Withholding Sex

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In case the term “meta-discussion” is not one in your everyday repertoire, I thought a brief exposition might be helpful

The term meta-discussion means a discussion whose subject is a discussion. Meta-discussion explores such issues as the style of a discussion, its participants, the setting in which the discussion occurs, and the relationship of the discussion to other discussions on the same or different topics.
Still awake at the back?

Just like a bit of a meaningful natter (chat, gosssip) over the garden fence , a most enjoyable cacophony , most enjoyable MawBroonsback , ?

Especially if trying to withhold sex at the same time ! ?

Multi- tasking! Every woman’s strength!

Grin

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I've read this thread from top to bottom. Twice. And I still don't understand...... meta discussion? What's that got to do with sex or the lack of it?

On planet Zog, all things are possible..........

Ok, let me see if I get this rosecarmel... Your friend is unhappy in her marriage, and so, among other things, no longer wants sex with her husband. The whole relationship "exhausts" her, but she's settling for just stopping he sex because she doens't want to lose him.

If she were deliberately withholding - or providing - sex to get something specific, I would say that was manipulation. But, as others have said, since it's just a matter of her not wanting sex because he is emotionally abusive, etc. then tha's not manipulation. In fact, I would say, she's trying to protect herself from further emotional manipulation or maybe expressing her unhappiness in a non-verbal way. Or perhaps she's punishing him for his abusive behavior by withholding sex, which I wouldn't blame her for. Or maybe she just doesn't feel all lovey-dovey after being verbally abused. I know I wouldn't.

What concerns me more is that she hasn't sought counseling or doesn't just leave him. Why is she afraid to lose someone who has been so cruel to her? I get her refraining from sex, but, imo, it's a poor substitute for getting away from him, altogether, and seeking a happier life. Has she given any thought to divorce? I hope so.

Starlady, they've decided as a couple to make efforts to work through their issues -

Great news!
We can all stop worrying.