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Toddler bed for 10 month old

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JaydeeTas Sat 04-Feb-23 06:02:41

Hi all,

My DIL has let me know they are moving my GS into a toddler bed. He is currently 10 months old

They have a plan for bed rails so it's not the falling out of bed that really concerns me.. I am more worried about furniture that he could pull onto himself such shelving that has his teddy bears.
What do I do??? I'm scared to do nothing. They haven't got anything bolted to the wall..

MrsTagain Sat 04-Feb-23 06:25:31

Stop worrying until you've seen the set-up!

When it's all up and running, look, admire, and if you really feel there are imminent dangers, point them out in a friendly, fairly casual way that won't come over as nosey and interfering.

Try not to imagine accidents that haven't happened.

Mitzigem Sat 04-Feb-23 07:19:43

I’m sure his parents would be aware of any dangers . Don’t do anything, but just as above post says .

Grandmabatty Sat 04-Feb-23 08:34:33

If he is walking and climbing, then a toddler bed is probably safer than him trying to climb out of a cot. Their child, their decision.

Whitewavemark2 Sat 04-Feb-23 10:18:17

You know as grandparents I think we get more risk adverse as we age.

I can remember being utterly horrified at. My 9 year old grandson being high up in a tree he’d climbed, but stayed Schtum.

Then remembered my childhood of tree climbing, firefighting and cooking etc all without adult supervision.

Trust the parents - sometimes they know best.

LOUISA1523 Sat 04-Feb-23 10:42:44

I'm sure his parents have considered any risk .....I wouldn't be interferring if I was you

Kalu Sat 04-Feb-23 10:59:43

Trusting the shelving is secure, pulling his teddy bears off it will be a fun pastime. I really don’t see any danger there.

Moving him into a toddler bed tells me his parents are making his safety a priority.

Try not to overthink of things that may or may not happen. Don’t undermine your DiL whatever you do, she is a new mum finding her way just as you once did. Support her and you will have a good relationship with your grandsons mum.

Sparklefizz Sat 04-Feb-23 11:27:02

Are the parents moving him into the toddler bed because they need the cot for another baby?

annodomini Sat 04-Feb-23 12:18:21

My DGGD is in a convertible cot. The base can be lowered as she becomes increasingly able to pull herself up and climb over the top. As she is now 8 months, the base is about to be lowered to a safer level. Ultimately, it will morph into a toddler bed, but not until she is a toddler. Few children are toddlers at 10 months.

Hithere Sat 04-Feb-23 12:42:59

You do nothing

Norah Sat 04-Feb-23 12:53:31

Their child, their choices to beds and shelving.

62Granny Sat 04-Feb-23 13:14:51

A lot of toddler beds are like cots but bigger they have proper cot sides that can be removed at a later stage when they are more able to get in and out of bed independently.

Forsythia Sat 04-Feb-23 13:18:49

My daughter had a cot with a shelf above full of soft toys. Every morning, without fail, all toys were on the floor but the shelf stayed firmly fixed.

Jaylou Sat 04-Feb-23 19:55:37

I used to foster and had a young toddler, social workers actually advised to take mattress out of cot and put it on the floor, so they got used to "freedom". I was surprised, it felt wrong, but worked.

VioletSky Sat 04-Feb-23 20:05:22

I'd honestly stay out of it, if they show you the room at any point, you could say, do these need securing to the wall if there is something in there that does need it...

But you are prejudicing right now, you haven't seen the new set up

JaydeeTas Sun 05-Feb-23 12:48:18

Thank you.. I don't know why I am so protective of him..

My DIL wants to just get rid of the cot and set him up in a bed. In hindsight, its not so bad.

I'll leave it to them to work it out smile

JenniferEccles Tue 07-Feb-23 14:05:00

I can see why you are concerned as a ten month old baby should still be in a cot shouldn’t he? Mine certainly all were. Surely it’s better all round to keep babies in cots for as long as possible?

If you have a good relationship with your daughter in law, couldn’t you gently express your concerns, especially regarding the unsecured furniture?

I wouldn’t mind betting though he’ll be back in that cot once they’ve had a few nights of him escaping!

1summer Tue 07-Feb-23 14:23:31

My granddaughter is almost 3 and still in her cot, I think she should be in a bed but it’s absolutely nothing to do with me. Except I have a cot at my house for when she stays its in the spare room and I would like to get rid of it to make more room.

Quokka Tue 07-Feb-23 14:45:57

Say nothing.

JaydeeTas Sat 11-Feb-23 03:35:29

Update
Had a great chat with my DIL and showed her a floor bed option within an enclosure.. This is for my home.
My DIL loved it and I have ordered 2!

I’m so relieved my DIL allows me to be so involved.

jeanie99 Mon 24-Apr-23 20:54:07

Our son was in a single bed by the time he was 12 months old.
At a very young age he started climbing out of his cot and came down stairs with a big smile on his face.
We decided to fasten the door so he couldn't get out, we had a few nights of crying but that soon stopped and he just went back to bed and slept.
Two chairs were put up to the bed but we never had any accidents.

Hetty58 Mon 24-Apr-23 21:06:10

I just wish my four had actually slept in their own room/bed/cot - or whatever - and not in ours! We always used the stairgates and window locks, though!

In hindsight, little mattresses on the floor would have been far cheaper than cots/cot-beds/beds/bunk beds - all hardly used. A king sized bed for us would have been great!

Hetty58 Mon 24-Apr-23 21:15:45

Once, we couldn't find the baby in the morning. We searched high and low, turned out all the upstairs cupboards, quizzed the other kids, called him - nothing. I was crying, trying to work out where he'd crawled off to. Eventually, we saw him, sleeping peacefully beside the mattress where the top sheet was tucked in!

NotSpaghetti Tue 25-Apr-23 00:07:50

^ a ten month old baby should still be in a cot shouldn’t he^...
Why Jennifer?

And plenty of babies are toddlers at 10 months annodomini - all my 5 were "toddling" at 10 months. They were slower maybe with other things but all walking exclusively by then.

DillytheGardener Tue 25-Apr-23 06:01:31

One of mine fell out of his cot and was concussed. I think the mattress on the floor/toddler bed is much safer IMO.