I've been banned from my stepson's wedding.....

I have been sent a invite to a wedding with beautiful invite that were hand made.The envelope just had our christen names on.I will definitely be going to the wedding in fact i cant wait

Houdini!!!! I know, I didn't get at all why putting Christian names only on an invite was a problem. I have absolutely no idea why anyone would object, and certainly no idea why you would then complain.

Sorry, that should have said Houndi

Eggshells are horrid and should be avoided at all cost. Hence it is normal that you feel relieved not having to go to the wedding.

SS has been waiting for a reason to uninvite you, Phoenix and your critisism about the names on invite was hijacked to that end. You (and your DH) can apologise as much as you want it will never be good enough.

I find many comments here offensive and hurtful to the OP especially the attack on and consequent blame of your DH without knowing the details. If his son has been causing constant trouble in the family with provoking arguments then DH is within his rights to chose his wife over him.

Children can be very cruel to their parents, use them and when they are of no use stop all contact and disappear into the world. Believe me I know quite a few like that. Why should a person have to chose blood over the person who is loving and kind to them especially at a time when said son is particularly obnoxious by uninviting his wife over a laughable matter.

What a horrible thing to say that a man has to be on his children side when they treat his wife badly? Surely you support whoever is treated unfairly.

Why is everybody so upset about the OP mentioning the invitation. It is such a trifle matter something she should be able to comment on. It may cause a slight humph but an argument? There is no way you will ever please your SS - whatever you say will cause offence - until maybe in a few years time when he has step children who will make his life difficult and he grows up.

You have your own family, invite them round on the day and enjoy an eggshell free day.

Silly me. It was posted. So Notanan you're right. He couldn't put "Dad". He should have put the surname then. Most definitely. My children would never call me by my first name. It was perfectly fine to comment on it. Not a reason to fall out.

If it were me I would not want to go. Turn the other cheek and send them a lovely present.

These things happen to all of us one way or another.

Me neither if it's going through the post. If it's hand delivered I would expect mum,dad,aunt Mabel etc on the envelope not first names from family.

Why comment on it when it has already been done? it would be different if your opinion had been asked for. I would either accept with good grace or politely decline the invitation if it bothered me that much.

Relief is a wonderful empowering feeling where one can truly live again -

Have been picking up courage to say this, it is possible they didn’t use your surname because it was once his mothers.

If I had remarried I would never, ever tell my daughters I put their step father before them, the son must have been so hurt.

You didn’t like your husband’s mother and I think your view of his first wife as - diagnosed as austic which explains in part her rude and poisonous nature , very unkind. You also said ‘you wouldn’t stop you husband going to the wedding, you must have thought of doing so to say that.