask makes me feel I can't breathe & I get very panicky. I'm sure that when I do go out I will get the looks & mutterings which won't do much for my anxiety!

Tanjamaltija Wed 29-Jul-20 10:59:21

"You are not social distancing etc and went on a rant at me..." I bet she was not social distancing from her friend, to have her natter, either. That was a shop, not a day centre, so she was wrong to stop and chat, in the first place. I'd have stuck my tongue out at her, but, because of the mask, she would not have seen it... so I'd have rolled my eyes and moved on... without engaging with her, because that is what she wanted, the show-off.

justwokeup Wed 29-Jul-20 11:04:40

Glad to say in my local supermarket yesterday every single shopper and assistant was wearing a mask and there were a few s-d pleasantries going on but no-one seemed worried or put out at all. It does make me nervous when people come too close, or when people just stop in front of me, but that's life, isn't it? Shouting at someone, on the other hand, is completely unacceptable. Where did good manners go?

jaylucy Wed 29-Jul-20 11:05:35

Just seems that one of the side effects of this virus that hasn't been reported, is that some people seem to think that they have the right to be rude to complete strangers either face to face or on social media !
Go back to shopping in the supermarket, blow that woman! It's a big chance that you won't ever meet her or anyone like her again . If you do, be really childish and stick your tongue out at them as they walk away - wearing your mask, they won't be able to see you, but it will make you feel a whole lot better !!

justwokeup Wed 29-Jul-20 11:09:00

Youngatheart51 don't be put off. You can walk outside without a mask so try that first. It will be lovely to get out and about so take it slowly.

maddyone Wed 29-Jul-20 11:09:15

Taliya
You shouldn’t have been shouted at, that was unkind and rude. They should chat outside where they’re not blocking the aisle.

moobox Wed 29-Jul-20 11:24:36

I have noticed that although I could shout at people I can’t smile at them

25Avalon Wed 29-Jul-20 11:39:58

I bought our grandson a 1st birthday card from Amazon so I did not have to go to the shops as we are still isolating. Lovely card that cost £2.99, arrived in a couple of days.
Always worth googling things Taliya if you don’t want to go out shopping which isn’t much fun these days.

polnan Wed 29-Jul-20 11:41:12

I go to a small supermarket, well only just started going to shops, been having deliveries with isolation.

most shoppers used to be so pleasant, chatting etc..

now most everyone seems so miserable... if someone is in the way, whether chatting, or just parking their trolley out into the passage way, whilst they contemplate stuff on the shelves, I usually stop and say "excuse me" depending on vibes I get , I will mostly, smile, surely it shows in our eyes?
and say, didn`t want to smash your butt, or didn`t want to take inches off your bum! mostly I get a good response.

tough it they don`t like it, I have said excuse me..

yesterday, a lady was coughing away, just her, and another shopper and me,, in the aisle... she apologised and said not the virus, I have asthma, so we both stopped and suggested she should get a letter/note from her doc, so she doesn`t have to wear a mask as she explained it aggravate her asthma.
it was a pleasant chat, she didn`t seem to know she could be exempt..
as we parted. I thanked the other lady for chatting, and we both said we had been isolated and were lonely, and how "miserable" everyone seemed to have got... no more smiling, (well can we see the mouth smiling) and no more pleasantries...

this lockup has caused a terrible change in the English way of life in more ways than one.

lemongrove Wed 29-Jul-20 11:51:10

Although I have never been shouted at in shops, or witnessed it either, it must be upsetting.I think the virus problem has exacerbated worries so that even naturally pleasant people are liable to rage moments at times.As for the ones who are always ready to lose their rag....they must be off the scale.
I do the same as seadragon just stand waiting until they notice....then they are usually very apologetic and move aside.
It’s what ‘speakers’ do when addressing an audience, if people are chatting, they stop the talk and stand in silence until the chatty ones realise, and are then so embarrassed they keep quiet.?

Elderflower2 Wed 29-Jul-20 11:51:21

So far I've found the supermarket staff telling others to move away from me. Must have a magnet somewhere ;)

Riggie Wed 29-Jul-20 12:00:57

Theres a local supermarket I rarely use as people are always shouting at each other there anywhere, even without covid! A friend who goes there days its rife with pickpockets so I wonder if its for distraction?

suelld Wed 29-Jul-20 12:14:17

I live in Wales and currently there is no mask RULE except on Public Transport and similar - but I had to go out to the doctors yesterday for the first time and wore my mask - despite feeling anxious and VERY gaspy/uncomfortable as I have asthma - the feeling of not being able to breath with it on is awful - and stress of course makes it worse! I persevered however and got to the docs and back - but on my journey walking through town I only saw one elderly couple with masks on - NO-One else was wearing one! Re the chatting couple - I wouldn't have gone near them but if they were in the way of something I needed I (think) I would have asked them to move and mentioned social distancing - but not shouted at them! If it had happened to me in reality I'm not sure what I would have done, you never know until you're actually 'on the spot' do you?

EllanVannin Wed 29-Jul-20 12:16:36

It's going to take me long time before I go into supermarkets if this is the kind of reception you're going to be met with. We can all do without such behaviour during these times.
Arguments and snapping/ shouting are the last things we need.

Jaxjacky Wed 29-Jul-20 12:38:15

If you go online you can get a sunflower lanyard, bage, visor etcfor those with hidden issues wearing a mask, they’re not very expensive

ChrisK Wed 29-Jul-20 14:26:41

Well how about my local supermarket we have pickers for on line customers making up orders, it is a large branch of the biggest chain in the country and these on line pickers can be nose to tail inthe aisle, they reach across you and if they excuse themselves think it's okay, they just don't get it

cmwmoonshine Wed 29-Jul-20 16:29:47

My eldest CD was in a shop the other day and she spotted her dad's ex-wife who we all get on with really well in a nutshell she coughed but under her breath another woman said "ugh will you shut up and did already , coming in here with no mask and coughing all over us"
Now RD is not the type to bite someone's head off said "excuse me ? This lady is well into her 80s she has one lung and in that one lung she has cancer ! So if I were you I'd shut up and get on with your shopping! " then she called her a bad word !
Some people need to stop and think before they open their mouth

cmwmoonshine Wed 29-Jul-20 16:31:01

DD not CD or RD
Danny autocorrect ?

cmwmoonshine Wed 29-Jul-20 16:32:11

Damn not Danny Blimy ?