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BonnieBlooming Thu 09-Apr-20 16:56:05

We live in a rural area with our DD, SIL and 11 month old DGS a couple of miles away on the edge of our nearest village. Before lockdown we saw a lot of them and helped out with the wee one, in fact we were due to start minding him 2 days a week from this week as my DD was to return to work. Obviously this has all changed since Covid 19 and we mostly chat on facetime or they deliver stuff to our door and return to beside their car and we chat from the window.
Last Saturday they called and came round into our back garden. We sat on our decking with them on one side and us the other (at least 3 metres apart). Tea was of course offered, but they had brought their own drinks and buns! We chatted for about 30 mins and then they left. No hugs, no cuddles with the baby. All conducted at 3+ metres distance and outside.
We would love to repeat this visit this Easter weekend. Normally we would join them for lunch on Easter Sunday and then a trip out on the Monday and a picnic, but of course none of that will happen this year. My worry is that we are breaking the rules. I know this is a difficult time for everyone at the moment and many grandparents are finding it hard not to be able to be hands on with their GC. What do you think?

ElaineI Fri 10-Apr-20 13:43:14

It's bending the instructions that say do not see or visit family members who do not live with you and is probably putting yourself and them at a possible risk. It is also unfair on everyone else who is conforming to the lockdown.
My DD2 and DGS2 are living in our house so we can help her. Started this before lockdown as she is a nurse. We do not see DD1 and her family but FaceTime with them They live 30 minutes away. Very hard and DGD who is 3 doesn't understand it but the children have booked a sleepover as soon as this ends.
If everyone bent the instructions they might as well not exist.

ElaineI Fri 10-Apr-20 13:55:30

Both my DD's are making a diary of things the children have done on lockdown (DGS1 writing a diary) - pictures, window pictures, things on Facebook that are good ideas, videos of clapping so that might be an idea for him. DGS2 had his 2nd birthday during lockdown so we have photos and video of that. DD's both feel this is a significant worldwide event in the lives of children and should have memories of it documented for them to share with their own children. Your DGS is very young but could make handprints in paint and dough? We all painted our hands on card, wrote messages on them and attached arm span ribbons then posted them to DD1 so the children can wrap them round as a hug from us. They will go in the memory box later. That was an idea from the Facebook Lockdown group.

NfkDumpling Fri 10-Apr-20 17:56:11

My DD has just told me that her neighbour and another one further along her road have got their families round and the children are playing in the gardens and there’s lots of chatting and laughter.

She’s furious - AND SO AM I! I would love to be at her house with my DGD, but I’m not. I’d love for all my DC and DGC to be coming for their Easter Egg hunt this Sunday. BUT THEY’RE NOT!! Her DH didn’t want her (or me) to report them. Too very British not to want to make a fuss. angry angry angry

MawB Fri 10-Apr-20 18:37:04

ad. He wont know of course but we will! I will probably spend the day weeping. After lots of tough times hes the light of my life

What is the alternative? Daily death tolls exceeding the thousand mark? Lockdown until August?
You won’t be the only one to spend a day weeping, this will be my first Easter alone - no Paw no children ,no grandchildren - like Mothering Sunday was and there will be thousands in the same boat ?.

NfkDumpling Fri 10-Apr-20 18:53:58

flowers Maw

MawB Fri 10-Apr-20 19:35:00

Thanks NfkDumpling - very kind - but there are plenty in the same position. And I intend to do all that I can not to spend the day moping.
Life is what it is and we are all in the same boat smile
I ordered a bottle of cheap (£6.99) pink Prosecco in this weeks shopping for Easter Sunday lunch.
Alas, Waitrose were out of it so they substituted a bottle of their own brand pink Brut champagne, in its place.. It normally retails at £26.99 a bottle but of course I was charged the lower price! smilesmile
So I think I will survive!

Callistemon Fri 10-Apr-20 20:08:33

Maw that is a wonderful substitution!!

Enjoy

NfkDumpling Sat 11-Apr-20 08:15:17

Ooo, if that’s a Waitrose substitution I’ll make a bigger effort to get a slot with them! As yet, I can’t quite make out how they work. I can see that they’re coming my way on Monday and Tuesday as those slots are marked full, but after that all the slots are unavailable. I assume if I keep checking this will change. I do wish all the supermarkets worked the same systems

GrannySomerset Sat 11-Apr-20 10:26:47

We haven’t seen our GC since Christmas and don’t expect to see them for many months. GD1 (17) lamented that by the time she is able to see her friends again they will all be grown up!

MiniMoon Sat 11-Apr-20 10:57:47

My husband has just been out to deliver food and Easter gifts to DD and family. Its just five minutes along the road. He left them on the doorstep and made his way home. Halfway back he was stopped by the police, and asked where he was going. They were satisfied with his answer, but told him to go straight there when he said he was going home.
Gosh, we never see a policeman innormal circumstances.