An past hurt

It does sound very uncaring in the circumstances you describe but as others have said, who knows what was happening in her life at that particular time - could have been some marital/work crisis.

Have you had panic attacks before, or been very needy of your daughter's attentions? And you don't say how far away she lives.

Of course we'd all love our children to be doting and attentive but as you can see just from Gransnet it's often not the case.

If she works/ has children she will be super busy. We don't know the minutiae of others lives. She had your reassuring texts and probably thought " mum's ok" and got on with whatever she was doing. Maybe a bit thoughtless, but nothing more. Let those thoughts go, water under the bridge and all that.

Maybe she was in the middle of a difficult situation herself and just couldn't respond or even tell you about it as she might have been terrified to add to your stresses?

In the words of the song 'Let it go!'

Whilst understanding you're hurt, I totally agree with mumofmadboys would good could come of rehashing something from two years ago.

Cathy. I would let it go. Of course it was very hurtful but two years have elapsed. You don't know what was going on in your daughter's life at that time. Perhaps there was some reason. I would try and forgive her and lay it to rest. Make the most of what you have. Wishing you well.xx

This is so sad for you Cathy1 and it seems that your daughter (along with quite a few other young people) is so wrapped up in herself and her own children (rightly so) that she has has let her relationship with her mum and the wider family fall away. I have seen situations like yours many times where older relatives are almost looked upon as burdens and are tolerated only when they are quiet and don't need any attention which is desperately sad. Now trying to look at it from your daughters side, you say that the grandchildren are lovely and well behaved so she is a good mother. Do you see your grandchildren often? Do you see them alone or with their parents? How far apart do you live? Could there have been a simple explaination why she was unable to come and pick you up from the hospital? Do you have any other children?

I'm sorry I can't offer any practical help as I have no experience of this situation, however I know that young parents have huge demands on their time these days, often having to both work etc. whatever you do though don't fall out with your daughter. Try to keep a friendly relationship no matter how you are feeling deep down. You don't want to risk losing contact with your grandchildren. Sending you my best wishes. Hope you are feeling better, I know what it's like when things get on top of you.