Miserable people.

MissAdventure …

Victor Meldrew syndrome?

I don't believe it!!

You mean “ the Victor Meldrew Syndrome?” Yes some on here are very vehement at putting across their own view and accept no deviation from it. Others are more open minded but at the end of the day it takes two to argue so either don’t reply or just agree to differ. Don’t get drawn into an argument that just gets more heated and that no one can win, apart perhaps from those who look at both sides. A well reasoned argument is always best rather than a bigoted rant - there now I’ve deliberately asked for it to demonstrate my point!!

Good morning fellow grumpies !

GG
I think you’re right. I joined for the book recommendations initially . I do like a good discussion but it’s difficult to get the tone right. Difficult to get your point across without sounding pompous. And all the flaming typing , punctuation etc. I’ve forgotten where to put my capitals and to get the message over seems more important. Yes I can speak into the built-in mike but that brings its own problems of predictive text etc.

The strength of feeling is hard to convey. Yesterday I was at a loose end not in the slough of despond. ( caps!). I didn’t get that over very well did I ?

Just one more answer to posters who ask about providing the evidence etc and why I don’t name names. This is why. You don’t agree but you asked why so...

I had 3 children. When something went wrong I used to say something like ‘ I really hope that next time I come in this messy room the person who did this will have tidied it up .’ It worked more often than not. As I said earlier. An escape route.

The trouble is I can now see the other side of this. When I was working and the boss said something had happened my first thought was to name names because it wasn’t me. Isn’t life hard?

Anyway thanks for contributing to my thread. I learn something everyday. ?

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She's a comma, comma, comma, comma, comma, comma chameleon..

Don’t get hung up on her comma comments GG she has totally misrepresented that.

Could it be an age thing? That's the only thing that identifies us as similar. Most people join a group for a shared interest but the only shared one we start with is that we are at least in the autumn of our lives. Why would that mean we have anything in common and if we don't then some will mind the comma and some won't; some will find the comment on the comma pedantic and some will find it rude while others will see it as reasonable. Let's face it very few will have joined to talk about commas.

In the last three months, we have all witnessed what is the very best in the people of Britain while also in parallel we have also witnessed the very worst in some of the people in Britain.

There have been days when we all have felt high in the thought we will get through this period, while there have also been days when we all have felt low in the thoughts that this epidemic and all that has accompanied it will never come to an end.

It would seem that the opening poster has been having one of those low thought days when she feels all around her is not as it should be, but does not know why that is and so haves a dig at all and sundry.

Cheer up MissTree we will all get through this, so keep that in those thoughts.

I'm new on here and I must admit I was surprised at how snippy some of the posts are. Most are supportive and constructive but some just seem to want to stir people up.

MissTree it was me that mentioned commas, but only because you were quoting from a book, criticising the author’s choice of words and yet you hadn’t copied faithfully what he had written and had adulterated his writing,

So really what are you moaning about yourself?

I was just waiting for some sort of discussion Pantglas !
It just sort of fizzled out - a bit of a grumble and a moan.

This might be more successful at cheering OP up.

Come on MawB you’re one of the good guys! Opinionated but fair and open to read a well put argument as should we all be. At the end we can disagree politely and move on without belittling. ?

Well that was a fun thread
What’s next?

Pantglas2 I have just come to the conclusion that some people do not realise their own deliberate rudeness, the putdowns, the total rubbishing of somebody who disagrees on something. They are often the ones who complain about it in others.

One thing I am aware of is that I do not share things about myself on here as I really don't trust some of the posters. I don't feel like that on the groups I am in on Facebook. I wonder what is different in some of the GNetters that has made me feel like that on here. If we don't share then we don't know people but then ... if we don't trust some of them would we want to?

Pantglas you said it for me so nothing to add.

Yes, well, make sure you do, young lady!

Puzzler
You may be right. What do I know ? Your comment reminded me of my friend’s mum who was very prudish and correct but who used to sing rude songs when she got very old.
GG
You’re absolutely right. Didn’t see it that way . ?
Judy
I’ll do better tomorrow .

Many of us, especially those living in the country, with lovely gardens, have found it easy to count our blessings in the last months, but that should not mean that we are unconcerned for our fellow citizens, working in dangerous situations on the front line, or having to stay at home when home is not a safe place to stay.

Nor should our good fortunes and comfortable circumstances, make us unaware of how badly let down our whole country has been by our appalling government.

If you’ve (general term not anyone specifically) been brought up to be polite, and you’ve taught your children to be polite, I don’t believe you suddenly start to become rude as part of the ageing process.
Human traits tend to become more pronounced as we age so probably the ability to be rude was always there in some people.

Well I know what you mean MissTree! I’m one of those who’s interested in other people’s opinions and passion, I have a few myself!

However the deliberate rudeness, the putdowns, the total rubbishing of somebody who disagrees on something ... I wasn’t reared that way and I fail to see how anyone expects to win the argument by doing it! I’ll be contrary on that one til the cows come home purely and simply because of the arrogance!

I do like to put my case and I’m happy to learn from more able people and I’m also big enough to apologise if I get it wrong - something sadly lacking with so many who think that they can post and run and it’s forgotten. Nope, you’ve just let yourself and your big brain down, big style!

And to leave on a kind word (or two) - Good post.

MissTree---is that lava or pan ?

Rosalyn69 Again, this thread has brought out those who are not honest or brave enough to tell an individual directly that they feel he or she is being rude or pompous. Deal with it honestly with the people who annoy you instead of making veiled comments.

Incidentally, you have expressed several opinions yourself as to the character of unnamed posters, so presumably you too are "self-opinionated".

Isn't this very thread the OP doing what the OP is complaining about?

Dare I say - self opinionated know it alls....
But mostly now I shrug and move on.
A lot of folk are really nice but it’s the same ones who like to lecture.
It takes all kinds. Message boards/forums are pretty much all the same.