AIBU? Provocative sweatshirt.

My oldest boy brought home a surfing t-shirt advertising a product for surf boards called SEXWAX. He was about 18. First time we saw it on his father ordered him to remove it and never wear it again.
Why don’t the parents of today show their authority and maintain standards.

Because they have different views to you.

Passed a young chap with a beard and long straggly hair
in the street yesterday. He was wearing a T-shirt which read

NOBODY KNOWS I AM REALLY A LESBIAN

The Herman Ze German sign always gets me when I go into Soho in London ?

GrannyGravy13

No different to French Connection’s FCUK a few years ago.

With all the publicity hopefully the business will stay afloat, it’s not been an easy few years.

I had a teenage boy turn up for his English oral exam with that t-shirt on. He thought it was hilarious until I told him it might have an effect on his Cambridge result.

I never knew b* meant that, no wonder my DD asked me not to use it.

Gransnet is so informative.

Going back to the OP, it’s difficult to determine the age of teenagers, particularly girls.

It wouldn’t be my choice, but obviously the parents were ok with it and if she was 16 or over it’s the girls choice,

GrannyGravy13

Going back to the OP, it’s difficult to determine the age of teenagers, particularly girls.

It wouldn’t be my choice, but obviously the parents were ok with it and if she was 16 or over it’s the girls choice,

TBH, although I’m no prude, I can’t imagine what sort of parents would be ‘OK’ with it, on a young teen daughter. Or on any age daughter, come to that.

(Or rather, I probably can imagine - only too well.?)

She was definitely not 16!
Either way 16, 18, or 80 to wear an item of clothing with the “double entendre “ I love BJ’s is pretty grim.

Maybe the parents don’t understand the meaning of BJ!

It could have been simply I love BJ. That's what I thought on reading first line of the OP.

Perhaps the apostrophe makes all the difference. With means the cafe. Without means the other meaning!!

I must be innocent too as I had no idea about the other connotations !
BJs is in fact a venue in Portugal and I very much doubt if they have any idea that some people find their sweatshirts offensive!
I was told that Fat Willy's means something completely different in surfing terms, or it was actually named after someone the founder knew.

Loopyloo. Today’s generation do not seem to be grammar conscious.

jaylucy do you really think the venue have no idea about how the slogan will be interpreted? What do you think salty but sweet refers to?

Dickens Mary Whitehouse was a heroine of mine when I was 11.
So heaven help me!
Who knows who I’m going to morph into!

(My username elsewhere is MaryWinehouse, which I’m ridiculously and pathetically pleased with ?)

It’s a bit naff to wear anything promoting anything; especially a pub

Sago

Fat Willy’s is not the same, this is a sweatshirt saying I heart BJ’s , salty but not so sweet on a teenager.

It’s really very provocative, the parents must be very naive or plain stupid.

Or, perhaps, they all found it funny? Just because someone has different taste doesn’t make them very naive or plain stupid

FannyCornforth

Dickens Mary Whitehouse was a heroine of mine when I was 11.
So heaven help me!
Who knows who I’m going to morph into!

(My username elsewhere is MaryWinehouse, which I’m ridiculously and pathetically pleased with ?)

... It's easy to dismiss MW as a right-wing, ultra Conservative, Christian, crank.

But even as a cultural / social liberal, I think she was right to be concerned about certain aspects of the so-called 'permissive' society.

"May I first share my fear that technology is overstepping itself, It does seem, to the lay mind, that the power of computer technology can reach a point where man is incapable of arresting the forces which he has released."

As Samira Ahmed (BBC) said recently...

She could have been talking about the impact of porn on school-age children today. An Ofsted report in June 2021 found 80% of girls were pressured to provide sexual images, and nominally adults-only platforms such as Pornhub and OnlyFans have been accused by campaigners and MPs of consistently failing to deal with abusive and exploitative material including under age content, upskirting, revenge porn and other non-consensual imagery.

... I think she had a valid point.

She definitely did.
I was horrified by Page 3 as a child.
I couldn’t believe it when I went to friends’ houses and saw their parents copies of The Sun.
It was so alien to me that it was so acceptable to some.
And I was a very rebellious and outspoken child (my poor parents )

When we holidayed in Newquay in mid eighties they sold fat willys and fat fannys surf shack T-shirt’s. but when I worked in a well known clothes store I remember a mother coming in with T-shirt with I love sex and a daughter wearing too many boys too little time on it! The daughter was around 11, I must admit I was horrified !

jaylucy

I must be innocent too as I had no idea about the other connotations !
BJs is in fact a venue in Portugal and I very much doubt if they have any idea that some people find their sweatshirts offensive!
I was told that Fat Willy's means something completely different in surfing terms, or it was actually named after someone the founder knew.

Oh please, come on - no-one could possibly so naive as to think they didn't know exactly what they were doing when they produced those sweatshirts. They knew exactly the kind of reaction it would provoke - and thus the publicity it would garner for them!

I think 95% of parents seeing a T-shirt with I love bj on the front would certainly know what it was meaning & salty & sweet!

Audi10 Thank you, I was beginning to think I was going a bit crazy!

My adult son had a tee shirt with Greggs logo on it and underneath was the caption Sex, Drugs and Sausage Rolls.

Thankfully he disposed of it before his children could read.

This reminds me of my friend. We'd been shopping for clothes for our impending trip to the Algarve. We must have been 15.

She got a pale blue T shirt with a beautiful pink cartoon cat on it. It also had the words, Pink Pussy on it.

We'd got back to her house and she put on the T shirt, showed her parents. Her father gulped and took her to one side. She came back, told me her Dad was going senile and informed me what he'd said it referred to.

We just couldn't believe it.

Slightly naive to say the least