How do I cope??

Lizg and everyone else suffering in this way (((hugs))) and

My heart goes out to you all in this situation. I have tried four times to reply and deleted each attempt. I just want you to know that that wives can have problems too despite trying very hard to be reasonable regarding access. We have had an horrendous summer if the truth be told.

Hello Amanda

My heart goes out to you.I was in a similiar situation 13-15 years ago.My son and his first wife divorced and him and us were denied access to our three oldest grandchildren for two years.It broke my heart.DS eventually took his ex to court and was given access again.
I wish all the best and hope you get to see your grandaughter very soon.

My son has been denied contact for 5 years now. He has fought in courts many times - each time the judge decreed that he see his children, they were 7 and 4 at the time. Each time the ex refused, she tried every trick in the book and the judge saw through her each time. Even accusing my son of being a Class A drug user and alcoholic. He was tested and was 100% clean.

To save a lot of expense we used a MacKenzie Friend. These are people who either give their time and expertise for either a small fee or just expenses. They can support you in court and advise you but not speak for you. They are wonderful.

This situation must be really difficult for you. I hope things get better soon.

Amanda I do wish you luck with this and hope it all works for you and your son. I don't have any advice but you have my best wishes

Click here for Denied Contact.

You can also send a private message to other members. Just click on their name and you will see 'Private Message' in the box next to their name.
Don't be nervous - we all had to learn how to use the site when we first joined.
At the top of any page you will find a blue box with the word 'Forums' and if you click on that you will get a list of all the different areas we cover - like relationships, health, chat, etc.
If the name in the box above our message is blue, you can click on it and see our profile, where we tell members a little about ourselves.
I have had an enormous amount of sympathy and support with my own family problem and I am sure you will find the same.
Send me a private message (pm) if you would like any more help on using the site.

amanda do try to find the "denied contact" thread! I am sure you will be helped by knowing you are not alone in your troubles. My heart goes out to you.

I notice that you have posted the same message on several threads (a thread is a conversation on a certain topic) and if you find the conversations you need then you can "talk" to people and ask for help.

I do hope this helps - keep asking and we'll keep helping.

You could also look at "cut out of their lives". You will find it at the end of the last day threads. Click this at the top of this page.

And it didn't sound silly!

This page

I know this sounds silly but I really how no idea how to work this. where is my page??

Thank you so much flowers

You are not alone, Amanda. If you search for the 'Denied Contact' thread in the box at the top right of your page, you will find that many of us are in similar situations. There are some hopeful posts from people who have managed to be reconciled with their family, or have been granted access through the courts.
Good luck - I hope it comes right for you.