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daughter-in-law from hell

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fluttERBY123 Tue 26-May-15 22:58:11

Does anyone else have a DILFH? I have one - how can I get her to leave me alone without involving son or causing trouble between son and wife? He seems to be quite happy with her and their family. The way she is carrying on is a kind of low level bullying. I won't rise. She is used to lots of rows and feuds in her own family.

Loth to put in too many details as very specific.

kaTeyJ71 Mon 30-Jul-18 18:35:20

When they married my Dil became like MY mother-in-law, very controlling, very critical. I studied how to build relationships. Then I read an old social media entry, she said she loves to argue, especially when she knows she is wrong. Since my dgd was born, it has been years of power trip. I am spoken too as somebody rather irrelevant, unless they need cash. My son now seems torn between he loves his family and blaming me for not warning him off her. This year, for the first time since he was a child I received only a birthday card, a day late. I asked if I had upset him and he just said that he is tired, I phone, he does not. I am worn out with it all. The last time she was here, she was very mean to my granddaughter to upset me. She got her way, I waived them off early to rescue the distressed little girl. Life is not always fair but I had a lovely mil. I aspired to be someone she was happy to have as a mil. My son, head in hands, once said " you see, she is so territorial". I receive photos. I now see my dgd once or twice a year. More than that and my dil is likely to be rude in front of others. What did I do wrong? I am his mother, the most illogically hated woman in the world to some young wives!

crazyH Mon 27-Aug-18 20:49:23

I have one of those / she has finally succeeded in alienating my son and me -

Misty05 Wed 30-Oct-19 12:45:43

My son's girlfriend & mother of two of her five children..she treated me very badly when I stayed with them when I had a broken ankle. Before I left she had her oldest daughter join her in unacceptable behavior towards me.. Told son about it..but he refuses to believe me. Now I've noticed missing item's of mine are in their home..any help out there?