Son’s non wedding day

There were photographs of a Dr and a nurse marrying in a hospital chapel in London over the weekend so weddings are certainly taking place.

How lovely for you all. Thank you for sharing. Wishing you all the best for the re-arranged date.?

How lovely and I’m sure it must have lifted the spirits of everyone involved. Wishing you all good health till the official date comes round ?

That all sounds lovely, a memorable day. Made me smile reading it.

Thank you for sharing.

I thought that all the lovely people who replied to my original post a month ago might be interested to know what we did for what have should been my son’s wedding day yesterday. With the help of my daughters & my future daughter-in-law’s Aunty I put together a hamper which we (my husband & I) took round in the morning. We stayed for Buck’s Fizz in the garden until it was time for us to walk back to the centre of our village to collect a takeaway lunch for them from a cafe. What my son’s fiancée had chosen was only on their evening menu not lunchtime but they did it anyway! Big shout out to The Pantry, Winscombe for doing this. They then had various visitors at different times during the day. Then in the evening we went back round as their lovely neighbours put on a social distancing street party for them! They had done one on VE Day as their road is ideal for it, a small private cul-de-sac of only 10 houses. Plenty of space for each household to socially distance, with everyone bringing their own food, drink & chairs. They checked with their neighbours, who include a doctor, that it was ok for them to invite a few extra people like us. I enlisted the help of one of the bridesmaids and the two best men to make a video with messages on it from immediate family, groomsmen and bridesmaids which my future daughter-in-law was obviously delighted with as she posted it on Instagram! Someone else bought them a set of helium balloons with their rearranged wedding date on & my son’s fiancee’s gran, who is 83, managed to persuade the florist who is doing the wedding flowers, but who isn’t currently working, to deliver a beautiful bouquet which we contributed to. Well she is also a friend of the happy couple!

We were due to get married last Saturday but it was cancelled. The registrar has been very kind and kept us updated and have pencilled us in for the same day next year. We didn’t want a mock wedding on Zoom as suggested by some friends. We have felt quite down about this and tried to have normal day and forget that it was our wedding day. We were very pleasantly surprised by a delivery of beautiful flowers from my fiancé’s daughter. These cheered us up immensely. Yes weddings are not allowed at the moment unless there are extenuating circumstances such as one being at end of life.

My daughter an son in law married in a register office in March, with only their children in attendance. They sent photos and we plan a family gathering when things improve. I have no problem with that, their wedding was for them and their children.
Years ago, my son got married without telling anyone for over a year, when they were expecting a child - was a bit put out by that! but don't hold a grudge and get on really well with the family.

Not sure if I know what I am talking about but can Zoom - or similar - be fixed up so all those you want to involve are having a meal together .............but in their own homes?

Not sure if I know what I am talking about but can Zoom - or similar - be fixed up so all those you want to involve are having a meal together .............but in their own homes?

I know a few people who were due to get married who have all met on Zoom on the planned wedding day to have a drink and toast together. Could you send them some sparkling wine and a cake and flowers, then you can all raise a glass to the couple together.

My son was due to get married too in May. I would have some kind of celebration or special meal or cake to mark the 'occasion that could have been'. It is something to look forward to in these restricted times. You can always have the real event when it is possible again.

Silverlady333 - just after us then!! My DOH is calling it our "not wedding day" and I think we will celebrate the day. No, we are not getting married on that day but it is what it is and the most important thing is that our loved ones remain safe x

i was reading about someone who was having a special wedding anniversary. Her family could not make it so they clubbed together and hired one of these! Different.. Not sure about the hygiene issues though!

www.southeasthottubs.co.uk/g2-plus-hot-tub/

We had a Zoom meet-up for my son’s 40th birthday on 20th April. Family and friends from U.K., Canada, Colombia, France and Australia. Some people had to get up almost in the middle of the night for it, and a few had to nip out of work! It was lovely, and a big surprise for him. His wife organised it, and it went very well. Their baby is due mid-May, but that’s one thing they couldn’t cancel because of the virus! ?

We are in the same boat, my son was due to get married in Poland next month. After much ringing around they were able to change it to a date in September instead, but even that is looking doubtful. So likely they have got to come up with a Plan C. Meanwhile we will have to do battle with Ryanair to try and get all the air fares refunded.

celebration hamper with champayne and flowers

How kind you are - and thoughtful. Lots of good ideas on here, but well done you for thinking of this. You will no doubt have a good relationship with your DiL!

for church weddings by banns, you can't have them unless the banns are read in church for 3 Sundays, and of course there are no churches open so can't do banns

grannytotwo I thought you can organise such ceremonies too, but the reception would have to be postponed of course, and I'm sure a religious ceremony can also go ahead under the same circumstances. The photos will be disappointing of course (groom and bride together in the centre, best man 6ft to the left, bridesmaid 6ft to the right!
Make for interesting memories in years to come!!!

ExD

Beatrice’s wedding has been postponed, due to the virus.

It's not allowed in Scotland and those who have had weddings cancelled have had to go through the whole rigmarole of posting banns etc.

What country is that Grannytotwins?

My son’s work colleague (they are still working) is also a registrar and she’s still carrying out marriage ceremonies; bride, groom and two witnesses. No restrictions on having the legal ceremony. She did one last week and there will be a big reception when restrictions allow. She said it was still a lovely occasion.

I would have been bitterly disappointed were my wedding, fifty years ago need putting on hold due to a world wide situation as had happened to many during WW11.Many now choose with out the formality of a wedding to live together produce a child/children before making it official. Does a later wedding with ceremony, frills and all ,maybe your children as attendants change your life ?.No doubt my views will go down like a deflated balloon.

If you have someone technically clever, a lovely thing would be to choose a special song, and get lots of family and friends to sing it, record it, someone put it all together as one recording, and send it to the couple. A difficult thing to do of course and only possible if you have a musical/techie person to make it work - when they do it on line apparently the critical thing is to make sure they are all following the same beat and they all use a metronome (I bet you can access one on line) - but what do I know? Not much! I realise this is maybe impossible, but it would be very special if it could be done. Maybe in lock down, someone with the right skills would find the time to make it happen! Good luck anyway whatever you do!