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Son’s wedding dilemma.

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Bluebellwould Sun 23-Aug-20 14:57:45

Could I please ask for your advice.
My son is getting married at the end of October. This will be the final family marriage and the only one after his fathers death. My husband (His father) attended the wedding of our other two children and I feel I really should attend. I have only been out of my house once since beginning of March as I am at risk health wise. There will be only 30 people in total, but a lot of them are nurses. This son has been absolutely wonderful to me since my husband’s death and I could not have managed without him so I really feel I would like to support him. We are a small family and our side of the venue will be very empty. He has said it is totally my decision. Any thoughts please.

Aepgirl Mon 24-Aug-20 20:40:59

Yes, of course you must go. A chance to do something exciting and 'normal'. As most of the guests will be nurses, they will understand that you are a bit nervous, and just think of the wonderful face coverings that will be on display.

Enjoy yourself.

lemongrove Mon 24-Aug-20 21:01:13

Marydoll flowers
There are a few horrible posters, but thankfully many more nicer ones.The poster who sent you that is twisted and bitter and not worth even bothering about.A coward too, for not posting publicly.
PM’s are meant for friendly exchanges, or information, not for underhand digs.

cupcake1 Mon 24-Aug-20 21:21:49

Have a wonderful day with your lovely son and family- you made the right decision! ???
marydoll what a cruel and vile thing to happen to you and cowardly that this person had to pm you instead of writing on an open forum. You certainly are the better person for not ‘outing her/him’ - not sure I would be as gracious! flowers and virtual hugs.

shirleyhick Mon 24-Aug-20 21:59:33

You must go you will only live to regret it.

Juneandarchie1 Mon 24-Aug-20 23:17:50

Definitely go, wish I could go out, still isolating after a operation. I can’t wait to go out again. Do it ??

GrannyLaine Tue 25-Aug-20 12:20:15

Oh Marydoll what a vile thing this person has done. flowers

GrannyLaine Tue 25-Aug-20 12:23:36

Also Marydoll by the style of writing I could actually hazard a guess, but that's neither here nor there. angry

Marydoll Tue 25-Aug-20 12:45:31

I think it's time to call and end to discussion about the PM I received. Speculation only leads to people being falsely accused. We should feel sorry for the obviously unhappy poster who wrote it and move on.

You have all been very kind and let's all wish Bluebellwould a very happy day!

AlgeswifeVal Tue 25-Aug-20 17:19:11

No decision. Easy. Go to your sons wedding.

Maremia Tue 25-Aug-20 17:20:38

I haven't read all the posts, so apologies if someone else has said this, that there are some absolutely fabulous mask designs out there. Once you have your outfit, go online to get the best one for you. There is actually one for a Bride, with lovely lace over the basic mask. I wanted to order a blue 'William Morris' design but they were sold out.
Marydoll flowers

Lisagran Tue 25-Aug-20 17:32:57

There are some lovely masks on Etsy, for weddings or general wear.....

www.etsy.com/uk/market/embroidered_mask?ref=rlte_tqd_1

mrshat Tue 25-Aug-20 18:01:11

Marydoll I am beyond words. Suffice to say this person is despicable and vicious. Don't let her spoil your lovely memories of a wonderful day. Take care of yourself flowers

SueDonim Tue 25-Aug-20 18:09:18

Marydoll, I hadn’t been following this thread recently until idly clicking on it just now, when I saw the post you’d written yesterday. How mean. sad flowers

icanhandthemback Tue 25-Aug-20 18:20:27

MaryDoll, the PM says more about the writer than you. Onwards and upwards, please do put this behind you and enjoy GN for the lovely people on here rather than the keyboard warriors.
Bluebellwould, there are some brilliant mask patterns on t'internet which are very easy to sew if you are up to it.
Lucy2, dangerous and irresponsible advice can kill. Most rational people would see this advice as being laughable but unfortunately, that is not always the case and I am sure you would not want to be responsible for the death of someone from Covid.

Jane10 Wed 26-Aug-20 13:30:33

Marydoll whoever sent you that PM picked the wrong person! They've probably left GN by now.
OP - go to that wedding.

Marydoll Wed 26-Aug-20 14:19:26

As we have met a few times, I hope that is a complement Jane ??

The poster is still posting, but hopefully has now realised she totally got the wrong end of the stick. Best to check your facts first.

BlueBelle Wed 26-Aug-20 15:03:50

I have only just caught up with this thread Marydoll that is awful I hope you have reported the person as it’s very very unkind thing to happen to you and you don’t deserve them sucking the happiness out of your day like that
Keep your chin up x