Books for child whose father is dying

Not a book Granash though it's a kind thought.

It is a lovely thought, but do you know for certain that the little one knows what is gong on? Some people prefer not to tell a child until later in the illness. I really feel for you all but, as others have said, I think you need to discuss it with your nephews wife before sending anything.

I really feel for you all but, as others have said, I think you need to discuss it with your nephews wife before sending anything.
I agree

It is up to her mummy how she explains things to the little girl.

I am so sorry for all of you.

I would collect things, such as photos or mementos you have and assemble them for the future when she's older and asks about what he was like when younger. She may truly appreciate those some day. She is so young right now, her memories will only likely be of the immediate situation.

A real photo album/scrapbook is well worth collecting/assembling. I actually like to 'scrapbook digitally' and did one and printed it A3 size for my dad's 90th BD. We also displayed it at his funeral where so many got to see his life's story.

My heart does go out to you and your family at this sad time.

So sad to hear your story I noticed that someone has already mentioned cruse. When my son died they were amazing and helped not just us but our gd. Go on line and look at the information.
Please accept my condolences.

Any mention of Michael Rosen's "book of Sad"? He wrote it for small/young children after his own 17 year-old son died suddenly overnight of ASDS. It is beautifully illustrated, and in inimitable Rosen style, very apt.
But I do agree with other posters that you shouldn't just send the book - either send it to the parent/s or ask first.

I'm totally with janetmaile. Offer them any support they might choose from you then butt out graciously if nothing particular is requested.

For all kinds of difficult 'issues', including bereavement, Letterbox Library has a very good list. They are a mail order company that's being going for 30 + years. Set up as a kitchen table venture by two mums who could not find the books they wanted. All books are tested on a range of readers including children.

Please don't use their list for research and then order from Ama*on, that's what is bankrupting so many small booksellers and so minimising choice.

I feel you just have to remain patient until you see how the situation develops. Children accept death sometimes better than adults.

In days gone by there was often someone in the family dying and
although she will be upset she will get over it and forget him.
Its her mother who will need help. I think her little daughter needs space and no expectations on how she should show her grief.She might forget and play and sing and its hard for the others grieving but is natural reaction from someone so young

As someone up thread said a collection of memories is always recommended. Usually called a memory box
Good idea for anyone really.

It is really painful helping a small child deal with the loss of a loved one. Following my husband's sudden death, my son told his little daughter, then not quite 3, that Grandad was not here any more but was now a star twinkling in the sky. She is now nearly 4 and each evening she spots the brightest star in the night sky and sings "twinkle, twinkle little star" for him. I sometimes hear her talking to him and I find it really comforting that she still remembers him so well and loves looking at photos of him.

My thoughts and prayer are with you at this very sad time.

Many thanks to all of you for taking the time to reply, and for your kind thoughts. I will take it all on board. You have been very helpful.

I was her age when I lost my dad I know children are more aware of things now my memory is I just accepted it I think I missed him more in later life eg when I married . ? To you all