Estrangement sucks

Spice101

Maybe if you accepted your DIL your son would follow.

Came here to say this.

He cut you off because you wanted to exclude his wife. The woman likely changing his kids diapers, teaching them the alphabet etc. Seems pretty obvious the way to show him you've changed is to stop trying to cut off his wife, embrace her. He will of course hear about this and know you've changed.

Of course, you've not changed, and probably never will, so he has a right not to have a relationship with you. Made a lucky escape imo.

I just don't understand how you can possibly think this way..

We are supposed to want our children to be happy, not dictate their entire lives and throw tantrums if we don't get our way.

If your wife won't accept her wonderful son and DIL the way they are...

You definitely should

Hi if you’re an estranged grandparent like myself, I thought you might be interested in watching Tonight’s documentary on ITV at 8.30 pm as well as GB News were Nigel Farage will be talking about this difficult subject .

Don't want to offend anybody, but reading through your post, it seems me that your wife is the one too inflexible despite the efforts of the DI and you have gone along with it. A little more effort on your side would help the situation greatly. What a shame, life goes so quickly.

You can not choose your son's partner , whether you like them or not ... eventually will be too late to make up

VioletSky

I just don't understand how you can possibly think this way..

We are supposed to want our children to be happy, not dictate their entire lives and throw tantrums if we don't get our way.

If your wife won't accept her wonderful son and DIL the way they are...

You definitely should

I think most would want to attempt moving heaven and earth and keep from estrangement to their son (or daughter as case may be). Hard to understand not placing more value to a relationship with your child.

It just shows it is about control. My children aren't perfect or do as I want. I love them all the same. I cannot understand why someone offering an olive branch is still being vilified. It is really sad but unfortunately somewhat predictable when people are so rigid in their thinking and outlook

This is surely a send up!

I think this post is a scam.. or a very narcissistic poster

If your DIL is keeping you updated that shows a willingness to offer the olive branch. I think ‘hate’ is a harsh word to use . You can’t do anything about what’s happened in the past , but you have some control over the future. Concentrate on you GC and focus on their needs - make some good memories with them. It’s not their fault the adults can’t get on. Failing that go and see a family mediator and I’m sure they will help you move towards a better tomorrow…