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What a quandary!

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Newquay Sat 10-Jul-21 20:18:32

DH and I have been invited to visit DD2 for a week soon to look after DGD aged 7 for a few days which we would LOVE to do. We went to visit them a few weeks ago and SIL (a medic) told us how bad things are with COVID and getting worse and to be careful. Now they’ve invited us there saying it’s up to us whether we go or not! What’s to do?

tanith Sat 10-Jul-21 20:28:45

If you are all vaccinated why not go continuing to be aware if you go out and about. Personally I would go.

kittylester Sat 10-Jul-21 20:35:29

Exactly what Tanith said.

BlueBelle Sat 10-Jul-21 20:36:16

Why not

Kamiso Sat 10-Jul-21 20:42:00

Are you both reasonably fit and healthy? Presumably your son wouldn’t invite you if he thought it too risky?

We are getting to a point where we all need to make our own risk assessments.

My Friday coffee/lunch group is back up and running though sitting at tables of six. It’s actually easier to have a real conversation in smaller groups and has worked out very well. It might be awkward if seven people turn up!

We were all happy to be back together but I wonder how long it will be before we start to take such things for granted once more.

Newquay Sat 10-Jul-21 21:24:37

Yes both fit, well and fully vaccinated and regularly tested too.

annsixty Sat 10-Jul-21 21:57:41

I at age 83 am making my own assessment as to what to do.
Double vaccinated and very healthy I am off next week, train journey , to stay with a friend.
We are both sensible and can live out the life we have left or can sit at home and wait to die.
We have made our choice.
Don’t hesitate to go.

Callistemon Sat 10-Jul-21 22:28:54

You could all take a test if you want to be sure.

I would go.

OnwardandUpward Sat 10-Jul-21 22:38:25

I would go, while continuing to take vitamins to support immunity. I am double jabbed, but am careful to eat anti viral foods such as onions, daily and take supplements like turmeric.

BlueBelle Sat 10-Jul-21 22:49:35

Go girl annsixty that’s exactly the right attitude

maddyone Sat 10-Jul-21 23:07:09

Yes go. You are vaccinated and you have to get back to something more akin to normal life. Take care, mask, sanitise, no crowds. Enjoy your granddaughter.

V3ra Sun 11-Jul-21 02:19:10

Presumably as a medic your son-in-law wouldn't have invited you to stay with them if he thought that was particularly risky?
I'd think his "be careful" advice was more a reminder about the general precautions: hands, face, space and avoiding crowded places for example.
Saying it's up to you whether you go or not is just saying there's no pressure from them either way.

3dognight Sun 11-Jul-21 02:43:22

Yes do go, you will not get this time back again. Just remember- hands, face, space. Wash your hands anytime you are near a tap, clean clothes for each day.
If you don’t go, I bet you will sit at home wishing you had!

Katyj Sun 11-Jul-21 06:47:49

We were going to have our 3 year old Dgd last week, she has a 6 year old sister at school. But our ddil said she felt it was too risky as there’s a lot of coronavirus at school at the moment. We are willing to take the risk though, I feel we’ve missed so much already. But it’s their decision, so looks like we’ll have to wait . I would go if I was you.

Kim19 Sun 11-Jul-21 06:53:59

Like a shot I would go. Naturally apply the common sense everyday precautions but....... GO.

BigBertha1 Sun 11-Jul-21 07:57:57

Oh yes go and as others have said you can test and plentiful hand washing and fresh air. Enjoy being with your grandchild. Make some memories.

Newquay Sun 11-Jul-21 13:57:59

I just feel pulled in two directions! Desperate to see them but want to do what’s right too! In our salad days an (old fashioned!) bank manager advised us always to “sleep on things”. Well, we have, and none the wiser! Don’t suppose he ever imagined a pandemic did he?

25Avalon Sun 11-Jul-21 14:08:04

Covid is rife in schools and nurseries at the moment. My 4 year old gd has been isolating after a child in after school club tested positive. She is due back on Monday just as the rest of her class who didn’t go to after school club are now isolating. Dd won’t let anyone in the house even though I’ve had 2 jabs.
What happens if your gd comes into contact and has to isolate? Would you still be happy with it? I think that is the question to ask yourself. If you are ok with that then go.

MrsAllboys Sun 11-Jul-21 14:29:19

Newquay you say 'soon' to look after grandchild, that will be when school holiday starts?? It hopefully shouldn't pose a problem. As others say, you are vaccinated and healthy. You should be just fine and when out and about be aware, wear masks on public transport etc. We've all been away from our grandchildren such a lot since March 2020 I would take the opportunity to be with them, otherwise why are we vaccinated? Your son in law feels he has to be up front with you but it is your decision. Unless anything major occurs, just go and have a lovely time?.

25Avalon Sun 11-Jul-21 15:31:09

We are vaccinated to slow the spread and reduce the risk to the older age groups and help the NHS. It does not, however, give us 100% protection so we still need to be careful.

OnwardandUpward Sun 11-Jul-21 22:25:49

Yes, we do need to be careful but if we do everything to keep our immunity tip top we have a good fighting chance.

I now break the day up and properly exercise (I was more sedentary before) and am careful to avoid sugars and to eat foods to support the immune system. There are things like those that you can do to have an even better fighting chance. I'd say, make memories for your Grandchild. I would, if I could.

Aepgirl Mon 12-Jul-21 11:35:06

Yes, go, but just be careful. Enjoy.

esgt1967 Mon 12-Jul-21 11:38:26

I would jump at the chance to look after my grandson for a week and, as others have said, I think you should grab the opportunity to make some lovely happy memories with both hands.

It feels as some of us are still totally frozen with fear about Covid, there are so many things that can make us ill and/or we can die from and I am so fed up of being made to stop and think about how "safe" it is before doing normal human activities.

aonk Mon 12-Jul-21 11:44:30

I think you should definitely go providing tests are negative. Your SIL is leaving the decision to you because he doesn’t want to be responsible if anything goes wrong. My GC live nearby and we have been seeing them ever since households were allowed to mix.

11unicorn Mon 12-Jul-21 11:49:40

You could take a Rapid Lateral Flow Test - you get your results in 30 minutes and that way you can make sure you are not infecting each other.
Sure SIL will have to do them for work and you could ask DD to do one too offering to pay (they are not very expensive)
I would not ask GD to do one but that way you have assurance for and from everyone.