More toileting (sorry)

GD was often adamant that she didn't need to go then had an accident soon afterwards. The time that sticks in my mind is when she was 5 and we spent an afternoon at a local attraction. Before we left for home, a journey needing two buses I suggested she might need to go to the loo. No, she assured me she didn't need to.
Halfway to the bus stop she wet herself. As I took a deep breath to keep calm she said 'I feel like a dumb baby'. I said gently that I could understand her feeling like that as it was a bit babyish and maybe next time she'd go when I suggested she should. I don't recall her having an accident after that.
Grannyben - I'm sorry DD was upset by DGS wearing dinosaur wellies, he sounds as if he was very happy in them with his beaming face. Nursery and infant nativity plays often have spontaneous aspects which add to the charm! At church A while ago another DGD, a few months under 2, was an angel, invited by the producer. Rehearsals went smoothly but in the production she decided to carefully move and stack some small plastic chairs. An elderly and infirm member of the congregation mentioned this to me many times as an adorable Christmas memory.

Just think .... will he be doing this in 10years time? No- this too,will pass. Don’t get anxious about it.

Absolutely - the 'dumb baby' is now a competent young woman doing well at college!

is he frightened of anything? DGS, now 7, still puts off visiting the loo as long as possible. He is quite a complicated child and we have found that 1) the only loo is upstairs and he doesn't like being upstairs on his own. 2) He also doesn't like the smell of wee and poo, and this holds him back.

*GrannyBen,perhaps your grandson has some similar hang-ups. otherwise just ignore it and it will eventually sort itself out.

As has been said, when young children are playing together or doing something they are very interested in, they often have forget to go to the loo, even when reminded. When I used to run pre-school gymnastic classes, we would actually take the children to the toilet at least once during each 45 minute lesson. Even so, were never surprised to find one who was wet. Back in those days, we could get them quickly changed into spare clothes and hand the wet ones, in a carrier bag to parents at end of class. These days, not permitted to do that, have to have parent come in the change the clothes. Even when we would see a little one jiggling about from leg to let and would ask if they needed to to the toilet, they would often say 'No'. with a greater expectation of their own abiltiy to hold it in, than was actually the case. Nothing to worry about - quite normal at 3 and 4 years of age. Definitely should not be told off.