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ananimous Wed 11-Dec-19 23:30:07

Should I say something?...
Every year we meet up for a ski-ing holiday with a dozen friends. I'm hosting this year's - and it's a bit awkward, as my best friend- we'll call her: "A" and hubby's best friend: "B" split 2 years ago, and though they are both going with new partners. I know B is still burning a torch for my bestie, and she's not quite over him either, but my hubby says she'll keep her distance, and anyway B's met someone special now, and when B talks of A it's - "She's got an icy soul" and "she tore him apart, never again!" But last year's meet-up was a nightmare. He was all brooding glances at her when we were setting up the decs, and she had worn a piece of past jewelry he'd given her, and kept drawing attention to it all night, giving him longing looks, and him her - then with them both having jealous glances whipping back and forth between them as we prepared the decs, and over the xmas dinner. We all could not help but notice!
I was wondering if it might be a good idea to have a word with one or both of them before going?

mumofmadboys Wed 11-Dec-19 23:41:13

I think it is best to say nothing! Leave it for them to sort out.

Fiachna50 Thu 12-Dec-19 01:46:22

Why bother with a holiday where there is all this drama? Make an excuse and do something you actually enjoy.

Scentia Thu 12-Dec-19 06:16:51

?? my fave Christmas Song and video.

QuaintIrene Thu 12-Dec-19 07:04:02

Tsk..was it the same last Christmas as well ?

BradfordLass72 Thu 12-Dec-19 07:22:57

ananimous

Book them into the local toddlers ski school and the adults can then enjoy a happy Christmas.

Or tell them to 'piste off'. grin

Grannyknot Thu 12-Dec-19 07:26:24

I'd say "Your elephant is too big for the room" grin and un-invite them. You've got 10 other friends to enjoy the holiday with.

sodapop Thu 12-Dec-19 07:29:47

If A is your best friend then surely you can have a word with her and say their behaviour last year made others uncomfortable.
Otherwise ignore them and enjoy the holiday.

wildswan16 Thu 12-Dec-19 07:40:32

Sounds like a few adults still with typical teenage behaviour. I'm glad I'm not coming.

Why would you all want to spend a holiday together with tensions and drama?

MawB Thu 12-Dec-19 09:14:00

If nothing has happened in the last 12 months, it must be an exceedingly slow-burning flame!
Leave it up to them.

QuaintIrene Thu 12-Dec-19 09:21:37

Look at it this way..last Christmas B gave A his heart, right ?
I bet it was only the very next day she gave it away. Little minx.
B just wants to give his heart to someone special, save his tears.
You see and hear of this kind of thing every Christmas.

Squiffy Thu 12-Dec-19 10:21:26

QIrene Spot on! tchwink tchgrin

BazingaGranny Thu 12-Dec-19 11:47:26

I’m confused! Are you hosting a ski-ing holiday for 12-14 people, or are you inviting them all to your house for dinner during or after the holiday?

If it’s just dinner, perhaps put up with their behaviour, but if it’s for a whole holiday, perhaps the unhappy ex-couple might be happier elsewhere. If they are both bringing their new plus one, it might be a dramatic time for everyone! ❄️

jaylucy Thu 12-Dec-19 11:54:53

Well hopefully, the 12 months in between and made them see sense !
Tell me, is friend A the one that arrives with no luggage?

Brownflopsy Thu 12-Dec-19 12:04:54

Hilarious!

Paperbackwriter Thu 12-Dec-19 12:09:21

I've been taking notes here. I reckon there's a book in it..

ananimous Thu 12-Dec-19 12:37:55

Yes, hubby says if they need a father figure talk he'll do it, and take them both outside for a word, maybe they've turned a different corner now, and hopefully our winter chalet will be nothing short of the edge of heaven, without their careless whispers. Happy Christmas! tchgrin

Squiffy Thu 12-Dec-19 12:54:51

You could try putting each in a different corner? . . . but don't let the sun go down before it's sorted.

Nannysprout Thu 12-Dec-19 15:13:40

Please feel free to sing along....

? Last Christmas I gave you my heart but the very next day you gave it away, this year to save me from tears I’ll give it to someone special ?

Merry Christmas Everyone ?

grandtanteJE65 Thu 12-Dec-19 16:05:17

If their behaviour makes you uncomfortable this year, you are justified in telling them so. They will no doubt be offended, but either you have to put up with their behaviour or speak up.

4allweknow Thu 12-Dec-19 16:52:35

Surely others noticed the atmosphere between A and B. Is it is the same this year then they need to be confronted regarding their behaviour when it occurs. It's not on when holidaying with others. They are acting like children, treat them so

TrendyNannie6 Thu 12-Dec-19 16:56:54

Oh nannysprout you did make me laugh,

absthame Thu 12-Dec-19 17:46:59

It sounds to me that a holiday in frosty snow may be quite appropriate grin grin

Maggiemaybe Mon 23-Dec-19 10:15:30

Nice try, HenryKelly!

Reported.

Maggiemaybe Mon 23-Dec-19 22:29:52

Hang on, what's happened to today's HenryKelly post that suggested we might all be better off playing online games for cash on the site he linked to? I didn't imagine it, surely?

Wanders off feeling a little bit spooked.... confused