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Scotish midwifery to ban The word “Mother”

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Poppyjo Wed 27-Oct-21 23:40:14

I am sad to see the Scottish intend to ban the word “Mother” from maternity units, leaflets etc.,

Who on earth comes up with these ideas? I would think most of us are proud to be mothers and the word always makes one feel safe and secure and loved. I always as a child knew when my mother was around she would make everything alright. I know not every child is so lucky as I was, But please don’t ban the word “Mother”. What do other Grans think?

Elegran Thu 28-Oct-21 14:30:48

Germanshepherdsmum In that book, put me down for six hours.

Wheniwasyourage Thu 28-Oct-21 14:35:03

Good post (as always) Elegran. You're right, why not add a term instead of suggesting removing a perfectly acceptable one. The current fuss about inviting "people with a cervix" for screening could have been avoided if they had just said "women and others who have a cervix" or something like that. I'm sure you could phrase it better!

GrannyGravy13 Thu 28-Oct-21 14:39:58

Good post Elegran

AGAA4 Thu 28-Oct-21 14:53:48

Pammie1
My post was ironic as I just find it ridiculous to change wording.
We could change fathers into 'sperm donors' just as bad.

MayBeMaw Thu 28-Oct-21 15:12:18

Sometimes shouting is the only option

Really Alegrias? confusedconfused
I usually find it an indicator that someone has not only lost their temper, but frequently the argument too. .

Alegrias1 Thu 28-Oct-21 15:38:23

I find that shouting on here - posting in capitals, of course - happens when something has been posted innumerable times but other people just ignore it and post the exact opposite as though it was fact.

Alegrias1 Thu 28-Oct-21 15:41:55

Ooh - just an observation, made with no prejudice.

When paddyann54 SHOUTS she gets told off

When Elegran SHOUTS, her posts get praised.

How strange.

trisher Thu 28-Oct-21 16:02:12

I thought the best post on that thread was VioletSky's saying that in spite of all the previous shock stories Christmas and Easter still remained just as the word "mother" will.

Aveline Thu 28-Oct-21 16:09:12

You're easily impressed Trisher. It's Elegran that always seems to speak the most sense as far as I can see.

Baggs Thu 28-Oct-21 16:13:39

Elegran did not shout; she emphasised.

Baggs Thu 28-Oct-21 16:14:40

I think you need more than mere capitals for something to qualify as a shout.

Rosie51 Thu 28-Oct-21 16:15:13

Elegran very well summarised. Adding in wasn't liked by a couple of posters, most agreed it would be a totally inclusive way forward. As I recall the deleted thread went on to reference maternity units and real life situations and a poster said if you wanted to be referred to as 'mother' in those situations you could make that request.

Alegrias1 Thu 28-Oct-21 16:20:17

Baggs

Elegran did not shout; she emphasised.

Whereas paddyann54 was shouting?

Well well.

Baggs Thu 28-Oct-21 16:23:00

Alegrias1

Baggs

Elegran did not shout; she emphasised.

Whereas paddyann54 was shouting?

Well well.

I did not say anything about paddyann.

Baggs Thu 28-Oct-21 16:23:17

Alegrias1

Baggs

Elegran did not shout; she emphasised.

Whereas paddyann54 was shouting?

Well well.

Nor imply anything.

Baggs Thu 28-Oct-21 16:23:49

Alegrias1

Baggs

Elegran did not shout; she emphasised.

Whereas paddyann54 was shouting?

Well well.

You were the one making comparisons.

trisher Thu 28-Oct-21 16:24:37

Aveline

You're easily impressed Trisher. It's Elegran that always seems to speak the most sense as far as I can see.

I'm always impressed by reality*Aveline*. Speculation and forecasts of disaster don't impress me at all. They seldom materialise anyway.

Baggs Thu 28-Oct-21 16:24:45

I am completely unfamiliar with paddyann's (or anyone else's) capitals.

I used a few myself recently, again for emphasis.

trisher Thu 28-Oct-21 16:26:25

I don't like adding in because it is tautology.

Alegrias1 Thu 28-Oct-21 16:26:29

I know Baggs. paddyann54 was accused of shouting and Elegran is praised for emphasising. Just wondering how to tell the difference.

I have an inkling.

Baggs Thu 28-Oct-21 16:26:49

Sometimes I use underlining, sometimes italics for emphasis. If I wanted to shout something you'd know by the diction, not by the case of the letters.

Baggs Thu 28-Oct-21 16:27:34

Alegrias1

I know Baggs. paddyann54 was accused of shouting and Elegran is praised for emphasising. Just wondering how to tell the difference.

I have an inkling.

Inkle away?. Enjoy!

Alegrias1 Thu 28-Oct-21 16:28:56

Inkle I like that! grin

Elegran Thu 28-Oct-21 16:43:04

An occasional use of capitals for a few single words in a post (three in my post above, eight in Paddyann's) isn't shouting. It is one of the ways of emphasising a word.

SHOUTING IS WHEN POSTERS USE THEM FOR WHOLE SENTENCES, LIKE THIS, OR FOR A WHOLE POST.

Elegran Thu 28-Oct-21 16:45:21

Any bids on less than six hours?