Over sensitive?

Gonegirl That is not what I said. Houndi said how she gave up her job to look after her mother and inferred that is what the son should be prepared to do if that should become necessary. I was pointing out that that would lead to his family living an impoverished life.

Here's the thing: that one unauthorised day off is considered, by some employers, to be an abandonment of the job. Meaning the son loses his job. Meaning it's going to be difficult for him to get a reference as he is seen as being unreliable. Meaning his family suffer.

I don't think Houndi inferred that at all Monica. I think she was simply describing her own situation.

We must agree to differ.

Everyone can't give up work to look after a parent. It's just not practical. And for some it's not a sacrifice at all. But some do less than they could.

I m sorry your having to have an op Anne and can understand your apprehension it might be routine but must still be very scary
I understand you being disappointed I know my daughter who lives nearest me wouldn’t let me go to an op alone however busy she was. And she would insist I stayed the first night at hers If he has three days off now couldn’t he try to change one to Friday
I couldn’t have let my Mum (or Dad) go for an op alone
Not sure how one pick up after an op equates to being at a mums beck and call

Houndi, How lovely that you were in a place of privilege that you were able to do that. Not everyone can.

It sounds Like the sun in the situation had had the previous Friday off when the operation was originally planned. He tried. Things changed, and he burned a vacation day, and now he couldn’t use another. These things happen. I see no evidence at all that he is a neglectful person to his mother.

Anne, I hope all went as it should and that you are feeling well.

I can't quite believe that this thread has got to the OPs son losing his job, leading an impoverished life or giving up his job to look after his mother! The poor bloke just couldn't pick his mum up from hospital one Friday. Unfortunately the OP does not know why, a piece of information that might have helped her to not feel hurt!

Anne you are understandably feeling sensitive and vulnerable. I hope your op goes ok. Maybe have a chat with your son re why he couldn't puck you up if it still worries you. I personally wouldn't if it was me , I would just let it pas and thank hm for what he does do.

..."pick you up...!"