I am very lucky and have 7 grandchildren. The eldest grandaughter (26) seems to have a problem with me, and it is getting worse since my DH died.
My DD was a single mum and my DH and I were very involved in babysitting, financial support etc., while DGD was growing up, and she came to look upon my DH as a father figure.
Roll forward a few years and DD marries a very nice man, and they have a son..but no jealousy or resentment from DGD..a little bit antagonistic toward her step-father but no more. DD then (to our shame) had an affair, which threw the whole family into chaos. The man she was with was simply awful (not enough space here to go into further details, but believe the complete family felt the same way).
My DGD was devastated and at one point asked if she could come and live with me and DH. This didn't materialise but it gives you a picture of our former relationship.
Roll forward five years and DD and her ex husband reunited and remarried, which at first made DGD very, very angry but now she seems to have accepted it and is accepting of the renewed marriage.
DGD had her first and very serious boyfriend for 2 years or so, then he dumped her and she was shattered and her personality changed to a very aggressive and angry young lady.
At this point my DH was diagnosed with cancer and sadly died after two years...my DGD was in the room when he died and was distraught at losing him.
DH died about 3.5 years ago, but since then, DGD will not come to my house for family gatherings, does not answer texts or messages from me to the point I feel like a stalker.
I rarely if ever hear from her, and whilst I completely understand her grief, she does not make any allowance for the fact that I am still living in the house where DH died, and it has been tough, but I had to do it, whereas DGD has made it clear that she really does not care for me and any attempt by me to get her to open up and talk about it, is met with hostility and then tears. I feel helpless.
We had such an amazing relationship and all I see now is a very angry young woman, and I miss her company and love.
I have vowed to myself not to contact her again, but feel awful about that.
What to do? I no longer know.
Sorry this is so long but it could be three times as long!!
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