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The meaning of life..........

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Mishap Wed 05-Nov-14 11:07:36

Being unwell at the moment and having to cancel so much of what I normally do has thrown up an interesting thought for discussion. I have always instinctively felt that life only has a point if I am being useful.

I spent a large amount of my life as a social worker, then moved over to working in the arts with a focus on disadvantaged groups. When I am well I am a school governor, I run the village library and book group, I run a community choir and do not charge for it, I do a lot of child care for my GC etc. etc.

I am not trying to blow my own trumpet here, as I am beginning to wonder whether this approach to life is in fact healthy. It is almost as if I do not think that I have the right to just enjoy myself.

I am being forced to sit back and let others do things for me and I find it quite uncomfortable and it is requiring some adjustment on my part.

Do others feel the same?

Is the meaning of life to be useful to others?..........discuss!

Galen Fri 07-Nov-14 11:04:07

I hate chores as well. Never do them if I can find anothermug kind person to do them!

feetlebaum Fri 07-Nov-14 11:31:06

How do you mean - 'the meaning of life'? Surely 'meaning' is a purely human construct, whereas life is a natural phenomenon.

Galen Fri 07-Nov-14 11:53:32

Is modern life natural?

rosequartz Fri 07-Nov-14 12:08:15

soontobe how old do I have to be before I start enjoying chores?

jinglbellsfrocks Fri 07-Nov-14 12:15:04

To be honest, once I shift my lazy sit-upon and actually get on with a chore or two, I do find I'm happier. It's just the getting started.

I think any kind of physical moving about can help your mood.

soontobe Fri 07-Nov-14 13:20:52

soontobe how old do I have to be before I start enjoying chores?

The ones I am talking about are mainly 80+
Not sure how many years you have before you get there grin

Mishap Fri 07-Nov-14 13:59:14

Feetle - what do I mean by the meaning of life? Well I guess I was thinking about how we find meaning (since none is immediately obvious - at least not to me). I am of the opinion that we make our own meaning, but maybe not always the best or healthiest - I do not know. Meaning is a human construct, but I doubt there are many of us who do not seek it in our different ways - some religious, some not. Few are content to simply be. Maybe seeking meaning is natural.

Galen - is modern life natural? Interesting question. If it is not, then when (if ever) was it natural? And is natural necessarily good?

feetlebaum Fri 07-Nov-14 14:02:10

Yes - modern life is natural - even if the circumstances in which it is lived aren't!

merlotgran Fri 07-Nov-14 14:06:06

The over eighties enjoy doing chores???

Wish someone had told my mother that hmm

soontobe Fri 07-Nov-14 14:23:05

I do think that a lot of people are programmed to strive forwards?
And that becomes a meaning, a purpose of life for some?

The people who reach the pinnacle of their lives, often become bored once they have got there. As what do they have to strive for?

pompa Fri 07-Nov-14 16:46:04

I doubt I could call it the pinnacle of my life but.

I will be finishing my current modeling project within the next few days, a three meter radio controlled glider. I have been building this for over a year now, (couple of boat restorations fitted in during that time).

Once I finish it, I doubt the weather will be suitable for test flights.

I will then be like a bear with a sore head until I can decide on the next project. It takes me ages to decide what to design & build, there is nothing that I really need, just what grabs my enthusiasm.

Short term. I have a glider that I dare not fly seriously as it does not have air brakes, so I will be fitting brakes/spoilers, but that will only take a month or so. Flying a glider without brakes/spoilers is like driving a car without brakes. Get in a good thermal and it will disappear into the clouds.

I must have a project to think about and work on, ideally something that will tax my engineering skills but is achievable within my lifetime, preferably 1 - 2 years. (And I can afford).

merlotgran Fri 07-Nov-14 17:05:07

Soontobe, Your last paragraph is summed up in this lovely Neil Sedaka song.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LOhz3KkjTKc

Ana Fri 07-Nov-14 17:16:01

confused

merlotgran Fri 07-Nov-14 17:39:29

Grrrrrr. How did that happen?

I'll try again

merlotgran Fri 07-Nov-14 17:41:46

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3TVyDqZZnyw

That's better.

soontobe Fri 07-Nov-14 17:47:50

I have just watched the penguin video for nothing. havent I?! grin

Now for the Sedaka song.

soontobe Fri 07-Nov-14 17:56:00

Yes, that song sums it up brilliantly.
Thanks for linking.
I have never heard a Neil Sedaka song before blush
Really enjoyed it.

Ana Fri 07-Nov-14 17:59:48

I do love Neil Sedaka. And he's one of the few older artists whose voice hasn't gone to pot...smile

jinglbellsfrocks Fri 07-Nov-14 18:25:50

That is the most boring song I have heard for a long time. grin

Sorry!

jinglbellsfrocks Fri 07-Nov-14 18:26:10

Although I do like Neil Sedaka.

Galen Fri 07-Nov-14 19:12:59

So do I. But not that one. Do you remember sealed with a kiss?

jinglbellsfrocks Fri 07-Nov-14 19:29:21

Oh yes smile "Oh it's gonna be a long, lonely su-u-mmer, But I'll fill the emptiness, I'll send you all my love, in a le-e-tter, And seal it with a kiss"

Lovely.

merlotgran Fri 07-Nov-14 19:38:48

That wasn't Neil Sedaka it was Brian Hyland.

jinglbellsfrocks Fri 07-Nov-14 19:43:35

Well, it says Neil Sedaka!

It sounds a lot better since I've had my dinner.

Galen Fri 07-Nov-14 19:44:19

I remember Sedaka singing it. I was on a walking holiday in the Lake District with three othe girls. Age 17 so too young to drink. It rained the entire time. Never done one since.