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Boyl Thu 28-Mar-19 18:19:38

My adopted daughter had two children in quick succession with her partner. It became clear the children were being neglected un clean feeding from the floor and not stimulated. We had the children from a very young age (2 weeks) regularly but they were also going to the partners family. My daughter just did not seem to want them and they were reported to social services (unknown to me) by up to 5 local people. The children went last June to stay with relatives of her partner and have not returned. After detective work I found out where they were and we have seen them twice. We are not allowed to see them in the home environment just a play area. We want to keep a relationship with them but are being totally excluded. It seems no one has a care of there longer term. I have no relationship now with my daughter to see how she neglected her children was horrific. We have no legal rights but I want to know they are being cared for. Any advice

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paddyann Thu 27-Jun-19 23:04:32

I am so sorry for the situation with your GC,my sisters children were taken off her by SS in the 1970's she and her husband were alcoholics.My parents wanted to have the children but SS though with the healyh problems my parents had it would be too much for them to take 3 children one approaching her teens.They were put in a home and when my sister "appeared" to have cleaned up her act she got them back.Sadly it was all show and she soon reverted to her habit and took her abusive husband back.Sometimes I think it would have been better for her kids to have been fostered as they had a hell of a life and she nor her husband would take any advice (interference) from anyone.Perhaps you could contact SS and explain your previous relationship with the children and ask to have access to them for their sakes as well as yours .I hope it works out for you but if they are safe and well that needs to be the priority .Good luck with it and take good care of yourself

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