Heavy handed bully of a hospital security man

Why are people so at the end of their tethers these days ?
Half the country needs to go to anger management. It seems to be wherever you go, especially when someone isn't wearing a mask. Imagine a fight breaking out because someone doesn't have a mask on ? The news is full of violence, it's a worse disease than Covid itself.

I am really appalled by this. I had a similar experience with a security officer in the 1st lockdown, I wont go into details, but I did complain, and was told it was not excusable, but he was used to dealing with drunks at night clubs, so the bouncer word is accurate.
I am sorry to hear about your husband and hope things improve for him, and he does not have to encounter the likes of this person again, on this occasion there really was no excuse.
The lady crying because of his bullying behaviour is shocking.

Poor, poor you - both of you, Merlot. It takes a lot to struggle through with all that you have to face AND take on a little jobsworth Ass who is determined to make a very difficult situation so much worse - just because he thinks bullying the easy option. Well done for complaining and hope you felt just a bit better after doing so. My friend has often complained about the way that ancillary staff can be insufferable at Addenbroke’s. Also the scary costs for parking. Still, she’ll hopefully be away from such stuff for a while - her poor darling H died this morning.

That puts my rant into perspective, Grandmafrench. So sorry to hear about your poor friend.

I hope you get a quick reply and an apology Merlot

GrandmaFrench

Shocking behaviour, Merlotgran, surely these people know that having to attend hospital is stressful enough without their bullying behaviour adding to it? Incidentally, did the ‘Covid Marshals’ ever appear? Sounds like he would have been an applicant. My brother did make me laugh when he said the Marshals would be folk who were ‘ too wee for the polis, too big for the circus’. I hope your next appointments are trouble free.
Thoughts with you and your friend, Grandmafrench

Awful. Have an extra Merlot !

It could be that he was merely following orders to keep out as many people as possible. I'm sure that there's more to it. I'd want an explanation - in detail.

What a nasty Jobsworth, merlotgran. I hope you're both ok now, it shakes you up. That is no way to treat vulnerable patients.

I hope you get a positive response.

Oh that’s appalling.

As if you don’t have enough to deal with ... what a hideous bully. I hope he gets into serious trouble.
That sort of experience can be so draining to a person who is already undergoing treatment and managing a number of health issues.
I am angry on your and your DH’s behalf, Merlot.
Hopefully you can put it behind you and have a gentle, pleasant evening. ?

You’re all lovely. I threw in the remark about the loss of a dear friend today in no way to detract from your comments, merlot. It’s just that she has used Addenbroke’s so often for too many years. It was hardly a rant from you - any decent human would feel the same and want to avoid the treatment you received, at any cost. I feel angry just reading about it - had I been there I would be the one ejected (maybe many times!) An ugly scene would have played out and offered some entertainment, at least! As Ellan says upthread, what’s the matter with people? Too many seem to have lost all shred of sense and compassion and decency. I do hope your DH gets some benefit from his treatment.
Daddima the world needs more laughter from chaps like your brother!

No he wasn't merely following orders, Hetty58. He was probably not sufficiently trained but the benefit of doubt needs to be with the patients and their carers. He was rude and displaying bullying behaviour - splaying his legs, folding his arms and blocking the doorway. I have never seen hospital security personnel behave in that way and I'm no stranger to Addenbrooke's.

I will get my explanation make no mistake and as the kind security man who offered us an apology said, 'Don't worry. It will all be on CCTV.'

Good job I didn't kick his shins then.

Oh grandmafrench. So so sorry about your dear friend ‘s beloved husband. If you can keep your arms around her. The rest of us must all count our blessings.

It's particularly horrible to be treated that way when you're somewhere that's supposed to be helping you to feel better.

(I know, sadly)

I'm so glad you've written to pals. It's often the last thing you feel like doing after a long, long day.

merlotgran you have described the security man at our local Morrisons store so perfectly that it made me wonder if he's moonlighting at Addenbrooks Hospital.

Merlotgran, what a horrible man, hopefully your complaint will mean that nobody else suffers the same treatment.
Hope you’re feeling calmer now, you could both do without the added stress.
Sad for your friend Grandmafrench.
Thank goodness for humour Daddima, we could all do with a brother like yours at the moment.

So sorry to hear this Merlotgran, it just astounds you doesn't it. When my late husband became ill in Portugal I flew out to collect him. The security guard at the hospital, a podgy boy, took an instant dislike to me and always made me wait, even when I had my pass. At one time my husband and I were outside and he came out and started shouting at us, and dragged us back into the hospital through A&E where many people were in dire straits. I wish I could go back and kick him in the nuts.

Spangler

The clinic next door to outpatients is for disablement services. They have state of the art wheelchairs you can borrow. One good shove and they go like the clappers with a dead man's handle for a brake!!

I don't suppose Mr Security was going to chase me down the the long corridors after I sneaked in but I wasn't taking any chances much to DH's horror amusement.

Not funny at the time but after a G&T I can be a bit more chilled about it.

Glad you're a bit more relaxed now merlot.

That is quite shocking Merlot and unforgivable. I trust by now he’s been sent packing with more than a flea in his ear! I hope you & DH are more relaxed this evening ??

Merlotgran very distressing and unnecessary, hopefully not to be repeated for anyone else, pleased you feel a bit better now.
Grandmafrench how very heartbreaking for your friend and sad for you,

Merlotgran.
Isn't it enough that our loved ones are having to go through the trauma of ill health without the added stress of a '' bully'' full of his own importance in a unifom/ wearing a badge merely illustrating what job he has been given?
Far to many of this type around and no one should be afraid in reporting them.

I have been to Addenbrookes hospital in Cambridge many many times over the last 40 odd years and this really sickens me, I’ve never heard anything like it, my heart goes out to you both, and I’m pleased it’s on cctv too, wishing you both all the very best Merlotgran, sending you both a virtual hug