News of Iris
I texted DD yesterday and I didn’t expect a reply. To my surprise, she telephoned a bit later and we had a long chat.
Iris is doing extremely well, physically, but finding it hard mentally. She is too frightened [of pain?] to move her leg herself, the cage is very heavy too. Every readjustment of her body requires someone to help her, 24/7, you can imagine how wearing that can be? The exhausted parents take turns for the night, but DD has given up working for the moment.
Iris was never that interested in food but is now refusing to eat or drink much because it means using the commode, which means moving… she has been given a sort of little walking frame but again she won’t use it.
Her only means of control, IMO, is to refuse to do things – eat, drink, speak to anyone over the phone/skype, she is even refusing to take any of her drugs and needs serious bribing.
Added to all this, SiL and DGD1 are not coping well. He is sharing all the chores etc., but is taking it out on DGD1 when she is having tantrums, which are every time Iris needs both parents. It doesn’t seem to be a happy household at the moment. My heart bleeds for them all.
On a happier note, the knickers are fine, and the pair of very wide-legged trousers I made from some hideous fabric I already had, are a great success. I have been asked to make more out of warmer stuff. I have ordered some gaberdine and some denim which are due today.