Mother's Day and Family Dynamics

I'm totally unsure what my dynamics will be this year, and I did write out a mean spirited answer to you. But.. happy mothers day. I hope you do enjoy it.

MissA and CrazyH and to all Grandmothers on Mothers Day who won’t have any celebrations.
Look back on your happy memories of when the children were small.

Dh and I will visit his mum, she is a lovely lady......
I am sure that our sons and our daughters-in-law will visit at some point
Other that I have no idea......
My lovely daughters-in-law will, of course be visiting their own mums and they are mums too
I'm sure it will all work out

Oh dear that does all sound a little smug - apologies

It's not smug. Its lovely.

MissAdventure ..Would have loved to hear your mean spirited comment ...I can take it ..go on try again, ha

That's right Lemongrove ..life was so uncomplicated then !

Oh the emotional baggage of Mothers Day .
Complicated here because Sunday 11 March is also DD’s birthday, Sat 10th is SIL’s birthday, Monday 12 is DD2’ s MIL’s birthday and Tuesday 13th is my (big) birthday.
We are compromising! I am meeting up with DD1 and her family and DD3 in London while DD2 goes to her MIL (who has early Alzheimer’s)
I will see DD2 and 3 on my birthday and everybody will be coming here (well a nearby pub) for my birthday lunch which will be the following Sunday.
Like Christmas, best over!
(But very sweetly, I was invited to 2 of the MILS’ for Mother’s Day as they were afraid I would be on my own. )

I am also conscious of my family's 'other mums'
My two Ddil' mums and also my daughter has Mil.
They are all mums themselves too! We all therefore going out with them all on the Saturday evening before Mother's Day.
They can then do what they need to do on the day itself, and I will have my special time with them all the evening before.
It takes the pressure off them, and me also.

That's lovely ......so your weekend+ is going to be a great few days. So many invites...very nice to the Mils to invite you for Mother's Day.
Happy Birthday in anticipation of your BIG ? ??

I am far more concerned for those who cannot celebrate Mother’s Day: those whose mothers have died, those whose children have died or are estranged, those who cannot have children, and step-mothers whose step-children ignore the occasion.

My mum has not been alive for the last 17 years, and I have been through the ignored step-Mum bit, but that is surely nothing compared with those who have lost children.

Nowadays I am glad to get cards, but I would not expect to have a visit from my children who are busy that day with their own families.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

No, crazyh, I really don't want to be a miseryguts, especially to innocent passers by.
Do you think you'll go out this year for a meal?

Myself and daughters are going to local pub for a meal. DD1 is also a mum. Unfortunately SILs mum has recently died so he won't be able to donanything with his own mother this year. DD2 does not have children but is so involved with her nieces that we have decided to have an " aunties day" for her. That would surely be a nice thing for other " non mums" as well

I remember being the hub on special occasions when we had all of our parents and both sons and their partners to lunch at my house. On Mothers Day I used to think "I'm a Mum too" but enjoyed the buzz. Gradually things changed. No parents, elder son's house is the hub. It's not sad. It's life. We have memories and can enjoy our present, watching the next generation making theirs. That's if we are lucky.

I tell my DD to stay at home and enjoy the Mother’s Day that her children do for her.
Now she lives so far away there is no way that I will get to see her, but I see her during the year and I dont have a problem with it, I usually get a card sent to me, this year we are on holiday anyway.
It’s never been a problem, I had DDs to myself until they left Home and married.

DH & I both lost our mums around this time of year so no cards for me to buy. Will likely receive a card from DD1 (an inveterate card buyer), not sure about the rest of them, more likely a text if they remember! Will cook for FIL (aged 95) & send flowers to DD1 (new mum to DGS) & try not to worry about the why's & wherefores of the day . from me whatever your situation & also , whatever your preference.

Twice as nice I love the sound of an aunties day! My DD2 is unlikely to become a mum herself but adores DGS.

MissAdventure (((hugs)))

On Mother's Day I will be making a meal for when DH and DS1 get home from the football.

All the other children have families of their own and will be with them. Just as it should be.

Doubtless, I will get cards and presents but my time of being the centre of attention has passed.

We have no parents left.

I'm happy with all that.

I don't understand why anyone would expect any greeting from an inlaw . Mothering Sunday is a day for Mother and child . My mother is dead so no greeting to extend . My two daughters never wrote their husbands names on their cards to me . This year I will receive one card not two. My elder daughter always bought a card with Mothering Sunday on it, she said last year it was getting more and more difficult to find these. This year she isn't here but I have many happy Mothering Sundays to remember . I feel sorrow for my younger daughter who has no children but she is God Mother to her sisters three children and they will send her greetings , they always have . They will find this year difficult though

It's going to be a very difficult day for you Annie and I hope you'll find some comfort in your memories.

Annie

Smileless, yes it will be difficult , my daughter made it such a special day, I see it as a day shared with just mother and child , this will be the first year I will have a Mothers Day card but not a Mothering Sunday card . I so remember when she was eight, she asked her paternal grandmother to book a table for lunch for me, her younger sister and herself in a country hotel, we arrived and the waiter was so sweet to her, greeted her as Miss X, handed her the menu, she looked at it then whispered - Mummy have you brought your purse incase I haven't saved enough. This memory brings such happiness ?

What a beautiful memory Annie; one of many I'm sure.